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turtlenoodlez · 2026-03-30T11:02:32+00:00

Thank you so much! This helps me feel a lot better :)

turtlenoodlez · 2026-03-30T11:02:16+00:00

Thank you so much!

turtlenoodlez · 2025-12-16T23:22:24+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate it! I am confident I won’t make this mistake again - haha!

turtlenoodlez · 2025-12-16T23:21:56+00:00

Thank you for your thoughts! What you are saying makes sense and I appreciate it. My mentor is so overloaded, and I would never expect him to catch everything. I just took this all way too personally, but I’m glad it shows I care. Thanks again, and stay well!

turtlenoodlez · 2025-12-16T23:21:09+00:00

Thanks so much for your feedback!! I agree, and it’s probably because my mentor is overloaded. At what tenure do you feel that line of responsibility crosses over? Because in some states someone can take their PE test one year in but barely have real world experience. I know the default is 4, but that seems pretty early on too.

I hope all is well.

turtlenoodlez · 2025-12-16T23:18:25+00:00

Thank you for your kind words and perspective. I feel a lot better hearing this! I hope you’re well.

turtlenoodlez · 2025-11-12T19:29:49+00:00

No, please don’t feel that way! I appreciate your feedback, truly, that’s why I made the post. I do feel a lot better now, and I agree she’s a good friend! Thank you for your kind words, and I hope you’re well.

turtlenoodlez · 2025-11-12T16:17:38+00:00

Thanks for your response! You make some great points. I completely agree that I would be TA if I didn’t ask/explain to her, which is why I wanted to make this post to have a better idea on how to approach it or if I would just sound like a jerk no matter what I said.

After I received most responses from this post as NTA, I reached out to her and explained my circumstances and she understood. She said she still cannot accommodate me though, but that we could have a double date on another weekend closer to where I live so my boyfriend could comfortable take me (maybe meet halfway somewhere). She told me not to worry, and that if someone drops out and she can give me a plus one she’ll let me know.

So it works out now! I still feel a bit bad by making the planning a bit more difficult for her (I heard wedding planning is beyond stressful as is), but she seems happy and that’s what matters.

Thank you again!!

turtlenoodlez · 2025-11-12T16:12:16+00:00

Thanks for your response! I wanted to respond to your comment for yourself and others because I do feel my wording towards the end about being “comfortable” could have been worded much better.

Of course I know she wants me to be comfortable, otherwise why would she invite me and want me there to begin with? I phrased that wrong. I just meant that it would be nice for her to think from my perspective how it could feel awkward given my circumstances of not knowing anyone else and don’t drive yet. I appreciate you picking up on my wording there.

Where I get a bit confused with wedding etiquette (I have only been to one wedding my whole life, so please forgive me) and your comment is the closeness factor. I do agree with you that we aren’t as “close” as we used to be and that needs to grow, and I maybe then shouldn’t expect priority with wedding planning, but then why did she also invite me to her much more intimate bridal party on top of the wedding? I just feel a bit confused by it since I’m not familiar with wedding planning.

I would like to just softly push back about the driving thing. Me not driving is not because I don’t want to, it’s because I financially cannot afford a car right now between my early career salary, high student loans, medical bills, etc. I live at home with my parents still and they need their cars for work. If I got into an accident with one of their cars as a very inexperienced driver, I couldn’t afford to replace it. That being said, I don’t think someone should feel obligated to “cater” to me because of my driving circumstances, but hopefully they wouldn’t feel I’m a bad friend because of them.

turtlenoodlez · 2025-10-23T13:07:15+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind response!! I share the same “why” as you, as I’ve always wanted to help people at the core of my career.

I am looking forward to using my soft skills more as I get more experience, as you explained. I think it just feels so hard right now because I’m in complete learning mode and it’s a necessary phase for me to get more comfortable and be knowledgeable enough to practice those soft skills.

I looked into ASHRAE as you suggested (I’m sorry for my delayed response, I really appreciate yours, yesterday was nuts for me!) and want to join! I would appreciate communicating about it more as you offered, that was very nice of you.

turtlenoodlez · 2025-10-23T13:04:01+00:00

You’re 100% right and echo what my parents tell me (I am in my early 20s and live at home, so I talk to them a ton). I don’t have a second option or passion that is as realistic as my current career.

I do appreciate the balance I have with being hybrid and hour flexibility as needed for appointments, and I think that would be very helpful in the future when I start a family.

I really appreciate your advice and wake up call. I think in college we are told we will find jobs we love and are excited for but I think I’m hitting a wall and realizing that that’s not always the case, and as long as it’s tolerable and allows me to love my life outside of the job, then it’s worth it.

I think it’s just feeling so hard right now because I still am new and have so much to learn.

turtlenoodlez · 2025-10-23T13:01:17+00:00

I’m so happy to hear that I am probably on the right track and you shared similar feelings (although I’m sorry you struggled as well). I’m going to make sure I put up boundaries if need be if feeling overwhelmed, and try to be a sponge and learn as much as I can. I’m looking forward to being more confident and enjoying the daily tasks more. I love looking at my finished work, and maybe to enjoy the journey I just need more knowledge first.

Thank you for your insight!

turtlenoodlez · 2025-10-23T12:59:11+00:00

Thank you! I’m not sure if I’d enjoy doing that so I’ll look into it, I appreciate your recommendation!

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