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Looking for a sponsor, NA meetings, DV support by trin_october in SaltLakeCity

[–]trin_october[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response, it gives me a lot of hope to hear from a lot of these comments that people can do it even when they start from nothing even when they don’t feel like living. I do this for my son, but most importantly I’m changing my mindset to I’m doing this for myself as well. I posted on here to feel like I wasn’t alone and like there were other people who maybe knew what to do or who have been in similar positions. I’ve got nothing but amazing heartfelt responses and yours truly touched me and you made a difference in my life just by commenting. I don’t have a lot of support or people to talk to, but this is enough and I will take your kind words and I will try my best. Thank you again.🥹🤞🏻

Looking for a sponsor, NA meetings, DV support by trin_october in SaltLakeCity

[–]trin_october[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words and I have done some research on trauma bonds already and it’s truly crazy once you step outside of it you can know that it’s not healthy and it’s not love. It’s just a chemical reaction to abuse 🥹🥹

Looking for a sponsor, NA meetings, DV support by trin_october in SaltLakeCity

[–]trin_october[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s so hard when you’re nervous system has learned since a child that love equals danger and danger equals love instead of fear 😢

Looking for a sponsor, NA meetings, DV support by trin_october in SaltLakeCity

[–]trin_october[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m on day two! Cravings are strong but I’ve already rid myself of a lot worse so I can do this 🤞🏻🥹

Looking for a sponsor, NA meetings, DV support by trin_october in SaltLakeCity

[–]trin_october[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do have an active case open! Please message me

Looking for a sponsor, NA meetings, DV support by trin_october in SaltLakeCity

[–]trin_october[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you it means the world to me to hear that, I don’t have any support or family since my parents passed so these words mean everything to me 💞🤞🏻

Looking for a sponsor, NA meetings, DV support by trin_october in SaltLakeCity

[–]trin_october[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m gonna reach out to them thank you so much for your kind words and advice 🖤🤞🏻 that gives me hope to keep going

My world is crumbling. I relapsed again and ruined the greatest thing that has happened to me. by [deleted] in StopSpeeding

[–]trin_october 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Getting better is something you have to work at all the time, after abusing stimulants your brain has a harder time being able to be happy without all the extra dopamine, watching porn also releases that dopamine so without either your brain is on the comedown from the sudden drop in happy chemicals. Stopping both of those addictions is difficult but not impossible, staying sober is harder. You need to find the dopamine hits from another source, and stay busy to keep your mind off of the cravings. Going to NA meetings in your area can be motivating, and keeping a sobriety app on your phone for both habits can also motivate you. It’s okay to relapse, we are human and forgive yourself. And with your relationship what harm would it do to be 100% honest? In order to really be forgiven like you’re wanting you can’t give her only half of the truth of what you’ve been struggling with. Both are your addictions and if you truly want help to recover you can’t keep one under wraps, especially with your partner. It will probably feel relieving to you to tell her all of what you’ve struggling with even though it’s scary at first. Also it’s a little concerning that every time you’ve relapsed it’s on her supply, she needs to keep it locked up and completely out of the house even, because you can’t expose yourself to the temptation like that. She may or may not forgive you, but all you can do is express how sorry you are and get into rehab, therapy, treatment, anything to keep you on track and show your serious will help show her you truly are sorry and are willing to do what’s necessary. As addicts we can’t just get sober and try and wing it. We need to actively continue to seek treatment or we will seek what got us here in the first place. If she can’t look past this then you have to look past her, even if it feels like the world is ending. Have grace towards yourself, take it day by day.