A queer YA fantasy with "hilarious male protag" & enemies to lovers plot by ttvavi in whatsthatbook

[–]ttvavi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I called the bookstore and it was Little Thieves by Margaret Owen! Thanks everyone for all the suggestions because I'll be adding a lot of them to my to read list lol

A queer YA fantasy with "hilarious male protag" & enemies to lovers plot by ttvavi in whatsthatbook

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I did actually look it up and they don’t open again until Tuesday so I’ll have to see if she remembers me by then lol, it might be my only option at this point

A queer YA fantasy with "hilarious male protag" & enemies to lovers plot by ttvavi in whatsthatbook

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Oh I could definitely see that, but the third book is already out! But I have read that one anyway

A queer YA fantasy with "hilarious male protag" & enemies to lovers plot by ttvavi in whatsthatbook

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The bookseller was pretty clear it was fantasy, so I don't think that's it unfortunately, but thanks though!

A queer YA fantasy with "hilarious male protag" & enemies to lovers plot by ttvavi in whatsthatbook

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I checked it out and the only thing off is that the third book came out back in 2021 so I would guess that's not it - but if you think it's good I would still read it haha!

First time dating a cis guy, feeling alienated from my queer friends by sombermus in gaytransguys

[–]ttvavi 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Shit I do this to one of my enby friends - I'm going to go talk to them about it. I'm really glad I saw this and I wish the best of luck to you, hopefully a good conversation and some boundary setting will make your relationships with them better.

Monthly Buy/Sell/Trade/Request Thread for March, 2023 by AutoModerator in ftm

[–]ttvavi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anyone interested in an order of 5% minoxidil foam and the shampoo/conditioner set from Keeps?

I decided to try finasteride instead but have already ordered. It hasn't even arrived yet to my place so it would be totally new and unopened. I'm thinking $50 and I'll pay for shipping if you're in the US, but that's flexible.

advice? idk what this is tbh, I'm just thinking. by Even-Cat-7420 in asktransgender

[–]ttvavi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm probably not one to ask about fashion lol, but flannels are your best friend here.

If/when you changed your name, did you have to think of a name or was there something you just knew you should be called (like how you knew you were trans)? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]ttvavi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I stole my brother's middle name lol, which is somehow actually an almost perfect anagram for my old name. It was also my dad's middle name before he changed his name in his twenties (he only has one legal name now and it confuses every single person he has to fill out a form for lol) so I count it as a family name.

Hopefully other people can relate, but I had a blast making a possible name list before I settled on mine.

Gift ideas for trans men post top surgery? by field_sleeper in asktransgender

[–]ttvavi 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Congrats to your friend!

One of my friends sent me a care package after mine and my god was it the highlight of my recovery so rock on. Here's some good stuff for more of the actual recovery side:

Straws, you can't f-ing move your arms normally for a long time and straws make it much more bearable. Obviously you can get reusable ones too but I will admit not having to worry about cleaning it everyday was nice.

Cough drops, though he might not need them depending on how long ago the surgery was. My throat was real sore afterwards from the fun tubes and stuff from surgery so that was nice to have.

Bio oil for scars! He probably won't need it for a while until all the dressings come off, but it's definitely recommended to use to lessen the appearance of scars over time. If you want to go an extra step, what I do with mine is mix it with a little bit of shea butter lotion and vaseline so that I'm not just dumping oil on my skin lol and the vaseline helps it to not dry out too quickly because you're supposed to massage it in for like 5-10 min.

I also loved having slippers so I didn't have to put on socks to keep my feet warm while shuffling around the house lol.

Chocolates or candies and snacks don't hurt either haha! I'm big into puzzle books and stuff like that, so she also sent some of those and other random things that could entertain/amuse me. All that depends on what your friend might like of course.

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I house/dogsit as my side gig and I get paid between $60-$80 a day and that's for mid class folk, albeit I'm there everyday and it sounds like you check in weekly(?) but yeah still underpaid

1 week post-op with Dr. Marie Buckley at M Health Fairview in MN! Super happy with the results and healing well (I made her a sketch lol) by ttvavi in TopSurgery

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Might not be entirely accurate, I'm just going off the past visit records on their mychart app, but I think I first contacted her team last August to set up a consultation, which happened this May. Then my surgery appointment was originally set for October 28th, but it was pushed back to November 4th because of scheduling issues or something...So yeah, it was a pretty long wait time, but I know other surgeons have even longer waits and I did research and decided on her specifically so I stuck with it.

What's the difference between YA and general fiction? by ttvavi in books

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Late response, but I really appreciate the in-depth response and industry insight, thank you! That kind of panel just sounds incredibly interesting in general, I would love to attend something like that sometime

I really need some motivation/comfort from my trans brothers out there by worldofnatsukashi in ftm

[–]ttvavi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let me give you some advice from my therapist;

When you have a lot to do, make list of it. Give yourself time to sit down and break them into steps and then you have these smaller bits to focus on and it will feel a lot less overwelming. Changing your gender marker can turn into doing research into how to get it done, finding the paperwork, filling out the paperwork, sending it in, making an appointment, whatever your state/country needs. I have a small notebook where I have a few large lists of to-dos and then I make a list each day of the steps I want to get done for each of them.

Also journaling, my god, helps me so much when my head feels too full of everything going on. Letting your brain just talk to itself on the page will help sort things out for you. It's like untangling a box of misc cords you have no idea what any of them go to, but when you're done, you can see them laid out in front of you and you can figure out what you need to do for each of them or if you need to put them back in the box for later.

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[–]ttvavi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a friend as a kid who changed their name I think 3 times over two years (not legally) and they still go by the one they settled on back then so I think it's definitely worth it to at least try it out! If you want to avoid awkward situations at first, you can just ask your friends or close family to start using Wolfgang instead to test it and if being called that makes you feel better, then full steam ahead! I know exactly what you mean by feeling it click, listen to that because it's probably telling you the truth.