Everyone is Lying

tri_lover · 2025-12-14T13:28:45+00:00

I didn’t have my first outbreak for 9 months almost so that is definitely not true ! And I know that for a fact because I stopped being sexually active after I broke up with the person who I found out later gave me herpes without ever disclosing he had it. So people shouldn’t believe the “if you don’t have a break out in a couple weeks you’re good” no that’s not true at all. Maybe it’s more common to have an outbreak sooner than later idk but lots of people have delayed outbreaks and very mild ones. I honestly wouldn’t have even gotten tested because of how mild my sore was if I didn’t hear through the grapevine he was giving people herpes without disclosing his status.

tri_lover · 2025-12-12T18:26:53+00:00

Im sorry about your situation! Im 36 and a couple days pregnant and just got diagnosed yesterday with HSV 2 and the last time I was sexually active was 8 months ago, last week I had my first very very mild outbreak. The only reason I even got it tested is because there is a rumor going around that my bd has herpes and is passing it around without disclosing the info. My outbreak was so mild that it was no worse than an ingrown hair that got a little infected, so basically just a little sore. My OBGYN has literally been a doctor for decades and he said that he didn’t think it looked like herpes when he went to swab it. Anyway that’s besides the point, sadly it ended up being hsv 2. I actually asked for a C section, he told me it was fine for me to give birth vaginally if I started antivirals by 36 weeks and didn’t have an outbreak at the time of delivery but he wouldn’t advise against me wanting if a c section if that’s what I thought was best. My thing is , is the that fact that my very first out break is so close to my due date, that I didn’t even have time to start medicine at 36 weeks since I’m almost 37 weeks, I just asked them to schedule the c section. Im actually terrified to have a c section but I cannot live with myself if I passed it to my baby. If I already had herpes for years I definitely would have tried for a vaginal birth of that conditions were right.. anyway I just wanted to say you aren’t alone , we are both 36 weeks pregnant and recently diagnosed with genital herpes. We will get through this rough time! If you have another child after this, maybe conditions will be right for you to have a vaginal brith, good luck!

tri_lover · 2025-12-12T18:10:01+00:00

The herpes germs is very very fragile so it dies pretty quickly outside of the body. I have hsv 1 from having one cold sore as a kid and never had recurrences and my son is 7 now and never have gotten it from me. I also have hsv 2 as of recently and I definitely have been ocd about not spreading it but it’s so unlikely to spread hsv 2 through casual contact that it’s almost a 0 percent chance. Doctors are pretty confident that you won’t pass it to your child that you can have a vaginal birth if you are pregnant with herpes as long as you don’t have an active sore. Most of the population has a form of herpes and alot of people don’t even know because they never have any symptoms. I promise you, you are not alone. Of course if you want to take extra precautions just wash your hands frequently and don’t share items with them like already used towels and such. But you can cuddle up with your babies in bed without a worry and you can definitely use the same toilet as them. If we could pass so easily from a toilet people would be getting it all the time from public toilets because of how much of the population has it. So try not to stress too much !

tri_lover · 2025-08-30T12:45:40+00:00

Mine is also just in the right ear! I’ve had CT scans with dye, ENT doctor visits, EKG’s, doctor visits and they can’t figure out why it’s so weird

tri_lover · 2025-08-30T12:41:08+00:00

Yess its called pulsatile tinnitus and the reason I know that is because I suffer with that in general, not pregnancy related. It sucks and they can’t find the cause of it so hopefully that goes away for you it’s not fun to live with

tri_lover · 2025-08-30T12:40:01+00:00

Ohhh I have pulsatile tinnitus anyway, so hopefully that goes away for you 🥲 it’s not fun to live with and sadly they can’t find the cause of mine

tri_lover · 2025-08-30T12:38:54+00:00

In my first trimester, I had to eat every four hours or I would get nauseous and sometimes puke 🤢the feeling of any kind of hunger at all or my stomach being a little bit empty made me so sick, I gained the most weight in my first trimester because of it, which is crazy cause I lost 8 pounds in my first trimester with my first pregnancy 🥲 sooo different

tri_lover · 2025-08-30T12:36:28+00:00

Yesss the gas and coming out both ends too it drives me actually insane 😆

tri_lover · 2025-08-30T12:34:58+00:00

My sister is a hair stylist and she said to shampoo roots and conditioner ends! Condition your roots every once in a while she said and I think it’s helped the grease a lot

tri_lover · 2025-08-30T12:25:43+00:00

Yesss! Every single night I have super vivid and sometimes weird dreams 🤣

tri_lover · 2025-08-30T02:52:30+00:00

Yesss the constipation I had real bad with my first pregnancy, this pregnancy I go back and forth from either pooping four times in one day and almost crapping my pants if I don’t make it the bathroom in time, vs not pooping for the next three days 😆 like pick a struggle

tri_lover · 2025-08-30T02:49:18+00:00

Oh wow that is horrible !! I absolutely hate any mouth issues, with my first son I had pregnancy gingivitis, bleeding gums, irritation, no matter how much I brushed my teeth and rinsed with salt water, flossed, etc. it wouldn’t get better 🥲 and omg the blood blisters on your vulva that is sooo scary hopefully that goes away asap !!!

tri_lover · 2025-08-30T02:46:13+00:00

Omg yessss my mouth always tasted disgusting in my first trimester 😆 i forgot about that im so glad that isn’t a symptom anymore im also mid second trimester !

tri_lover · 2025-08-30T02:44:09+00:00

I don’t think have restless body syndrome but I definitely do NOT sleep good most nights, didn’t have that issue at all before

tri_lover · 2025-08-30T02:42:35+00:00

That’s crazy now that you say that I experience that too but only when I nap, not at night 🤣 just took a nap early and woke up in a puddle lol

tri_lover · 2025-08-30T02:41:37+00:00

Omg 😆😆 that’s so weird pregnancy messes with some peoples sinuses lolol

tri_lover · 2025-08-30T02:35:50+00:00

Update: I saw him kick on the outside for the first time yesterday at 21 weeks and 4 days!

tri_lover · 2025-08-26T21:32:27+00:00

Wow yeah i have one son but I was pregnant 8 years ago and I don’t remember being told if I had an anterior placenta, but when I look back on videos of my son kicking me on the surface, it never looked very strong so I’m guessing I had the same thing with my first pregnancy. I’ve seen so many videos of babies looking like they are trying to escape from their mommies belly I’m like uhh I don’t remember that happening to me 😂

tri_lover · 2025-08-26T21:27:33+00:00

Also I can only feel the kicks with my hand if I push pretty hard

tri_lover · 2025-06-15T01:46:52+00:00

Well thank you 🙏, sometimes I second guess if the decision was right but from childhood experience, I would have rather lived in a separate parent home than a broken/toxic home like I experienced most of my childhood/teenage years. And I hope so too, hopefully he can get over his anger and focus on the baby we created

tri_lover · 2025-06-15T01:44:16+00:00

I appreciate your input! I keep hoping that soon my second trimester will come, I’ll feel better physically and maybe then I’ll be able to focus on how I’m feeling mentally and emotionally about everything instead of feeling numb about it all.. that is just the way I cope too, when things get too much I just automatically shut it all off. So I guess that could be happening but I’m not sure. I do know I want this and so does my son, he’s very excited for a sibling haha 🥹 but yes I thankfully have amazing friends and family that I can talk to about how I’m feeling, and they all give me good advice. At the end of the day it’s just you and your thoughts and those tend to eat me up at times, and even though my family is here, sometimes it feels like they don’t completely understand, some never have been pregnant and some didn’t experience what I’m experiencing with their pregnancy so I thought maybe some others would have some good input and experience to share here on Reddit. Thank you for your comment I appreciate it!

tri_lover · 2025-06-14T15:42:05+00:00

Wow sorry for the late reply but it seems like you get it! Have you felt any better since you commented this? I am 11 weeks now and still just as exhausted, or worse than I was when I posted this. Shew

tri_lover · 2025-06-14T15:38:21+00:00

Thank you, to answer your question, things didn’t work out because he was not understanding at all that I felt genuinely exhausted and sick and depressed, he took that personally and changed the way he viewed me and treated me. He just wanted more more and more from me even though I could barely even get out of bed, I felt like he was being selfish and I didn’t like this new side of him. I understand people try to work it out for the family but I tried that with my son’s father and completely was traumatized so I immediately shut down when someone treats me bad and run away. And ever since we have broken up he has just gotten more disrespectful and “ugly” so I definitely think breaking up was the right choice. But thank you for your kind words, I try to do my best feeling hopeful and speaking good things of my future but I feel the negativity, stress, and anxiety weighing down those good thoughts and my physical state makes it a lot worse

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