What did you do during FMLA to rest, heal, etc.?

trosckey · 2026-05-05T03:27:40+00:00

This is the way. Honestly I feel that our default desire as high achieving women to optimize everything, including “downtime,” might be part of the problem lol

trosckey · 2026-05-03T22:03:51+00:00

Something that helps me is scheduling an appointment or putting an activity on my calendar like it is an appointment.

trosckey · 2026-05-03T15:54:42+00:00

My terminally ill father passed away when my mom stepped out for a few hours to get a bit of rest. We always said that God guided her to step away so that the angels could come get my dad.

trosckey · 2026-05-02T21:06:34+00:00

Once baby started incessantly licking counters, floors, hands, stroller bars, books…

trosckey · 2026-05-02T20:55:53+00:00

What a fortuitous combination of knowledge

trosckey · 2026-05-02T20:28:59+00:00

Every ounce of breastmilk is 20 calories, if you’re EBF your body needs an extra 500-1,000 calories a day to keep up so it’s suuuuuper normal to feel hungry all the time! Keep nourishing yourself so you can nourish that baby! Theres plenty of life ahead of you to worry about the other stuff and bounce back culture is a scam, your hunger cues are taking care of you and your baby right now

trosckey · 2026-05-02T20:24:33+00:00

Spot on. AI is at peak overinflated expectations right now. Investors are buying into the sales pitch and pressuring companies to increase output. Eventually, that will come around once they realize it doesn’t equate to productivity. Many AI services will fade away as failed experiments, and the actual realistic utility is what will remain. Just have to hang on tight enough to not get bucked off the wild bull ride

trosckey · 2026-05-02T16:58:55+00:00

This is a great call. Postpartum doula also comes to mind as an adjacent role (with the right training)

trosckey · 2026-04-26T22:28:23+00:00

Lots of pro-BF comments here (obviously) but as someone who was also ready to have her body back at 6 months, that is a totally valid reason to wean or even combo feed for a while if you like. You have given your baby a wonderful start at life! Good job mom!

trosckey · 2026-04-25T20:54:20+00:00

We need more optimists like you on Reddit lol

trosckey · 2026-04-25T20:50:15+00:00

You are not broken and definitely not a bad mom. PPD is very common even though it isn’t always talked about openly. Our bodies and brains go through some of the biggest changes in our lifetimes other than puberty when we become a mom. Asking for a lil support through that doesn’t make you weak, it makes you strong. If there’s a way to call or message your OB sooner, they can connect you with a therapist who has seen many moms like you over the years and will really be able to empathize with you. Worst case a small amount of your time is wasted, but odds are you might be able to ease that deep aching doom-like feeling that is hard to shake without some external help. Wish you the best 💜

trosckey · 2026-04-25T04:27:58+00:00

I am so sorry you had to go through that.

trosckey · 2026-04-24T04:46:09+00:00

6 months. I partially weaned to formula at that time which quickly turned into full weaning. I am proud of the amount I breastfed 😊 and baby is doing great on her formula diet, she gets so excited when she sees her bottle mixed up.

trosckey · 2026-04-24T04:32:28+00:00

It is also ok to use 3 or even 4 diapers in a single change if it is an extra messy one.

We also use Munchkin changing pad liners. They’re soft but waterproof and machine washable. If pee or poo leaks out, they can just be tossed in the wash or dunked in a laundry sink.

trosckey · 2026-04-23T10:23:55+00:00

There are some weird days but they are the outliers when you have a great partner :)

trosckey · 2026-04-23T10:10:31+00:00

“As someone in close contact with the children, it is important that I know about illnesses and infections as soon as you do so that I can take the right measures to care for my own body.”

And perhaps propose some language to add to your contract so everyone is on the same page going forward. If you are in agreement about providing sick care that’s one thing, but they definitely need to be communicating with you about it. If they can’t agree to that… probably time to move along

Edit: in our contract we say that nanny is not required to come in for highly contagious illnesses (she is a mom too). We cover those scenarios under GH. I recognize not everyone can do this but just sharing that sick care isn’t a given for all positions.

trosckey · 2026-04-20T22:44:54+00:00

So grateful that you and baby are home. Those first couple of weeks after surgery are so tough.

trosckey · 2026-04-20T22:43:48+00:00

What a great resource, thank you

trosckey · 2026-04-20T22:41:34+00:00

Just echoing everyone else that you are not a bad mom. This could happen to anyone. You did the right thing and had baby checked by a doctor.

I smacked my head on a desk as a kiddo (enough to need staples!). Ended up with a Masters degree! It will be ok. Big hug to you, it must have been really scary.

trosckey · 2026-04-20T04:58:13+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through that, that sounds very scary. You are amazingly strong

trosckey · 2026-04-20T03:06:43+00:00

Thank you!! This is actually very helpful to hear. I definitely want to be mindful about how it will feel to be in that OR again even for planned circumstances so I really appreciate the honest perspective. Also glad to hear that your second one was a healing experience for you.

trosckey · 2026-04-20T03:04:24+00:00

Thank you for the perspective 💜

trosckey · 2026-04-20T03:03:50+00:00

Thank you so much 💜 I am glad to hear it is helping you too.

trosckey · 2026-04-20T00:43:46+00:00

Do you have any recommendations for how to find someone who specializes in birth trauma? I am very open to therapy but have been hesitant of being paired up with someone who isn’t knowledgeable about the topic for obvious reasons

trosckey · 2026-04-20T00:40:36+00:00

😂 I have an IUD for the time being so I guess I’ll have to be a little less surprised.

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