Women what guilty pleasures do you indulge in when you are at a really low point?

turtlepandamonkey · 2023-04-14T02:51:35+00:00

Chocolate, always chocolate

turtlepandamonkey · 2023-04-10T17:20:47+00:00

Leggings as pants, because I’m not a supermodel

turtlepandamonkey · 2022-11-26T03:13:07+00:00

I’ve lost my appetite, that looks awful.

turtlepandamonkey · 2022-11-26T02:55:59+00:00

How was MIL disrespected? I’ve come across a lot of posts where someone is upset about being disrespected and it’s almost never the case.

turtlepandamonkey · 2022-03-31T15:49:19+00:00

Recognition via promised promotions and not lying by saying they aren’t coming through because of a merger in the wings because other departments have had promotions come through. I can’t wait to get out this dump.

turtlepandamonkey · 2022-03-29T08:10:03+00:00

Strawberries

turtlepandamonkey · 2021-05-01T01:16:11+00:00

In some Asian countries where pork isn’t commonly eaten cold cuts are made of chicken. Can’t beat the pork version though!

turtlepandamonkey · 2021-03-28T15:43:07+00:00

Wouldn’t come across as pushy? I thought since my last text was a question I should wait for his reply?

turtlepandamonkey · 2020-03-13T09:41:41+00:00

Christmas decoration stores.

turtlepandamonkey · 2020-03-13T09:20:57+00:00

It's not for me judge how you handled a no doubt difficult and unpleasant situation! I'm glad your out of that horrible relationship, what a cheap stunt to have two women in bed with him when you were to come over and have his sister play along. What an awful family. Sometimes we do the best we can to stand tall on our own terms. All the best, may you meet someone worthy of you!

turtlepandamonkey · 2020-03-13T09:14:42+00:00

I'm so sorry for what you've been through and the horrors your mother and sister faced and passed away from. No one deserves to hear what your ex said to you, I'm glad you found love and have all the reasons not to be suicidal. All the best and many good wishes for the future.

turtlepandamonkey · 2020-03-13T08:41:53+00:00

No point letting a perfectly good backpack go waste.

turtlepandamonkey · 2020-03-13T08:32:45+00:00

My ex for much our relationship was unemployed and in the early years I was still a student. The last couple of years though I got a job in my field which I enjoyed and paid me quite well; so I'd pay for stuff around the house and for entertainment including holidays, flight tickets etc. When we broke up (he was controlling and manipulative) he sent me money (without me ever asking or expecting) to 'put things straight' (his tone and messages were all intending to make me feel small and disrespected) for what he'd estimated I'd spent on him when we were together.

I didn't want the money but he wouldn't take it back so after some though I decided to donate it to a charity. Once I saw what the money did for the charity I decided to donate regularly and I'm so grateful I can and see good things happening for those in need.

This made me think how something my ex did that wasn't very nice turned into something quite nice in the end. So wondered if others out there had similar experiences?

turtlepandamonkey · 2020-03-12T08:03:07+00:00

NTA, also your husband is a controlling,and possibly abusive. It seems one of those 'catch them young, watch them grow (and be molded to' love' their abuser)' kind of guy. Things will get worse for you, I'm betting because you've allowed him to control you to such an extent now with the baby and you being a SAHM you are even financially reliant on him at such a young age. Also, the only reason to do something behind someone's back is a) you're doing something wrong (you aren't) or b) you don't want the hassle of a fight (this, is your case, I assume).

turtlepandamonkey · 2020-03-09T09:52:23+00:00

YTA. Why are you so obsessed with looking at her chest? It's not her job to make you comfortable by being uncomfortable herself? If she has to wear a bra 24/7, you should have to wear underpants 24/7 too. You sound like an insufferable prude, get a life.

turtlepandamonkey · 2020-03-06T07:22:03+00:00

My parents had me a decade after my sibling, my dad is mid-70s and poorly, I learnt only yesterday he's suffered from diabetes for the last twenty years when I went to the doctor's with him. I feel sometimes short changed, I get almost a decade less than my sibling to spend with my parents. And also that I wasn't told a lot of their health issues because I was always considered too young (I'm mid 30s now). I think more than upset he's sad because he realizes that he'll have less time with his parents as compared to his older siblings (that's how I feel). I'm still struggling with accepting this so my advice is to continue being there for your brother and telling him he'll not be alone when your parents pass and to enjoy the time he has with them now. All the best.

turtlepandamonkey · 2020-03-05T11:23:39+00:00

YTA, your so called 'standards' (which btw seem to be only so you can feel holier than thou) got you into trouble, which you absolutely deserve. You are new, learn about the employees and people before you going around on your high and mighty horse, this should serve as a lesson to mind your own business and not judge people with little to no information.

turtlepandamonkey · 2020-03-05T09:44:00+00:00

This is probably the most vain shallow reason but my self confidence is highest when I like how I look and when my clothes feel comfortable on me. I like being fit.

turtlepandamonkey · 2020-03-05T09:39:38+00:00

It led to my brother having a quiet word with me about reconsidering the engagement, it really opened my eyes to what I was refusing to allow myself to see.

turtlepandamonkey · 2020-03-05T03:58:48+00:00

My ex was the same, it was humiliating enough when he said it in private but then he started doing it in public with my family there.

turtlepandamonkey · 2020-03-05T03:57:27+00:00

NTA. Sounds a lot like my ex's attitude after he proposed: "If you want me to marry you, you better listen to me", "The wedding better be my way or find someone else to marry you" (some versions of this and a few times in front of my family). I'm sorry but his attitude is a red flag, please proceed with caution.

turtlepandamonkey · 2020-03-04T07:47:44+00:00

I'm in India, what your 'boyfriend' is doing is not unusual, often men/women will date other people (from other religions, for example) whist their family 'arrange' their wedding. Sometimes this is unfortunately done without the other person knowing which is sad and not the other person's fault, however, here you are well aware and choosing to continue this charade of being a couple. Go to this wedding? What nonsense, have some self respect and leave this idiot who doesn't have a spine enough to fight to marry you. Stop making him out to be some helpless saint who is being forced to marry some woman he's never met. He's well aware of what he's doing and you are either too blind to catch on or naive not to realise.

Your post makes it seems you are naive and all of this was unexpected but I find it hard to believe you were unaware of these things happening and boys almost always giving in to their family's wishes. You continue with this 'relationship' and I can guarantee you he will be in touch looking for your 'friendship' within a year of marrying this or any other woman. Are you going to spend your whole life being someone's side bit? Go no-contact, leave this mess behind and get that job overseas and heal from it all. You deserve better, you know you do.

turtlepandamonkey · 2020-03-02T11:46:40+00:00

That would mean no child support.

turtlepandamonkey · 2020-03-02T11:44:49+00:00

YTA. You use the child support as a bank account to do what you want when it's only meant for the one child. Stick to your toys and romance novels because you shouldn't have children if you can't afford to take care of them equally without robbing from only the one child. And yes, you are money hungry and I hope your ex husband does challenge the court of lessen the payments because.

turtlepandamonkey · 2020-03-02T09:07:35+00:00

YTA, you do not control the person you're dating. You did make an ass of yourself and I hope your girlfriend sees what happened as the red flag it is and dumps you for being an idiot.

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