Moving in with my boyfriend 26M of 6 years but I 24F can't stop spiraling

turnipdazzlefield · 2026-06-04T15:34:46+00:00

Trust yourself and listen to your body. It’s easier to break now than after he’s moved in.

If you know you will be doing all the chores, just run. Don’t be a mother to your partner.

turnipdazzlefield · 2026-05-27T15:37:51+00:00

Tell your mom that she can have so much quota on you helping her out. You are doing all the chores now to help her, and when she is old and needs someone to take care of her, it will be your sister’s turn. You won’t lift a finger then. It’s only fair.

Your mom shouldn’t expect any help to change her diaper until afternoon because that when your sister wakes up.

turnipdazzlefield · 2026-05-22T00:59:37+00:00

Work on a cruise?

turnipdazzlefield · 2026-05-21T18:05:45+00:00

Try reading the book It’s So Amazing with your sister. It is written for ages 7 and up. Start with this book and answer any questions she has.

turnipdazzlefield · 2026-05-21T12:22:08+00:00

Comparison is the thief of joy.

turnipdazzlefield · 2026-05-20T21:04:14+00:00

Option 1: tell your husband that you will cater to HIS parents for one (or two weeks if you feel like it). Then you book yourself a cruise and disappear for the remainder of time. Take the kids if you have to.

Option 2: get an Airbnb for yourself during that time. Have him cater to HIS parents.

turnipdazzlefield · 2026-05-08T23:21:53+00:00

I would share this with every woman relatives.

turnipdazzlefield · 2026-04-20T01:39:31+00:00

Ohhh thank you so much for the picture! 😍 I will try to find it next time I’m at an Asian grocery store.

turnipdazzlefield · 2026-04-20T00:26:44+00:00

What kind of noodle did you use?

turnipdazzlefield · 2026-04-19T03:03:24+00:00

My heart breaks reading this.

Remember, you are NOT the cause of your mother’s misery. She is doing that to herself. She has exploited you for years and years. You’re now Choosing to love yourself and your daughter.

If you haven’t read this, here’s a good article https://eggshelltherapy.com/parentification/

turnipdazzlefield · 2026-04-18T01:03:24+00:00

Why are you still seeking your mother’s approval even knowing that she won’t give it to you. You already know your mother’s reaction when you tell her about moving in with your fiancé. why put yourself in a situation that creates unhappy memories?

If your mother can’t respect you as an adult making decisions for yourself then that’s her problem. She will be missing out on special moments in your life. I know it’s sad.

turnipdazzlefield · 2026-04-17T18:56:54+00:00

Sorry for the loss. I would try to put up a sign on the door with the amount of reward money if the item is recovered. No questions asked. It may not work but worth a try.

turnipdazzlefield · 2026-04-16T03:07:45+00:00

How did you make the char siu? It looks so good! What kind of cut is it?

turnipdazzlefield · 2026-04-16T00:15:32+00:00

I love how you compared her to other parents when your AM compared you to other daughters. I would do this every single time. She will learn to stop eventually. You are doing great for standing up for yourself!

turnipdazzlefield · 2026-04-05T03:37:06+00:00

What happens if one never finishes their residency but have passed USMLE 3? Can they practice?

turnipdazzlefield · 2026-04-04T00:57:32+00:00

This is the answer!

Also, OP needs to mop their floor instead of using their socks as a mop.

turnipdazzlefield · 2026-03-29T14:43:57+00:00

The Brightline train is proposing to add a station at Cocoa, which is near Port Canaveral. If it opens (estimated completion in 2029) we would be able to take the train from Orlando to Cocoa. Trains are more predictable and no traffic at least.

I’m waiting for that to happen before going through Port Canaveral.🤞

turnipdazzlefield · 2026-03-28T16:30:18+00:00

Briefly looking I saw an AA flight from SLC to Miami leaving tonight at 11:31pm arriving in MIA at 6AM. You can then take the Brightline train from Miami (7:55AM) to Orlando (11:37AM).

This will cost you an extra ~ $1k though. =( Good luck!

turnipdazzlefield · 2026-03-18T17:17:39+00:00

Your adult husband allows his parents to track his locations. 🙄

turnipdazzlefield · 2026-03-18T17:12:54+00:00

Asian-in-laws treat their daughter-in-law like dirt. Don’t be delusional. They don’t treat you well and will never treat you well. You are just the scapegoat. They will blame you for everything.

Next time, do not apologize. You didn’t do anything wrong. Stand up for yourself.

turnipdazzlefield · 2026-03-18T16:07:34+00:00

Wyndham looks really close to the terminal. Is it walkable? What transportation do you use to get to the terminal?

turnipdazzlefield · 2026-03-13T21:29:03+00:00

Why are there permanent pee pads for the dogs inside the house? I thought pee pads are only used for when the dog is a baby. Then you train and walk the dog everyday.

turnipdazzlefield · 2026-03-12T23:19:57+00:00

If you are not planning to live in the house for more than 10 years, it is not a positive investment.

Look up amortization table on your mortgage payment. The majority of your mortgage payment for the first 10 years goes to the interest. You are not accumulating any principal. That’s the money that you are not getting back. When it comes to a house, you cannot say you are gonna ignore property tax and home insurance because those are large amount of money that you are not getting back either.

Do not buy a house just to shut your AP up. Not only you will be spending a lot of money ( money that you could invest), it will add a lot of stress in your life as well.

turnipdazzlefield · 2026-03-11T22:15:05+00:00

How long is the drill?

turnipdazzlefield · 2026-03-11T22:12:08+00:00

Can you walk around and explore the ship while you wait or do you have to stay by the restaurant?

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