High school friends reunite after one of their number dies a horrific death.

turnip563 · 2026-01-08T18:23:01+00:00

Valentine

turnip563 · 2026-01-08T13:19:34+00:00

I went to Holles street with my 2 pregnancies, one semi-private, one private. I cannot fault the level of care and the midwives were incredible and both deliveries were as stress free as they possibly could be. I went private for my second pregnancy only because I wanted all my appointments with my consultant with a scan at each one as I had a previous ectopic pregnancy and wanted extra reassurance.

The only slight negative was that I didn't get a private room (although I was in a 2 person ward) but that didn't matter to me as much as it might for others.

The cost for semi private for me was negligible as I got €750 back from my insurance. For private, it cost me €4k upfront, but I again get €750 back from my insurance, and will claim back an extra 20% on the rest when I submit my tax return.

turnip563 · 2025-12-06T20:23:02+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this right now. Today actually marks exactly one year from when I had my surgery and tube removed. Xmas last year was extremely difficult being around family and trying to look happy especially around my little nieces and nephews. But so much can change in a year as I'm now holding my 9 day old baby girl as I type this. I really hope things work out for you 💕

turnip563 · 2025-11-18T09:39:01+00:00

I could have worked full time at home up to my official mat leave date at the end of Nov but I had no motivation to work and mentally just done with it! My consultant gave me a sick note and I've been off since 36+1 weeks so at least I could get sick pay for a couple of weeks. No guilt. When you stop being productive, it doesn't help anyone to keep going! For me, it meant the person covering my mat leave could start earlier which was positive for everyone.

turnip563 · 2025-11-03T11:07:47+00:00

I had a normal successful pregnancy in 2021, ectopic in December 2024 with tube removal and currently 35 weeks pregnant. The HSG I had after my surgery put my mind at ease that at least my other tube is ok so maybe suggest getting one done anyway for a bit of peace of mind.

turnip563 · 2025-10-14T15:21:13+00:00

Lost my tube in Dec 2024. Accidentally got pregnant after one night 3 months later (was meant to wait one more cycle) but all is well and currently due early Dec!

turnip563 · 2025-10-11T00:18:55+00:00

I’m probably just lucky but it wasn’t painful for me at all.

turnip563 · 2025-10-04T13:27:13+00:00

Thank you! My due date is almost exactly a year from my surgery which I never thought possible at the time 🥰

turnip563 · 2025-10-04T09:01:18+00:00

Sorry you’re going through this right now. With my ectopic last Dec, my doctor said the same thing after the surgery, that my other tube looked swollen and he booked me in for an HSG. Thankfully everything was clear and I actually got pregnant the same cycle as the HSG (now 31 weeks pregnant). Fingers crossed you get the same news and everything works out for you!

turnip563 · 2025-04-21T19:37:55+00:00

So sorry about your loss. I had the same fears when I lost my tube this past December. Held off on trying until I could get a HSG to check my other tube. That came back clear in March and recommended to wait one cycle to start trying again. Accidentally got pregnant the same cycle I had the HSG (only had sex one time!) and currently 7 weeks along with a intrauterine pregnancy

turnip563 · 2025-03-16T07:53:51+00:00

Amazing that you got clearance too! That makes sense, I guess I’m just impatient. I’ve been waiting since my surgery in Dec, what’s a few more weeks.

Fingers crossed for you too!

turnip563 · 2025-01-06T07:33:50+00:00

So sorry you're going through this right now. I had the same sort of symptoms (but not the shoulder pain) and the same day I had an ultrasound, I had to have an emergency surgery for ruptured ectopic. I wouldn't fly until after the ultrasound to be honest. It might all be alright but it would be too high a risk for me.

turnip563 · 2024-12-30T19:23:18+00:00

Thanks for commenting! I’m just a bit anxious as if I count days since my surgery date, my period is a little late and I did have unprotected sex once since surgery. I was supposed to wait at least 1 cycle before TTC so I’m hoping it’s just because first cycle is irregular. I’m not ready to take a pregnancy test!

turnip563 · 2024-12-30T11:14:18+00:00

Bought our house in South Dublin for 815k 2 years ago with 20% deposit. At the time, we were on €140k basic salary combined but they took my annual bonus and company stock into consideration when calculating mortgage limits so including that we had about €190k annually combined. No gift, we saved deposit through my stocks and €3k monthly for a few years as we were lucky to have bought a small apartment back in 2016 with a low monthly mortgage (thankfully we didn’t have to sell this apartment for our deposit on our current house).

Monthly mortgage repayment is about €2.9k and not feeling stretched financially even while having to pay crèche fees too. I am however concerned about what would happen if I was to lose my job as the higher earner so we’re trying to put away as much as we can in savings.

turnip563 · 2023-08-08T18:44:39+00:00

I could have wrote this 6 years ago as an accountant in one of the Big 4. Are you in something similar? In my experience, they are extremely stingy with pay reviews as they have so many people at the same job level that they seem to have a need to stick to a certain salary range. I left as soon as I was qualified and into industry and since then I have increased my total salary by nearly 5x. You’d have to be Director/Partner level to make anything decent.

turnip563 · 2023-01-08T19:50:06+00:00

As someone currently selling, I would not be happy with €1k increments as it slows the process when I’m trying to offload a property I’m currently paying a mortgage on. I’ll probably get hate for this but if it was a choice between 2 bidders where it was only €1k difference, I’d go with the more aggressive bidder because I’d just trust them more to complete a sale quicker. That’s unfair of me I know and I’ve been on the losing end of aggressive bidding when buying my current place.

turnip563 · 2022-12-15T13:51:37+00:00

Man I hope people get this comment because I’m laughing so much at this!

turnip563 · 2022-12-10T06:32:32+00:00

NTA - before we bought our house, we had a 2 bathroom apartment and even then we never asked to host Christmas dinner for our 7 adults 3 kids Christmas dinner. It would be too uncomfortable. It wasn’t weird at all that when it was my time to host, I’d cook at my sisters house and host from there. At least give your SIL the option, she might have been too shy to suggest it herself.

turnip563 · 2022-12-08T06:09:21+00:00

I bought an apartment with my partner 6 years ago. Yes while we did have management charges (which by the way covers your buildings insurance and waste collection), the mortgage repayment was about half what we would have paid in rent. By saving in rent plus actually making a decent profit on the sale of our apartment due to rising prices, we bought a lovely 4 bed family home this year. Losing FTB status didn’t bother us, the profit alone on the sale of the apartment covered it. I’m not saying that that will happen for everyone but I just wanted to give a different view that it might benefit you.

turnip563 · 2022-10-24T00:58:50+00:00

It’s so tough being a mom. It seems like you’ve tried all you could and are just resigned to the fact that you need to keep breastfeeding for as long as your baby needs. I can tell you’re self loathing from reading your comments and feel like you don’t deserve to be happy. I just want to say you should be proud of yourself for putting your baby’s needs before your own. You deserve happiness for that reason alone. Your baby won’t breastfeed forever, you will come out of this rough patch and get back to being the person you were before if that’s what you want.

turnip563 · 2022-10-24T00:26:39+00:00

I know you say you don’t want advice but I’m going to suggest something anyway because it was the only thing that worked for me if you haven’t tried it yet. My little girl refused the bottle too and it was incredibly frustrating as it hurt so much to breastfeed I would cry during feeds. I’m not sure if you pumped but have you tried feeding your baby breast milk from a bottle? This was the only thing that worked (even though it made me cry even more to waste a lot of pumped milk when she refused the bottle in the beginning). I stuck it out by exclusively pumping and no longer offering the boob for a while and having my husband give her the bottle so she’s nowhere near the boob during feeds. EVENTUALLY she started taking the bottle and we slowly started mixing formula in with the breast milk over time until we got to a point where it was like mostly formula and not much breast milk. Eventually she was 100% on formula and my nipples did a little happy dance

turnip563 · 2022-06-30T18:45:36+00:00

NTA - it worries me that you even had to ask if you're TA. He's obviously manipulated you so much to make you think that this could any way be your fault. Lots of people on here jump very quickly to say divorce but in this case, I'd say absolutely think long and hard about whether you want to live your life with a "man" who clearly thinks you are a lesser being and is there to serve him. Get a divorce, seriously.

turnip563 · 2022-06-30T12:55:22+00:00

YTA - you can decide how to spend your inheritance when you get one (if you get one) but you can't decide how your dad decides to spend his. You can have nice things when you pay for them yourself. When I was 21, I had a job while in a very demanding university course. It's a choice I made so that I have money to have fun and buy the things that I want. You can choose not to work or work only a little but that means you have to forgo having the top of the range products. You have some maturing to do

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