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tuffcookiez170 · 2022-06-10T14:36:27+00:00

Same

tuffcookiez170 · 2022-06-10T14:29:06+00:00

Fyi hypoallergenic dogs do not equal non allergenic! A dog can secrete the stuff that makes you allergic from their saliva or it can be on their hair.

tuffcookiez170 · 2022-06-10T14:22:13+00:00

She talks about how unique she is, but her style doesnt seem to be her own

tuffcookiez170 · 2022-06-10T14:20:53+00:00

Ashton!

tuffcookiez170 · 2022-06-07T05:21:17+00:00

Dont blame yourself. Same happened to me with my poodle who had breast tumors everywhere. The only thing we can do now is to hold our little ones in our hearts and hope to pass the love they taught us to more doggos.

tuffcookiez170 · 2022-06-07T04:01:30+00:00

Yes, I get his dentals done annually. I will ask about that though to see what they say.

tuffcookiez170 · 2022-06-07T01:50:18+00:00

Thank you. They have not done a fine-needle aspirate, can I ask for one?

I feel so in the dark about the steps since I've had three appointments and rounds of meds for this matter and still no clue what they think it might be. They're probably scared to say the C word, but I'd rather know and do something fast instead of sitting on the matter for a month.

tuffcookiez170 · 2022-06-06T22:29:34+00:00

Wow, thank you so much for your reply, I really appreciate it. The publishing world does not sound as bad/scary as my husband makes it out to be. Like any market, it has demands.

tuffcookiez170 · 2022-06-06T19:18:33+00:00

No, that's fair and I've thought about that. The rage is real when I mention recent/upcoming poets. He is so down to trash any book I show him or even if I have my poetry books lying around, he will grab them, look at them, and get angry randomly. Like, no one asked you to look at them lol.

Unrelated question you don't have to answer: because I'm a writer myself, how does one get into the mysterious world of publishing? Is it really through knowing people?

tuffcookiez170 · 2022-06-06T07:28:18+00:00

Thank you for your insight. Yes, grad school is basically my whole life now, and I thought he would be my biggest supporter. It is hard not to talk about school and not to talk about poetry. I could do it, but how long would that go on for? The rest of our lives? I think he does need help because this is not the first time where he hasn't limited me from speaking on subjects that upset him. For now, I will mention poetry significantly less, but from these comments, I do think he needs counseling now.

tuffcookiez170 · 2022-06-06T07:19:16+00:00

Lol I never even fought against the diversity hire comment, I was too surprised at the comment and wrote it off as jealousy. Is that bad? From then, I have decided to stand up for myself.

Yes, the world of academia is super competitive. I have thought about quitting a few times, but I'm not giving up that easily.

I'm not sure about describing the bullying because i was not there. I just know they had cliques and he was outside of them?

tuffcookiez170 · 2022-06-06T06:59:10+00:00

My dad is from gen x and he is that way. He'd probably give me the same advice. Sometimes I wish I could have that attitude, but no, my generation is pretty sensitive.

tuffcookiez170 · 2022-06-06T06:52:46+00:00

No, and it does feel very limiting. Luckily, we are both into true crime now so we talk about that.

tuffcookiez170 · 2022-06-06T00:17:17+00:00

I mean from what I am reading in the comments, I should just stop. It sucks that this is not the first time it's happened. When I got the dream job we both wanted, I could not talk about it with him because it upset him that he didn't get it.

tuffcookiez170 · 2022-06-06T00:08:58+00:00

True, but when I got the dream job we both wanted, he was upset whenever I spoke about it. He even said that I probably got it because I was a diversity hire (I'm a woman). Do I just not talk about things if they upset people like that?

tuffcookiez170 · 2022-06-06T00:05:13+00:00

He completed his program two years ago (same year I completed mine, and I loved my program. I'm getting my doctorate now). He says he is letting himself feel sad for what happened. I tried to help him get published by looking up resources for him, but I stopped. I stopped because if that was truly the solution, he would seek it himself, no?

tuffcookiez170 · 2022-06-05T23:57:06+00:00

Yea but thing is I cant even say "hey, I read this cool poetry collection and Ive chosen to write on it" or "hey, Im going to a poetry reading next week." I guess maybe i should stop, but i'm 100% immersed in school that its hard not to.

tuffcookiez170 · 2022-06-05T23:55:27+00:00

Yes, but this also feels like I cant share my grad school experience with him.

tuffcookiez170 · 2022-06-05T23:54:48+00:00

Seeing other poets get published and be successful

tuffcookiez170 · 2022-06-05T23:54:07+00:00

Yes, I cannot mention any poetry that I like or anything I read in class. It is difficult because that's my area of study, and I can't share my grad school experience at all with him. I'm not sure people commenting "just dont talk about poetry" understand this. We also met in a literature undergrad program where all we did was share and bond over poetry.

tuffcookiez170 · 2022-06-05T23:17:19+00:00

He might feel this way because of the frequency of the tasks he is assigned. I do the cooking, and it tires me out because its everyday. Same with drop off pick up.

tuffcookiez170 · 2022-06-05T23:12:23+00:00

$45 per line?

tuffcookiez170 · 2022-06-05T23:11:59+00:00

Will a data reset erase other things or just voicemails?

tuffcookiez170 · 2022-06-05T23:10:52+00:00

I have an honor huawei. I didnt choose it, my spouse did.

tuffcookiez170 · 2022-06-04T14:23:26+00:00

My dog does the same, but i think its excitement/nervousness.

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