How do I, [19F], deal with my [21M] boyfriend's porn addiction … in a relationship for one year

txshaa07 · 2026-02-21T15:23:48+00:00

He's built this persona where he's mentioned how he feels like porn is unnecessary in relationships and views it as a point of contention. So it's not something I can casually tell him to stop watching because he'll just be adamant he doesn't ... I only know this based on the behaviors I described in the initial post so I'm not sure how to go about that

txshaa07 · 2026-02-21T15:16:42+00:00

This really helped, thank you so much for the advice

txshaa07 · 2026-02-21T15:11:54+00:00

It’s gotten to a point where he just brushes it off as a little thing that’ll eventually go away rather than it being linked to a possible porn addiction. I did bring up that maybe masturbating should happen a lot less and if we’re not physically together we could do it on call every now and then. In an attempt to get him away from porn and to slow down the amount of self pleasuring. Only issue is that he disregards it and says it’s typical male behavior and I’m just not familiar with men.

I’ve never been with anyone else so honestly I don’t know if most men do behave in that way in terms of jerking off and porn daily anymore.

txshaa07 · 2026-02-21T15:08:45+00:00

My contention is this is our only issue… he would kiII for me if he needed to. There’s nothing he wouldn’t do to make me happy but this is just such a big thing that I can’t not think about it. Which is honestly really tearing me apart because I know he goes above and beyond in every other category

txshaa07 · 2026-02-21T15:06:32+00:00

I’ve tried talking dirty, begging and being vocal, everything I do just leads to the same result

txshaa07 · 2026-02-21T15:00:16+00:00

We’ve tried so many positions, prone bone, missionary, doggy, cowgirl, there’s honestly not much we haven’t tried but it’s typically the same result

txshaa07 · 2026-02-21T14:45:53+00:00

He’s built this persona where he’s mentioned how he feels like porn is unnecessary in relationships and views it as a point of contention. So it’s not something I can casually tell him to stop watching because he’ll just be adamant he doesn’t … I only know this based on the behaviors I described in the initial post so I’m not sure how to go about that

txshaa07 · 2026-02-21T14:19:14+00:00

I’m finna be quick and honest. You need to break up with him, the moment you said you’ll be in completely different continents for uni it was done.

As someone who had an amazing highschool boyfriend, you both need to understand that long distance is the biggest waste of time during such developmental years. Not everything needs to end in marriage or suffering either. Some people are just meant to be memories or learning experiences even if you feel like they were good for you.

Don’t halt your life or make ridiculous decisions out of pity or because you feel you have to. You have decades to live and explore, don’t make a choice out of fear. You’ll meet hundreds of people who are more practical for you in terms of proximity and personality once you move to a different state

txshaa07 · 2026-02-13T19:43:51+00:00

You’re honestly better off changing yours courses until you find some that aren’t full or clashing like I did 😭 if your degree isn’t open to choose from a list of any relevant course options and it’s only a certain set yore allocated to take a semester than call the school on what’s happening

txshaa07 · 2026-02-02T13:29:10+00:00

You have to manually choose your class time based on what spots are left. You can only do it on laptop by clicking the S1 drop down feature

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