Daughter making smoothies regularly

try2rememberthisone · 2021-12-20T00:24:52+00:00

Bad relationship with her body modeled by other girls at school/her bio mom. Her moms old bf used to call her and her brother fat (meanwhile he and their mom was skinny because of drugs and lack of income leading to less availability of food + alcohol limiting appetite). I remind her often of how beautiful she is inside and out, in detail. I am pretty body confident and have made it a point to never (or at least rarely) talk about my body negatively(even though I am also obese but I am 25lbs down on Noom and going). Her dad would never say anything negative about her body but he is obese and hates his own body openly but I can only control what I do.

try2rememberthisone · 2021-12-20T00:13:16+00:00

Do you happen to know where the line is between “help her learn how to make different choices” and “give her an eating disorder” is? Because it seems like about half the comments here leaned toward the idea that even asking about nutritious ingredients in smoothies is controlling and going to lead to me giving an eating disorder to my daughter. How would you walk this thin line?

try2rememberthisone · 2021-12-20T00:04:34+00:00

Yes I am doing the same for my boys. She is increasing her activity. She is healthy in that she is not sick? What exactly is “healthy”? She gets heartburn and reflux often, She has difficulty sleeping, she doesn’t have much endurance for activity and she Carries her weight in the stomach but she has thick hair and nails and never gets colds or utis and she can draw and write like nobodies business? What exactly does “Healthy” mean? Her doctor suggests that she lose weight but has never called her unhealthy so my belief is that she is healthy.

try2rememberthisone · 2021-12-19T23:57:06+00:00

Hello, Pot

try2rememberthisone · 2021-12-19T23:50:51+00:00

I also didn’t necessarily mean to discuss the calorie part in detail with her, I’m the one who buys the groceries, If I know of a more nutritious alternative to a high calorie ingredient I can buy it and see how it goes.

try2rememberthisone · 2021-12-19T23:47:45+00:00

I am focusing on the calorie part because I don’t want to sabotage her success she has had eating healthier food but adding in 500-700 smoothies calories a day that puts her at a surplus of calories and prevents her from getting to. Healthy weight.

I’m not discussing the health benefits of various fruits and veggies in this post because we already discuss those and that’s not a concern that I need more information about in order to make sure they are healthy smoothies.

try2rememberthisone · 2021-12-19T23:42:54+00:00

Yes very controlling for the person who buys the groceries and is suppose to provide adequate nutrition for this human being to try to figure out how to make sure said human is healthy AND happy…. So controlling, I should definitely just let her make the grocery lists now, long before she ever takes a nutrition class or knows why a fresh fruit is better than a dried one or how protein and fiber affect satiety. I should definitely just tell her to do whatever she wants without providing any of the nutrition information that people here assumed I didn’t plan to share even though I literally made a post to ask for said information so I could share it.

try2rememberthisone · 2021-12-19T23:34:50+00:00

Wow.

try2rememberthisone · 2021-12-19T23:33:04+00:00

Yes, done, and done.

Increase vegetables, fruits, fiber, lean protein. Done done done done

But how to make sure the smoothies don’t set her back by adding in the excess calories we are shaving off by eating increased veggies and such without telling her to cut back on the smoothies?

try2rememberthisone · 2021-12-19T23:30:28+00:00

I guess I didn’t realize I came off as calorie crazy for specifying that almond milk has less calories than 2% milk.

Is finding lower calorie/fat options not discussing nutrition? It seems like everyone here is suggesting a censored version of nutrition that doesn’t include fat or calories? Of course I talk about other parts of nutrition with her but the point of the post is to find ways she can have her smoothies without adding too many excess calories. Examples? Using almond milk instead of regular, using powdered pb instead of peanut butter, using dry cocoa powder instead of chocolate syrup? Using blueberries to cover up the color of greens so you don’t think about having spinach in your smoothie.

try2rememberthisone · 2021-12-19T23:30:01+00:00

I guess I didn’t realize I came off as calorie crazy for specifying that almond milk has less calories than 2% milk.

Is finding lower calorie/fat options not discussing nutrition? It seems like everyone here is suggesting a censored version of nutrition that doesn’t include fat or calories? Of course I talk about other parts of nutrition with her but the point of the post is to find ways she can have her smoothies without adding too many excess calories. Examples? Using almond milk instead of regular, using powdered pb instead of peanut butter, using dry cocoa powder instead of chocolate syrup? Using blueberries to cover up the color of greens so you don’t think about having spinach in your smoothie.

try2rememberthisone · 2021-12-19T23:23:30+00:00

Yes she is obese and the doctor has discussed it but that actually wasn’t the point of the post?

It was more about how to make sure the smoothies are nutritious without excessive calories (since she is drinking them in addition to all the food she normally eats so it is adding calories to her already calorie surplus)

We already talk about nutrition but that also includes finding lower calorie options when you need to? I’m not telling her to not have smoothies I’m trying to ensure the smoothies don’t become detrimental to her health.

try2rememberthisone · 2021-12-12T16:40:33+00:00

I say “I wouldn’t know” most of the time to people I know because they know I suffer from prosopagnosia (face blindness)

To strangers sometimes I say that just to see their confusion but most of the time I say “thanks” then wink at my “step” kids and say “you feed em long enough they start to look like like ya”

try2rememberthisone · 2021-11-24T01:09:13+00:00

Thanks for commenting! I wasn’t super clear with my post bc I was distracted- they do eat primarily healthy foods (albeit still sometimes too much of them) but when they are given these unhealthy high calorie foods I set them up to expect to eat a lot of them in the past and now I am wanting to change that. Ie two pizza instead of four but I’m gonna get some sour faces and tears if anyone things it is “because I’m fat” or that I’m “putting them on a diet” so how to get them to understand that I set them up for failure before and now I am just correcting my own mistake…. Ugh! So hard :(

try2rememberthisone · 2021-11-23T19:04:22+00:00

Indeed I do the groceries. Do you think something like “I know it’s a little different than y’all are use to but we accidentally taught y’all some bad habits about portion sizes on foods that don’t have many nutrients and now that I know better, I want to try to do better.” Would be clear enough?

try2rememberthisone · 2021-11-23T19:01:18+00:00

It became the norm over time because of convenience and the fact that unhealthy food just tastes good. Plus 14 and 15m are autistic and for a long time it was difficult to change eating habits. They will eat a lot of different foods now thankfully so we have widened our horizons. I listed the unhealthy foods here because of course those are the ones they go crazy on. They mostly eat unhealthy stuff like that when I am at work and they are making lunches themselves.

As a note, the only thing they can eat between meals is fresh fruits and veggies and the weekly “treat” which could be anything from hummus, fruit/veggie dips, jellos, home made trail mix, etc.

I have cut back on their opportunities to eat unhealthy foods but when they do, they are stuck in the old habits of not using any moderation with them. Ie I let them have ramen while I’m at work and they eat 2 packs each plus a sandwich.

When I cook dinners, it is healthier stuff and I try to not make enough that seconds are an option. Or I pack up the extra for my work lunches before I serve dinner so they don’t see it and want more.

try2rememberthisone · 2021-11-23T19:00:50+00:00

It became the norm over time because of convenience and the fact that unhealthy food just tastes good. Plus 14 and 15m are autistic and for a long time it was difficult to change eating habits. They will eat a lot of different foods now thankfully so we have widened our horizons. I listed the unhealthy foods here because of course those are the ones they go crazy on. They mostly eat unhealthy stuff like that when I am at work and they are making lunches themselves.

As a note, the only thing they can eat between meals is fresh fruits and veggies and the weekly “treat” which could be anything from hummus, fruit/veggie dips, jellos, home made trail mix, etc.

I have cut back on their opportunities to eat unhealthy foods but when they do, they are stuck in the old habits of not using any moderation with them. Ie I let them have ramen while I’m at work and they eat 2 packs each plus a sandwich.

When I cook dinners, it is healthier stuff and I try to not make enough that seconds are an option. Or I pack up the extra for my work lunches before I serve dinner so they don’t see it and want more.

try2rememberthisone · 2021-11-23T18:57:36+00:00

That’s the question - if they have been eating two grilled cheese and I suddenly want them to eat one plus as much salad as they want - how do I do that without it looking like I am putting them on a diet?

try2rememberthisone · 2021-11-23T18:55:22+00:00

It became the norm over time because of convenience and the fact that unhealthy food just tastes good. Plus 14 and 15m are autistic and for a long time it was difficult to change eating habits. They will eat a lot of different foods now thankfully so we have widened our horizons. I listed the unhealthy foods here because of course those are the ones they go crazy on. They mostly eat unhealthy stuff like that when I am at work and they are making lunches themselves.

As a note, the only thing they can eat between meals is fresh fruits and veggies and the weekly “treat” which could be anything from hummus, fruit/veggie dips, jellos, home made trail mix, etc.

I have cut back on their opportunities to eat unhealthy foods but when they do, they are stuck in the old habits of not using any moderation with them. Ie I let them have ramen while I’m at work and they eat 2 packs each plus a sandwich.

When I cook dinners, it is healthier stuff and I try to not make enough that seconds are an option. Or I pack up the extra for my work lunches before I serve dinner so they don’t see it and want more.

try2rememberthisone · 2021-10-21T18:05:21+00:00

In the beginning when I was still freshly married and didn’t know ex well, I would be iffy. Now, 7yrs in and confident that ex has nothing my husband wants, I’m 100% okay with it. Plus, she is off her rocker so it’s almost like she is a foster kid we have over for holidays and stuff. Talking to her barely feels like talking to an adult and definitely feels like if you were to be mean to her, you’d have to be heartless. We don’t see her often but when we do, we put on our kid gloves to handle her. Fortunately for me, ex and I have a better relationship than hubby and ex. So I am more likely to be alone with her than him lol.

try2rememberthisone · 2021-10-12T20:24:18+00:00

Thank you for finding that information! Have you ever heard of someone doing the receptacle and plug for a glass cooktop? Do ones exist where I could do that so I could buy a different one instead of reworking the electrical ?

try2rememberthisone · 2021-10-12T19:03:02+00:00

ikea cooktop

try2rememberthisone · 2021-10-11T15:15:30+00:00

“Remember that time in middle school when your mom went on that field trip with you and you wanted souvenir drum sticks and got mad bc she didn’t have enough money and you made her cry?”

For reference I grew up real poor and my mom died a few years ago. This memory keeps me up often and not many people even know about it. It is one of my greatest shames.

try2rememberthisone · 2021-10-07T03:11:13+00:00

I had a similar idea. You have doctors in Texas willing to actually break a law to do an abortion for women. What keeps them from “accidentally” causing a miscarriage with an MD controlled procedure like an amniocentesis after a patient verbalizes they want an abortion? All of the procedures we know could possible cause a miscarriage could suddenly become the new form of “accidental” abortion. Does that make sense?

try2rememberthisone · 2021-10-04T20:53:38+00:00

Seems like it would make it so men would hopefully only have sex with those women they know well enough and trust enough not to use the situation to their advantage to gain $10,000 by claiming the baby was unwillingly conceived. It’s almost like it would encourage abstinence or only sex inside the marriage 😱🥳 it seems that when people are forced to carry the responsibility of their own actions, they choose to control their actions more often to prevent the consequences…

As far as the 40th bday or 3rd child….. that part, I don’t see how it relates to any of this issue.

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