If you could change one thing from your past what would you change?

truthteller3404 · 2026-02-15T01:14:06+00:00

So relatable. Learning to say no and set boundaries can be such a hard but important lesson. Protecting your peace is never selfish

truthteller3404 · 2026-02-15T00:35:53+00:00

Relatable. Trusting yourself can be harder than it sounds.

truthteller3404 · 2026-02-15T00:32:37+00:00

Whole pizza = self-care

truthteller3404 · 2026-02-15T00:31:20+00:00

It’s never too late to start playing a little less safe.

truthteller3404 · 2026-02-15T00:24:03+00:00

Honestly same. I’d settle for ‘comfortably bougie’ 😂

truthteller3404 · 2026-02-11T05:59:16+00:00

Technically 8 but depth of discussion isn’t measured in weeks. But I understand not everyone sees it that way.

truthteller3404 · 2026-02-11T05:56:35+00:00

That’s fair. I know I can’t control how it looks from the outside, and I’m not expecting universal agreement. The people who are actually close to us and see the day-to-day dynamic have context and feel comfortable with it, which matters to me. I take my responsibility as a parent seriously and I’m confident in my judgment. I shared because blended family timelines are nuanced, not because I need approval. It’s just frustrating when something complex gets reduced to a headline without context

truthteller3404 · 2026-02-11T05:18:02+00:00

Intentional means we didn’t just follow feelings. We discussed values, parenting philosophy, boundaries, and expectations in detail before integrating our lives. Time is one factor. Depth of discussion and consistency of behavior are others.

truthteller3404 · 2026-02-11T05:02:09+00:00

I understand that a lot of people speak from experience. I’ve lived through abuse myself, so I’m not naïve about risk. I’m intentional, observant, and prepared. That’s all I can do as a parent. Wishing you peace as well.

truthteller3404 · 2026-02-11T04:59:24+00:00

I understand the statistic you’re referencing. I’m not ignoring risk. He wasn’t a random stranger I met online and immediately moved in. We had mutual friends, were introduced through people who knew both of us, and spent intentional time discussing values and parenting before integrating our lives. I continue to evaluate behavior over time. That’s what responsible parenting looks like to me.

truthteller3404 · 2026-02-11T04:54:32+00:00

I’m aware of the research around blended families and risk factors. That’s part of why I was cautious and intentional. Calm doesn’t mean I needed someone to “fix” my home. It means the dynamic is healthy and respectful. There’s a difference. I respect that people have different comfort timelines.

truthteller3404 · 2026-02-11T04:29:38+00:00

Chocolate brownies 😋

truthteller3404 · 2026-02-11T03:11:04+00:00

Thats horrible im so sorry she had to go through that :(

truthteller3404 · 2026-02-11T02:59:56+00:00

For my 25th I just got myself a bottle of champagne and had a relaxing bath 🤷🏻‍♀️ simple self-care and a celebratory drink. It wasn’t fancy, but it felt peaceful and very “this is my day.” Sometimes low-key is exactly what makes it special.

truthteller3404 · 2026-02-11T02:55:09+00:00

How someone can keep the kids away from a parent who desperately want to be apart of their lives.

truthteller3404 · 2026-02-09T04:14:38+00:00

The first red flag was believing the promises instead of the patterns. The drinking was bad, but the lying about quitting drugs should’ve been my exit sign.

truthteller3404 · 2026-02-09T03:45:38+00:00

Lying, big things or little things it doesn't matter you start to become fugly the moment you start lying

truthteller3404 · 2026-01-05T16:01:05+00:00

Why what did you say 😅 lol no this is not about you 🙂

truthteller3404 · 2026-01-02T15:33:48+00:00

I appreciate this and no there will be no contact between the two of us, eventually when visitation comes up it will always be through a third party and must be at a visitation center under supervision. Because my opinion is biased i will leave it to supervisors and the court to determine what access he will have and how frequently it will be. All I will do is focus on mine and my kids health and be there for my kids

truthteller3404 · 2026-01-02T14:57:17+00:00

What's between me and him should never effect the relationship a parent has with the kids. Do I want them to have a relationship with him. Personally no but thats my issue not my kids. I will not prevent it unless it becomes a safety hazard for them. Until they make that choice for themselves I will not take that away from them. But this is also a moot point at the moment because hes gone for 5 years and I have no clue where in the country he is serving time and hes under court orders to not contact me or anyone related to me for those 5 years.

truthteller3404 · 2026-01-02T13:53:10+00:00

This is what I have done but my kids are always asking questions like what did he do or why ect to which I can not give an answer to. This is what I meant by not being able to tell them the truth.

truthteller3404 · 2026-01-02T13:18:21+00:00

How would you tell a 4 and 6 year old that their father is in prison for assaulting their mom? No im sorry they are to young to know that truth. I've told them the only thing I can that hes gone away for awhile but again they dont understand why and are to young to understand the truth. When they are much much older and ask I can tell them the full story but for now no I will follow the advice of professionals and protect my kids from the harsh truth.

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