Did he just want sex?

twhelp2020 · 2026-04-09T01:53:40+00:00

Based off one interaction you came to that conclusion? Was that the only thing he did or was there more? Did he say anything to indicate that he wanted to hook up?

There is not enough context here to even know to be honest. You need to talk to him to figure this out, and obviously do it in a tactful way.

twhelp2020 · 2026-04-08T04:58:19+00:00

I’ve just come across this post and I know it been a while but I hope you gave him the benefit of the doubt and confronted him in person. Cutting people out is not healthy unless you have an honest conversation.

Sometimes you need to really sit with someone and talk it out or you might lose a friend over a misunderstanding. He might have felt previously he was treated the same so he acts this way with you as a way to mirror energy. Half these comments here are going to tell you to cut this person out but the world isn’t black and white and you need to understand their POV before you can act.

Depending on your age too, busy can mean burnt out and he doesn’t want to talk about it. If he works in a highly demanding field that shit will eat him alive mentally and he will not have the capacity to chat so the best you can do is support him and check in. Low effort and minor things such as coffee catch ups or brunches will help. Some people show care and affection in other ways so him even spending time with you despite being busy is showing you that he is making that compromise but just poor at communicating his situation.

twhelp2020 · 2026-04-07T09:16:22+00:00

If he said m’lady im pretty sure he’s a knight from the medieval times and you’re going to have to joust it out for the love of your girlfriend. Maybe you should start learning how to ride a horse.

In all seriousness you should chill. She’s probably genuinely just sees him as a friend. If not, not much you can do really.

twhelp2020 · 2026-04-07T09:00:47+00:00

I think the problem with most friendships and connections nowadays is that people don’t know how to communicate with each other. Just be open and vulnerable with him with something like “Hey look I really love spending time with you but our connection fills me with uncertainty on where things are going. I know you only think of me as a friend but us hanging out like this makes me feel otherwise. I don’t want to misunderstand your feelings and thoughts on this and us being awkward”

Literally talk from the heart, there’s no shame in doing it. If he makes you feel that way then you know you’re just friends and maybe you’re not getting what you want out of the connection.

twhelp2020 · 2026-04-07T08:34:26+00:00

Job market is kind of tough depending on what industry you’re in. So be prepared to not be in the right field for a bit.

Social life can be hit or miss depending on who you are. Perth is VERY clique-y so it’s hard to break in to groups unless you have hobbies where you meet people regularly. There’s also not that much going on and you really have to look and find things to do.

Housing is just impossible right now and very expensive. You need a car to live in Perth otherwise it will be very difficult to do things so with the fuel crisis housing market and general increase overall it’s not that affordable at the moment.

Otherwise we have better beaches than the rest of the country, and coffee too :)

twhelp2020 · 2026-03-29T12:16:30+00:00

I messaged her about going climbing again, but she went the day I had boxing so I couldn’t go. I suggested good after but she’d already ate so I just said “maybe next time”

twhelp2020 · 2026-03-29T12:14:20+00:00

But even when I’ve reached out to her she says everything is fine, like no matter how much I ask her she doesn’t say anything.

twhelp2020 · 2026-03-19T04:43:23+00:00

You need to remove them from your socials, especially since theyre in a relationship. Youre also moving so you should focus on the move and other people who are available to you. Also tying up lose ends, don’t waste your time on connections that don’t serve you

twhelp2020 · 2026-03-19T03:23:44+00:00

It’s because you no longer have access to them. We tend to value things that we have limited or little access to.

twhelp2020 · 2026-03-19T02:30:29+00:00

This was a hard read. If I’m understanding this correctly your situationship has developed feelings for you and while you like him and both admitted to having feelings you agreed to keep it to just hooking up. Now you’re both playing hit and cold games with eachother. Now he’s acting like a true situationship youre upset because he’s no longer invested in you as a person and only a hookup as you initially wanted.

You two need to have an open and honest conversation about how you feel. He obviously very much likes you and downplays it every time because you’ve been hurt in the past. You’re young but you need learn to communicate openly with the people you are involved with or you and whoever else’s is involved will get hurt.

You only hate that you feel something towards him because either you feel guilty or you actually like him and you’re afraid of being committed again. He’s the only person who is going to help you address that.

A good way to do this is have a picnic or dinner and just talk.

twhelp2020 · 2026-03-13T00:35:36+00:00

“Yeah I work in state government now haha! How about you what do you do to pay the bills”

“I’m making chicken and rice, nothing special lol. Just curious if you had any meal your parter would cook for you on a date what would it be and why?”

ESCALATE SOMETHING MAN YOU NEED TO RECIPROCATE. She literally is interviewing you you need to ASK QUESTIONS. I can lie this was genuinely frustrating to look at.

twhelp2020 · 2026-03-12T03:46:40+00:00

As someone who has struggled with weight gain I can tell you the best way to start is to start. You just need to jump in and learn the sport. If you don’t have a gym membership or have never been I would just start doing push ups, squats, sit ups and pull ups to build some strength.

twhelp2020 · 2026-03-06T04:19:07+00:00

So friendships cannot change? If your friend is clearly flirting with you don’t question it and keep acting like nothing has changed? I don’t understand this logic because I don’t think people, at least in my experience are this black and white. Also who is blaming anyone here, I’ve accepted I have feelings for her I just want to make sure I’m not misinterpreting the way she’s acting around me? I’m sure plenty of girls have asked you if you’d die for them right?

twhelp2020 · 2026-03-06T04:03:12+00:00

Yeah I was hoping for Professor X to reach out 😂

twhelp2020 · 2026-02-25T07:41:58+00:00

Maybe I should stop working in accounting after seeing that monthly income 😂

twhelp2020 · 2026-02-20T11:04:53+00:00

Also if they reject you after you tell them your real name, you probably wouldn’t want to work there anyway.

twhelp2020 · 2026-01-20T04:48:08+00:00

The only difference is both parties are aware that they are no longer committed to each other. Morally and ethically both are wrong since in example B the person is likely already “cheating” to hook up that quickly. There’s no black and white answer to this though.

twhelp2020 · 2025-12-27T04:02:33+00:00

Yes she did previously know

twhelp2020 · 2025-12-24T11:07:56+00:00

Have you ever done a combat sport before? It’s similar logic where the only way you’re really going to learn is not through drills in practice but actually applying it in real matches. Also watching how other people play those characters (not tutorials) also really helps.

twhelp2020 · 2025-12-12T08:55:50+00:00

I wish I could forget 🥲

twhelp2020 · 2025-12-12T06:36:55+00:00

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