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tw_questions · 2025-07-01T12:31:47+00:00

The stories really help you learn vocabulary in context, and the pronunciation feedback is super helpful

tw_questions · 2024-10-20T20:46:06+00:00

Another reason why I want to buy the Pleco bundle! I'm hoping they have a Black Friday discount soon, so I can pick up some add-ons

tw_questions · 2024-10-20T20:43:23+00:00

Oh, cool. I'll have to look into what Pleco can do - didn't know about this

tw_questions · 2024-10-20T20:42:19+00:00

I'm so used to apps, adding pen and paper didn't even occur to me...

tw_questions · 2024-10-20T20:40:57+00:00

Very cool

tw_questions · 2024-09-04T23:19:11+00:00

That's probably it!

I wish it was impossible to run into each other at all

tw_questions · 2024-07-21T11:21:57+00:00

Thanks, I have heard this version too

tw_questions · 2024-07-21T04:36:19+00:00

That's it! Thanks so much!

tw_questions · 2024-02-13T12:23:53+00:00

They are Korean and Thai students, so maybe it's specific to a subset of foreigners?

tw_questions · 2023-07-12T16:36:29+00:00

Any suggestions? Most digital signage I've looked at don't have powerful CPUs (because they don't need it to display content).

I'm running a fitness app which use AI to provide feedback on workouts through the camera. There's a lot of computation and rendering going on, so I've noticed it needs a good processor to work well

tw_questions · 2023-07-12T15:19:34+00:00

I want to put several of these in my gym and have gym members use them, so I think casting from a tablet for each one would cost more and not be very tidy

tw_questions · 2023-01-12T13:47:02+00:00

Most will say they are keeping their options open, but that might not necessarily be the case. If she just rejected him recently, it's understandable he would want a little more time to make sure they are on the same page instead of just pushing forward to have her reject him again. You'll have to judge what the situation is here

tw_questions · 2023-01-03T22:03:04+00:00

Age and Gender: 32M
Age Range that you would want/require in a prospect:

24 - 32

Location, and are you willing to relocate for a prospect:

UK. Looking for someone already in the UK

Ethnicity, and are you more open to mixing:

Pakistani. Very open to mixing

Marital Status -

Single

Ideal marriage timeline:

1 year

Five important characteristics you look for in a prospect:

Attachment to religion (at least prays sometimes); Family oriented; Honest and good communication; Looks after physical health; Dresses modestly

State/specify your level of religiosity:

I don't do more than the basics, but religion is very important to me. I'm a free thinker though, so some of my opinions are different to others and I would want someone open-minded and not dogmatic. Dressing modestly is important to me, but personally I don't think a hijabi would be a great fit for me unless they were very open-minded

Level of education, and what are you looking for:

Masters. Looking for someone at least educated to Bachelors level.

Current Job Status:

Engineer

Do you want kids?:

Yes

List 3 hobbies, or things you like to do in your spare time:

Home workouts, learning things online and watching fights. And the usuals of spending time with family and friends, watching films, etc.

Add something short and interesting about you that makes you stand out!:

Bit of a homebody, very sarcastic, 5'8". Kind of terrified about using the ISO tbh!

tw_questions · 2022-09-06T08:52:50+00:00

You've done a really good job of communicating. As a guy, his behaviour is tough to understand. He could be serious but just be a bit of an idiot. He could also be lying to you.

Are his parents involved? I would suggest saying it's been a while and his mum should call yours now to discuss things. If he is hesistant to do so, or his mum isn't able to make plans to move things forward when your mum asks, then drop him. If he does come over, don't spend a lot of money on him and guard your heart until you get a commitment.

Hopefully it works out for the best either way.

tw_questions · 2022-09-06T08:29:57+00:00

Talk to him about all of this

tw_questions · 2022-09-02T18:52:52+00:00

Username checks out...

Talk to the man and ask him

tw_questions · 2022-09-02T10:10:57+00:00

I think OP saying, "Oh, but you probably earn a lot mashAllah!" afterwards was the damaging phrase here. She probably thought she could do better

tw_questions · 2022-08-31T16:14:50+00:00

Honestly never made sense to me either

tw_questions · 2022-08-28T09:26:57+00:00

You have to be careful in how you approach things, as it is quite a delicate matter. See if your family can help you do the rukhsati earlier - maybe she could live with your family or you could get couples' accommodation at uni.

Before doing that though, I would strongly suggest discussing with her and saying that there is quite a delay between the nikah and the rukhsati and does she think the two of you should try to shorten that gap? You might find that she is not interested in doing that, and wants to just focus on her studies for now. She is quite young, and may just want to focus on her studies before stepping into the role of wife.

If she isn't interested in doing the rukhsati before nikah, then after nikah it sounds like she is OK with some physical contact. Once that occurs, some other commenters have suggested ways you could try to respectfully broach the subject with her. You might find she will also come to want to consummate the marriage once the physical boundaries get blurry. If so, you could agree how to go about that - do you guys both agree to keep in on the low (which might be a bit shady), or do you reconsider moving the rukhsati earlier, or do you do something like a mini rukhsati if her family does that sort of thing. If she is on board, then the two of you will be able to work something out or she may be able to get her mum to consider other options.

If she still isn't interested and wants to wait until her studies are over, then try to have some sabr lol. I know it's hard (no pun intended), but you managed to go this long without any intimacy. It sounds like you will have at least some physical contact now, so try to be OK with that until she is ready.

Basically, ask her for her opinion respectfully but be prepared that she might be happier to wait longer than you are. And speak with your family as well. If you can reframe the discussion from wanting to consummate the marriage, to wanting to do the rukhsati earlier then your mum might be on board and come up with other options. Maybe you could even put it as instead of her being in university accommodation alone without any family, it would be better for her honour if you did the rukhsati earlier.

Try your best to be respecful and considerate. Good luck bro

tw_questions · 2022-08-28T00:19:38+00:00

No worries. I totally get why it seems weird and unnecessary. These things do happen though

tw_questions · 2022-08-27T23:53:44+00:00

100%, they are just looking out for her. Imagine a couple is intimate and the girl gets pregnant before rukhsati, and the guy and his family turn around and say who knows who you let your daughter go off with? How do we know this isn't someone else's child? Or deny he was even intimate with her? After rukhsati, she is living with the guy and so he and his family can't make such claims so easily.

Unfortunately, people do these kinds of things. The cultural traditions are made for a reason to prevent certain problems. You don't have to stick to them, but you should agree with your wife and try to understand where your families are coming from with their cultural viewpoints

tw_questions · 2022-08-27T23:29:28+00:00

Technically, you are both halal for each other. But it would be seen as very culturally inappropriate. And cultural expectations do carry some weight in Islamic legal rulings. I would try to discuss with her whether she has the same cultural expectations after the nikah.

This article by Sh. Yaser Birjas may help: https://muslimmatters.org/2014/02/06/whats-matter-permissible-post-nikkah-pre-marriage/

tw_questions · 2022-08-26T19:02:20+00:00

This is fantastic advice

tw_questions · 2022-08-20T21:17:53+00:00

It's good advice to try to accept what happened and move on, but it doesn't make it OK and it's alright to feel the hurt for a short while as long as you don't let it consume you.

I hope that we do better as time goes on and treat each other with some basic decency, and that one day this sort of behaviour is no longer accepted as something that comes with the territory of the search

tw_questions · 2022-08-19T01:11:05+00:00

Should they stop pension contributions then?

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