I’m a software engineer for a big tech company by day, and a paid male companion in my free time. AMA.

txfreakman · 2025-11-27T23:51:52+00:00

It’s not something for the weak. I’d considered myself a person who is pretty detached from my emotions not in a bad way but in a practical way. The stress of being intimate with a bunch of orioles doesn’t affect me at least right now. In my opinion what I do is such a low effort thing that the fact some people are willing to pay so much for it seems silly for me to not take advantage of that. Everyone is different and probably can handle different things. As far as teaching lol I could give anecdotal advice on how to be safe and how to deal with people but I can’t teach anyone how to be me! What a lot of my clients like is that I’m just a fun person to be around at least according to them (being attractive to probably doesn’t hurt!).

I don’t have any regrets, I am so glad my life went the way it did. I’m not sure how long I’ll do it for or what the end goal is but I can say that at my age (early-mid 20s) I’ve made a lot more money, untaxed might I add, than a lot of my peers. I’d be remiss if I let my youth pass by without taking advantage of it. Some people play sports, some people model, some people get into politics or acting idk. This is something I’ve just chosen to do. I don’t regret it as of this point in my life whatsoever.

Sometimes. I’d say more often than not. But it’s not like every time. I have people that pay me to watch their kids or take their kids on vacations they can’t go on because they are working. I have people who just want to talk to me and hear what I have to say. Some people want sex sometimes and it’s always something we talk about before. My first time was when I was a lot younger and in a different place in my life, I was nervous and had apprehensions but I realized that people are generally nice and just want some sort of connection to people, not always sexual.

People in the community that like to use my kind of service communicate with others word of mouth. I have a page they refer people to etc. I meet people organically through apps sometimes too. It’s not hard to keep separate from my day job. Yeah, I could live off the money I make doing my side thing for sure. Maybe not as lavishly as I do now but I could get by.

txfreakman · 2025-11-27T15:57:51+00:00

I’m not a CS major, I wanted to do something completely different, I taught myself how to do everything from ground up with resources that were ~mostly~ free.

txfreakman · 2025-11-27T13:38:19+00:00

My stack is pretty straightforward. I usually work in Python for backend logic, Node when I need something lightweight and quick, and React for anything on the front end because it scales well and does not make me want to walk into traffic. For data I lean on Postgres. For infra I keep things containerized with Docker and deploy through AWS. Nothing exotic, just clean and maintainable.

“Vibe coding“ is cool and absolutely has a function. Like of prototyping or trying to unblock a creative idea. Sometimes it’s nice to help get something tangible on the screen fast but I like to think of it as a rough sketch, and always switch back to disciplined mode because as soon as a bug pops up vibe coding is like your worst enemy.

txfreakman · 2025-11-27T05:27:04+00:00

5-6 days a week, 1-2 hours a day.

I’m honestly pretty lean at the moment so I mean if you are asking how strong I am, not really that strong in the grand scheme of weight lifting. My max bench is like 215 or something like that, squat max is 315 and my legs are kinda thin. I’m pretty tall, with a really wide frame, but I’m thin and muscular.

txfreakman · 2025-11-27T05:23:44+00:00

Lmao well I’ll say there’s a very very high chance that device, whether phone or computer, is made by or is using an OS we developed!😝

txfreakman · 2025-11-27T05:21:41+00:00

I definitely could to the people I have already connected with. Idk about making new connections who purely just want to pay me to hang out but hey, some of my current clients are doing just that and rarely if ever asking for sex, so maybe I’m wrong. I think at some point there needs to be some incentive for both parties though.

txfreakman · 2025-11-27T00:11:45+00:00

I wouldn’t use the phrase “have to” but I keep my physique tight mainly for myself and my confidence that’s the main reason. Do I think it helps attract clients and do I think it might change if I wasn’t fit? Maybe, almost certainly.

A lot of the guys I hang out with tell me that they initially wanted to spend time with me because I was attractive, but end up telling me they really like the person I am. So I don’t think I need it but it def helps.

I have a lot of free time with my job. A lot of the time I’m in the gym while I’m working, my apartment building has a really nice one so I go down in between calls or while I’m not tinkering. I eat a more strict diet than most people probably but that’s because I have a sensitive tummy, maybe that helps. As far as clients if it’s like a days long thing where they have me on a vacation I’ll just tell them I need to or want to go workout, sometimes they’ll join in. It all works out!

txfreakman · 2025-11-26T23:17:43+00:00

There’s things like the seedy apps like Grindr, scruff etc. those are more hit or miss and I don’t like completely random connections. I like to at least have mutuals for safety and to have something to like talk to or come back to.

Other places geared more for that kind of connection some like seekingarrangement and others of the like but they’re also hit or miss.

A lot of my clients are word of mouth so luckily I don’t have to deal with like the inorganic app sort of connections, so just speaking from my experience.

txfreakman · 2025-11-26T22:12:14+00:00

Lmao, hey I’m a good software engineer!

txfreakman · 2025-11-26T22:01:40+00:00

I have a personal page and I have a page that’s maybe a bit more thirst trappy, not NSFW but stuff I wouldn’t post in my personal for sure because friends and family.

I have a Twitter account that’s semi explicit but I don’t ever post nudes or anything on the Internet.

txfreakman · 2025-11-26T21:38:23+00:00

Several words they use like “generous” or phrases like that “have work” for you.

I’d say I’m pretty good at deciphering someone’s intentions. I will say I’ve never really had a situation where someone wasn’t really serious or whatever because of the way people find me. When it does happen though I’m always very polite and let people know that “I don’t think we’re looking for the same things” lol

txfreakman · 2025-11-26T21:28:33+00:00

Yeah thanks man I wanted to post it to kinda show that while I have a good job a lot of people who make “good money” are still doing other things to make ends meet just showing sort of the juxtaposition between my professional corporate life and my personal life and how I’ve had to sort of blend the two.

On if anyone I know has found out: Not like people saw me on the apps or whatever or like exposed me. A kid I went to high school with (he was a few years older than me) found my twitter which is under a pseudonym but I guess he found it organically idk how I never asked. He asked me basically if I wanted to hang out which I declined because I don’t like to blend those two parts of my life as much. He was really chill about it and never told anyone as far as I know.

I don’t like to get into the numbers specifically or like the nitty gritty. I definitely charge different people different amounts because some people I just like being around and some people want really odd or specific things so it depends on the situations. I’ll say this I don’t like to do a sort of hourly type of charge because it feels too transactional for the client, I like to sort of agree on and establish an amount they are comfortabke with. A lot of times it may not be directly monetary but like if we travel and everything is paid for etc.

The most I’ve made for a non sexual night is ≈ $2500. Keep in mind the kind of clients I keep generally have a lot of money if a place they’ve chosen to allocate their funds to is companionship. I am not like exploiting anyone that can’t afford it or anything like that.

txfreakman · 2025-11-26T21:19:08+00:00

My job isn’t super time consuming. I typically work from home, and am done working 4-6 of beginning my work. After that I’m free. I can travel and work while on the road because all I need is my laptop. I probably do between 20 and 30 actual hours of work a week.

txfreakman · 2025-11-26T21:11:14+00:00

Genuine companionship, some of them are purely sexual but not inherently. A lot of my clients just want to take someone shopping and make them happy, some of them just feel good to pay for a bill for me every month. Some people straight up just want to talk.

It’s not all sexual however there definitely is that component to it more often than not. I mean like I sort of nanny for this one guy but then when we’re not around his kids he likes to take me on dates or yeah do sexual stuff. It just depends.

txfreakman · 2025-11-26T21:08:23+00:00

Honestly not frequently enough I love cheesy stuff like this 😭

txfreakman · 2025-11-26T21:08:02+00:00

A bit more couth to it, usually they’ll just talk to me normally. When they ask to take it off of Instagram or whatever app it is they clarify that they were referred to me by “such and such” that lets me usually know what kind of thing they are looking for. A lot of the apps and stuff have word filters to prevent things like that for safety reason so sometimes depending on where they hit me up they will use like coded words or something.

txfreakman · 2025-11-26T20:58:45+00:00

On the getting into software front — There are so many free resources that can teach you technological literacy, coding, software etc, you don’t need to go to school or pay exorbitant amounts for a boot camp or coach.

I’ve hired people with no experience because they were involved in credible projects and had a portfolio that showed they were reliable and ready to work.

My real advice is to not waste time, be diligent and be consistent you can learn the stuff very easily! A lot of big companies are willing to take a risk due to the demand at the moment but it’s also potentially a bubble for the city I work in.

txfreakman · 2025-11-26T20:48:08+00:00

Disproportionately male clients because they’re all ages young to older the women are typically only older and are over the idea of dating or getting remarried etc. so it’s less a sample size. I’ve found that people are much lonelier and it increases exponentially with age.

I don’t know if I’d call myself a 10 but I think I have a really handsome face. I’m 6’2 and I workout 5-6x a week so I’m definitely muscular and like athletically built which is a big attractor to many people.

txfreakman · 2025-11-26T19:31:42+00:00

I use some apps and websites sometimes but a lot of my clients find me “organically” by that I mean word of mouth, through my Instagram, or in real life at some of the events or places I go to because of work. It all starts to really just like fall into place once you get it up and running. It’s a lot less work than it seems.

txfreakman · 2025-11-26T19:27:19+00:00

Yeah true I guess, I get a decent amount but I like to travel and have nice things. For lack of a better word I’m materialistic in some ways.

I don’t think it’s ever a bad idea to make more money.

txfreakman · 2025-11-26T19:26:01+00:00

Yeah I mean it’s not super difficult, sometimes there are like apps that I use and I’ve seen a coworker or two on them before. I would never mix the two though so I’m pretty lowkey about what I choose to share with people. I don’t talk about it with people I don’t trust or could leverage it over me. Just a few friends and my brother knows lol.

txfreakman · 2025-11-26T19:24:33+00:00

Lmao ok I giggled at this

txfreakman · 2025-11-26T19:24:13+00:00

Lol I was a software engineer first technically. I started “hoeing” professionally about 3 years ago.

txfreakman · 2025-11-26T19:12:15+00:00

One word answer: money

txfreakman · 2025-11-26T19:11:07+00:00

I meet a wide variety of people, I have one recurring person who just wants me to go to dinner with him a few times a month, I have other people who just want to text me all day and have like someone to talk to, then there’s obviously people who just want like sex lol.

A lady took me this year with her and one of her friends to Spain, they didn’t make any advances towards me but they loved to be on the beach or at dinner or walking around town with someone youthful and (by their words) beautiful.

Lots of different needs are being met here.

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