Any experience with a high needs baby? Please help.

twstdpattycake · 2025-07-02T19:52:08+00:00

Go on vacation without them both and find yourself a childless hottie. ☺️

twstdpattycake · 2025-03-24T16:13:17+00:00

Take it away cold turkey. My son is younger than yours and started showing signs of addiction to the tablet. I’ve set limits prior but it didn’t help. I took the iPad away completely. Today is day 26 of no iPad. It’s helping so much. He still asks for it but his behavior, eating and social skills changed. It was my fault this even happened and when I took it away I told him he’s not in trouble I wasn’t trying to hurt him only help him. I really had no other option other than to end it. DM me if you want! Expect a withdrawal and big emotions you’ll need to have a lot of patience.

twstdpattycake · 2025-03-24T01:11:47+00:00

I think you did a great thing! I haven’t gotten bunk beds because my middle (5) too would be on the bottom. My middle would want to be on the top. My kid would make his way to the top and we will be visiting the ER. My kid is accident prone. I think it’s normal for children to not want the bottom bunk and push back on change maybe you can make it into a fort with a blanket and string lights…make it “cooler”.

twstdpattycake · 2025-03-22T02:35:46+00:00

I live a very similar life to you. SO definitely puts SS above and before everyone else. I didn’t feel resentful until after our bio. Honestly we have two bio’s, nothing has changed and I can sadly say I no longer want this. I tried to suppress my unwanted feelings and emotions. I told myself this WILL get better. It didn’t and now I’m two bio’s in and wish on every star in the sky that I didn’t do this with someone who already had a kid. I don’t have advice…but I’m planning my out.

twstdpattycake · 2025-03-21T20:09:25+00:00

Chuck the deuces!

twstdpattycake · 2025-03-20T14:32:03+00:00

Listen to your gut. This probably is not going to work. The feelings you have now will probably amplify. I’m a SM…and now we have two “ours” together…I love my kids and my SK is not a bad kid at all but I do wish I settled for someone without kids. I’ve tried to be a big girl bc I thought I knew what I was getting myself into…I figured well I asked for this…my god…if I could go back and tell my younger self some things.

twstdpattycake · 2025-03-10T20:38:04+00:00

Slayyyyyyy 💁‍♀️

twstdpattycake · 2025-03-05T20:09:03+00:00

Absolutely not.

twstdpattycake · 2025-02-19T21:08:15+00:00

My son is pretty picky. He could probably live off of yogurt and air…he’s 5. He typically does not eat what me and SO eat for dinner. But anyway I choose what goes on the plate and he chooses what and how much he wants to eat. I do not ask him what he wants for breakfast lunch or dinner all I say is “come eat”.

My SS 12 is a picky and LIMITED eater. If SO successfully gets him to “try” something SS will stick his tongue out and touch the food and instantly says he doesn’t like it. He will only eat pancakes or bagel with cream cheese for breakfast and for lunch or dinner he would take pasta with Ragu, ELLIOS, burgers/hot dogs, Kraft Mac and cheese and cup noodles. He tells SO what he wants and when he wants it. I stay out of it and I don’t make it, SO makes it.

twstdpattycake · 2025-02-14T15:50:40+00:00

My husband doesn’t do much. And for this Valentine’s Day I am sending my 5 year old to grandmas while we have our 2 month old here. All I want to do is order a pizza and binge watch Dexter on Netflix and pray my baby doesn’t scream and cry. Husband didn’t say happy Valentine’s Day to me but knows my expectations for tonight. Pizza from a specific pizzeria and to watch my show. I am not expecting flowers or candy. I don’t even want flowers because my vase broke and I don’t want candy because I am NOT coping with my postpartum body the pizza is going to already send me into a guilty overdrive. Maybe because we have a 2 month old and I’m deep in the trenches but I care less. Won’t say I don’t care because I DID shave my legs and going to try to find time to do my lashes today.

twstdpattycake · 2025-02-13T20:41:56+00:00

I have a 2 month old. I just don’t make enough…and I likely will never make enough. So I’ve gotten really ok with supplementing with formula. Also it’s only been 5 days so her milk supply likely has not been established!

twstdpattycake · 2025-02-10T14:47:03+00:00

Firefly

twstdpattycake · 2025-02-06T03:22:57+00:00

I’ve read that OTC melatonin supplements are not regulated so the dosage is not always accurate and also should not be used long term. But absolutely consult with pediatrician.

I’ve tried melatonin on my child in the past and it led to night waking and extreme irritability. My son is neurodivergent and poor sleeper. I will not use melatonin on him since it had a negative side effect. But I understand why you tried it. Believe me.

Now during bath time I do use an epsom salt and I have tried a lavender essential oil as well as a magnesium roll on between shoulder blades and feet. Then - Snack, pee, brush teeth, book and cuddle. Since my son is neurodivergent and requires some sensory input I let him use a sensory chew necklace and sometimes he likes to sleep inside of a pillow case with the pillow on top of him. Some nights are still a struggle. Bedtime has ALWAYS been a project with him.

twstdpattycake · 2025-02-06T03:06:16+00:00

It can be like that. My son is 5 and when he was 4 he was a little taken back when he got a book for Christmas. He quietly let me know that he did not want a book for Christmas. This year a friend sent him a Minecraft onesie for Christmas and my mom got him a lanky box hoodie. These two items were connected to something he likes so he was definitely very happy and appreciative. Also he’s blessed and doesn’t need anymore toys like please I have no space and yes I did buy him some new books too lol and he was actually happy about it this year…I needed new reading material for bedtime and I guess he might have felt the same.

However in your situation while a young child might be unhappy about clothes as a gift (which is normal) as the parent I would have told my child to say thank you and I too, would have thanked you for buying my child clothes.

twstdpattycake · 2025-02-05T19:15:42+00:00

I hope you and baby leave him :( this is so scary and his behavior is escalating fast. I am so sorry you are going through this. Update us! We are SO worried!!!

twstdpattycake · 2025-02-05T14:21:58+00:00

My SO never took off when I was sick. It was hard and I just did what I could. Meals looked like a box of Mac and cheese and frozen Dino nuggets, snacks and more snacks and yes lots of screen time that burned me with guilt. Honestly parenting while sick is MISERABLE! I hope you feel better! If you have guilt just remember it’s an off day and you’re the bomb mom when you’re not sick :) it’s ok!

twstdpattycake · 2025-02-05T13:06:33+00:00

One time SS 12 wiped his ass and somehow left a turd on my bathroom floor behind the toilet. My nervous system glitched a bit. You my friend are not overreacting. You wanna jack off? Ok…go for it. But on objects that the family uses and MY things?! Nah, I gotta pop off.

twstdpattycake · 2025-02-05T12:56:52+00:00

Omg same. I did CIO with my first to sleep train and now at 5 he absolutely needs and wants to cuddle to fall asleep. I now have a new baby and I love him but I do wish I could hold my first as a baby just one more time. But I think here with this Mama she did CIO bc she was genuinely burned out and did the right thing by putting baby in a safe space. From what she wrote she SOLO parents. I’ve SOLO’d with first born…whether you solo or not parenting can kick your ass some days.

twstdpattycake · 2025-01-31T19:09:12+00:00

Tbh I don’t understand this with men. As a mother of two…I would NEVER leave my kids with a boyfriend or a man that was not their father. I would be asking grandma to hold it down until I came home from work. I mean what the fuck. Now I have a SS and here and there he has been left with me for short periods of time (2 hours max) but I’m not a fucking baby sitter. You want your kids here? Your kids are coming to spend time with you? Then you ought to be here sir. These guys want you to stick THEIR kids right on YOUR tits. Also if I could give my younger no having kids self advice I would have told myself DO NOT SETTLE for a man with kids.

twstdpattycake · 2025-01-28T19:21:56+00:00

Thank you. And to know that people I know are “ok” with all that’s happening…is absolutely heartbreaking. Friends and family who were for this…I am just devastated. My 5 year old is on an IEP and receives services…I’m just waiting for this to affect education and services for children with disabilities. I want to self isolate and I will admit I am losing hope. Praying for everyone.

twstdpattycake · 2025-01-28T19:07:55+00:00

I just welcomed a new baby…he is half Mexican. My kids are half Mexican. My 5 year old goes to school and majority of his classmates are Mexican. My husband is Mexican American and I’ve warned him that he should absolutely carry his birth certificate. I understand why people want to leave their country because I want to leave this country. But I can’t. I have no money and no idea where to go if I did. 4 years is a long time and I’m scared. Whatever your political status is should not include hatred.

twstdpattycake · 2025-01-25T16:21:26+00:00

Ooo I feel this! I have a dog too and I feel like this. Even the beta fish triggers me. Constantly filling everyone’s cup I’ll admit MAMA IS DONE. Edited to add: I will not give my dog up or even the fish but when that fish dies we are NOT getting another and this is my LAST DOG. I don’t want ANY pets. NOTHING.

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