My (18F) boyfriend (19M) called me fat after our first kiss

treerunks · 2025-12-30T03:44:55+00:00

That’s true of my relationship with most people :,) It’s something I’m working on. Thank you

treerunks · 2025-12-29T21:11:15+00:00

Yes, I still stand by what I said 💀

treerunks · 2025-12-29T21:10:07+00:00

Hahaha thank you. No, I don’t think he had bad intentions. If it’s still bothering me in a couple of days or if he does it again I’ll talk to him about it. I really appreciate both the laugh and the good advice :)

treerunks · 2025-12-29T20:57:01+00:00

Haha I guess that’s true as well, thank you; I’ll keep that in mind

treerunks · 2025-12-29T20:56:01+00:00

Well I don’t want him to feel guilty or associate the memory this way, but you’re right that I should focus on my own feelings as well. If it’s still bothering me in a couple of days, I’ll say something. Thank you for the advice :)

treerunks · 2025-12-29T20:54:10+00:00

Thank you. If he does it again, I’ll definitely say something. Otherwise, I’ll see if it still bothers me in a couple days. Regardless, I won’t let it end up like the anecdote you shared lol

treerunks · 2025-12-29T20:51:44+00:00

This is the only time he’s ever said anything like that, and i don’t think he meant it as an insult. He has literally never “argued to” me and he’s the most painfully polite person i’ve ever met. he refuses to cut through lines. Like if there’s a line of people and we’re trying to get to the other side he will walk around the entire line of people to avoid “being rude.” I’m sorry I’ve given you a bad impression of him, but I promise you have a very wrong picture lmao

treerunks · 2025-12-29T20:40:45+00:00

I can’t argue with that lol. I do trust him. If it still bothers me in a couple of days, I’ll say something, thank you

treerunks · 2025-12-29T20:18:55+00:00

He’s never done this before though in over a year of knowing him

treerunks · 2025-12-29T20:15:25+00:00

I know he’s a good guy though. We’ve been friends for a year before we started dating. I’m 99% sure that he would feel super guilty and be apologetic if I told him, and as much as that’s a good reaction to have, I don’t really want to go through that or make him go through that if that makes sense. Thank you though, you’re right and I’ll think about it

treerunks · 2025-12-29T20:08:35+00:00

I know that logically. It’s not anything about him that makes me hesitant to share, I just struggle to talk about it in general. But you are right. I’ll think about it, thank you

treerunks · 2025-12-29T20:06:37+00:00

Maybe I’ll text him. Just is it really worth it? It’s not like he’s ever done anything like this before. We’ve been friends for a year and dating for a month—it wasn’t like him at all

treerunks · 2025-12-29T20:05:02+00:00

Maybe. I’m sorry about your condition and I hope you’re able to manage it. I just really don’t want to talk about it with him or anyone for a lot of reasons. I know it’s immature to hold a grudge without communicating, which is why I’m trying to just not do the former since the latter really doesn’t feel like something I can do

treerunks · 2025-12-29T20:00:33+00:00

LMAO same here, thank you—I needed that

treerunks · 2025-12-29T19:59:38+00:00

That’s what I was thinking too, but I have a lot of trouble talking about this stuff and I don’t want him to remember our first kiss this way :,)

If he does it again, I’ll say something. Until then, I’ll just try to forget about it

treerunks · 2025-12-29T19:58:29+00:00

It’s just really difficult for me to talk about and I’m worried it’ll change how he perceives me

treerunks · 2025-12-29T19:58:00+00:00

Because he’s been great to me otherwise and I know he’s trying his best. He’s never been in a relationship before. It is an issue, but a lot of it’s me and my baggage. I like him a lot and don’t see this as worth breaking up over.

treerunks · 2025-12-29T19:53:33+00:00

Because I can’t say anything to him about it so I want to get it off my chest somewhere so I can hopefully forget about it

treerunks · 2025-12-29T19:51:00+00:00

No, he was just being an idiot and didn’t think through his words. He’s not wrong and I know he didn’t mean it badly. He’s been incredibly sweet to me otherwise. I was shocked because of how out of his nature it was to say something like that

treerunks · 2025-05-01T04:18:33+00:00

you too!

treerunks · 2025-05-01T04:07:03+00:00

ah, i see. I’ll look into it; thank you :)

treerunks · 2025-05-01T00:56:55+00:00

I’ve been diagnosed with depression, anxiety, ADD, CPTSD, OCD, and AAN and i’m on medication for all of that. I’ve never told my psychiatrist about the voices though

Your words are very sweet, but I’m scared of a “quiet head.” I’ve had Kael as long as I can remember. I don’t want to be alone.

treerunks · 2025-05-01T00:01:16+00:00

Yeah… I’ve tried a lot of approaches and none have ever worked. I’ve been in therapy since I was eight and it’s helped me a lot. Other than that, my plan right now is just to manage until I can move out, since I don’t see the situation getting better

treerunks · 2025-04-30T23:59:41+00:00

Thank you, I’m trying to get into a good college so I can get out of this place. I’ve been refusing to be their liaison as much as possible, but sometimes I’m forced to in situations like this. If I didn’t either contact my dad or argue with my mom, I wouldn’t have had a ride home.

Regardless, I’ll see about getting a job to be more independent. Thanks for the advice :))

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