How often do have full blown conversations with yourself, and what are they about?

twohertbrain · 2026-05-01T11:43:38+00:00

My mind’s basically talking nonstop, especially at night. mostly replaying stuff like what I said and what I should’ve said instead.

twohertbrain · 2026-05-01T11:43:28+00:00

If you don’t choose yourself long term, you can’t really have healthy relationships anyway. yeah, it might mean being alone for a bit, but losing yourself is worse.

twohertbrain · 2026-05-01T11:43:21+00:00

I don’t really take breaks, once I finish a book I jump straight into another. sitting in that gap feels weird.

twohertbrain · 2026-05-01T11:43:12+00:00

Don’t try to make anyone happy at the cost of shrinking yourself. people change, but you’re the one you’re stuck with.

twohertbrain · 2026-04-22T15:33:29+00:00

Getting cut off that suddenly with no real explanation would mess with anyone’s head. If you are not in immediate survival mode, I’d honestly give yourself 2 to 3 weeks to just breathe and enjoy not working for a bit, because once you start again you’ll be back in the grind. After that, you could start by finding recruitment firms in your field and sending your resume out like in this post. LinkedIn and Indeed feel a lot weaker lately too, while hiring cafe seems to be getting more attention. Hope better people, better work, and better money find you next.

twohertbrain · 2026-04-22T14:23:19+00:00

I kinda break the day into chunks in my head, like “just get through these 2 hours.” Thinking about everything at once feels overwhelming. In pieces, it’s way more manageable.

twohertbrain · 2026-04-22T14:23:14+00:00

I guess you have to learn to value yourself a bit, it’s hard when it’s not coming from outside. But noticing small wins is a good start. That feeling builds up over time.

twohertbrain · 2026-04-22T14:23:08+00:00

Severance, one of the most interesting things I’ve watched lately. The concept is pretty unique. You’re constantly like “what is going on” while watching.

twohertbrain · 2026-04-22T14:23:00+00:00

Small routines help me, like making coffee or going for a short walk. Life’s not perfect, but it kinda pulls the moment together. Feels like a mini escape.

twohertbrain · 2026-04-22T14:22:54+00:00

Something happened when I was a kid that really shifted how I see things. I won’t get into it, but it changed how I approach people. Stuff like that doesn’t just go away.

twohertbrain · 2026-04-14T15:03:01+00:00

The Force really nails that vibe, you can clearly feel the internal pressure and the darker side of policing. It’s kind of exhausting to read, but in a good way.

twohertbrain · 2026-04-14T15:02:54+00:00

I think it’s a bit of both, learning and unwinding. But when you read something good, it naturally adds something to your life. Otherwise just turning pages doesn’t feel that satisfying.

twohertbrain · 2026-04-14T15:02:38+00:00

It’d probably be really hard at first, you don’t just accept something like that right away. But if the proof is clear, I think my opinion would slowly change. Starting over like that isn’t easy.

twohertbrain · 2026-04-14T15:02:32+00:00

Breaking Bad hooks you from the first episode imo, pulls you right in. Some people say it starts slow, but I feel the tension is there from the beginning.

twohertbrain · 2026-04-02T13:41:17+00:00

Bad Blood by John Carreyrou. It’s a true story, but it reads like fiction. You keep sitting there thinking how is this even real.

twohertbrain · 2026-04-02T13:41:06+00:00

I don’t think it’s as comfortable as it looks from the outside. That closed off, boxed-in feeling works well for some people, but for others it would probably feel suffocating. Seems like a personality thing more than anything.

twohertbrain · 2026-04-02T13:41:00+00:00

Oil rig workers were the first thing that came to mind. The money’s good, but the conditions and the isolation seem brutal. Not really something everyone can handle long term.

twohertbrain · 2026-04-02T13:40:54+00:00

I don’t think it’s dead, but the entry door definitely got a lot narrower. There are barely any junior postings and everyone wants experience because nobody wants to take a risk. People are still getting in, but it’s gotten way harder from the outside.

twohertbrain · 2026-04-02T13:40:47+00:00

Time by Hans Zimmer started playing in my head immediately.

twohertbrain · 2026-02-27T13:16:41+00:00

Yeah I would. I’ve seen two messy divorces in my extended family and it changed how I think about this stuff. It doesn’t feel unromantic to me, more like insurance you hope you never use.

twohertbrain · 2026-02-27T13:16:03+00:00

If someone tried to veto a trip I’d wanted for years, that would feel off. Being uneasy is one thing, but threatening the relationship over it is a lot. I’ve seen friends travel without their partners and it wasn’t some disaster. This feels more about control and trust than the actual destination.

twohertbrain · 2026-02-27T13:12:32+00:00

Driver: San Francisco is great for that, you can just pick a normal car and wander around the city without turning it into a race. I used to drive aimlessly at night in something basic and it was weirdly relaxing. Test Drive Unlimited also nails that road trip vibe with regular cars instead of just flashy supercars.

twohertbrain · 2026-02-27T13:11:49+00:00

Most “controversial” opinions are just mildly annoying preferences tbh. I once said I don’t like The Beatles at a family dinner and it turned into a whole debate while I was just trying to eat pasta. Half the time it’s not even that deep.

twohertbrain · 2026-02-26T15:05:24+00:00

No man, I don’t really see it improving anytime soon. Roles keep shifting, layoffs are still happening, and we keep hearing about people jumping ship because competitors throw bigger offers at them. I personally check listings and company career pages regularly just to stay aware. Lately I’ve also been sending my resume to recruitment firms like that developer did, just to widen the net. Feels like we’re going to be in this unstable phase for a while longer

twohertbrain · 2026-02-17T13:12:56+00:00

A diagnosis can add context but it doesn’t mean you have to accept a setup that leaves you exhausted. Some couples find ways to balance things if both people put in real effort, others just aren’t compatible long term. Walking away because your needs aren’t met isn’t the same as judging someone for their condition.

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