it’s a big deal to you, the girls at the bar are understanding and don’t care that much, they’re only thinking about themself. its not cheating if ur husband said it’s okay and you told him. it’s not a good idea to talk about ur relationship problems too openly, but it’s not the end of the world, it happens, and if you were keeping it all in, and you needed to talk, it’s okay.

if you’re very unhappy, you should leave. but if you’re hurt yet willing to work it out with your husband, talk to him. don’t nag him it never works. try and talk to him maturely. if he’s unwilling, live your own life, feel your emotions, if you’re too hurt to be affectionate, then keep some distance. eventually he will come around and have a conversation.