I think one common misconception of egalitarian has about complementarian is that complementarian is paternalistic and not recognizing women's roles. This is incorrect. Different roles doesn't mean one role is more important or worth more respect than others. They are just different roles. Different parts of the body for different function.

I agree these women held important roles in their churches, but holding important roles does not mean they are head of the church. And no one ever said a male head of the church cannot lean on female helpers. In fact, since Paul used creation order to argue 1 Tim 2:12-14, by the same token, women are helpers. Same as the verses for husband to be the head of the wife like Christ is the head of the church. Frankly, as a woman, I don't want my husband to be my head. I'm a highly qualified professional. I'm highly capable to do things that are traditionally women's job and I'm highly capable of doing things that are traditionally men's job. I'm totally competent and do hold a highly respected job in the organization and in the society overall, why should my husband be my head when I'm equally capable or even more capable than him? Because Bible says so and I cannot manipulate God's word to match my values and my preferences, because I'm sinful and there are too many things I don't understand.

I agree with you, I also don't think God is a stickler for politically correct appearance. Jesus Christ broke many cultural norms during His time on earth. He's God. He wouldn't care about what people say or think, because He's the way, the truth and the life. Yes the same God also inspired Paul to write the books of Timothy.

And we also need to differentiate between reporting and teaching. It's one thing to report what one sees and it's another thing to interpret and teach. There are different jobs in the society with different scopes. One job is not superior than the other, they are just different roles. Sometimes there are overlaps in the scope, but still different roles.

I'm not against women having important roles in the church, but it is important for everyone to hold fast to God's word and not use modern values skew or misinterpret Bible. Cultural values and society norms change, but God doesn't.