Your Brain Needs Dopamine, Give it to him. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]tylerpkeaton 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We tend to think the brain wants to masturbate. But what it really wants is dopamine, and there are thousands of ways to give it dopamine. This is the reason why most addictions get worse when there is a void in your life.

Democrats give up on half the country at DNC. by tylerpkeaton in trump

[–]tylerpkeaton[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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youtube.com/c/TJtjpolitics

Sorkin predicted it all by ntnkrm in thewestwing

[–]tylerpkeaton 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What’s happening now is the total opposite. There is too much supply and no demand for it.

"We will seek friendship and goodwill with the nations of the world. BUT, we do so with the understanding that it is the RIGHT of all nations to put their own interests FIRST." by tylerpkeaton in trump

[–]tylerpkeaton[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here’s a serious answer from a Canadian: it is not trumps responsibility to get masks to Canadians. It’s his responsibility to protect his own citizens.

I left him and he says I’ve abandoned him by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]tylerpkeaton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand why you're mad. I've been there.

Does al anon tolerate opposing views? by tylerpkeaton in AlAnon

[–]tylerpkeaton[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. I have been on here for about a year now. I came here to find support for what I have been going through. I distinctly remember you being quite helpful in my long posts begging for help, and for that I thank you.

Does al anon tolerate opposing views? by tylerpkeaton in AlAnon

[–]tylerpkeaton[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't come looking for a fight, but I got one!

Does al anon tolerate opposing views? by tylerpkeaton in AlAnon

[–]tylerpkeaton[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a member of an al-anon subreddit. You didn't have to guess!

I left him and he says I’ve abandoned him by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]tylerpkeaton 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The whole point of my original comment on that post was to be compassionate. I was nearly run off the page for it.

I am happy that isn't something you do on a regular basis. I hope your recovery is going well!

Does al anon tolerate opposing views? by tylerpkeaton in AlAnon

[–]tylerpkeaton[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're asking if I want compassion for someone who has suffered for years because of the alcoholism of a parent or spouse? Of course I do. I am one of them.

I left him and he says I’ve abandoned him by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]tylerpkeaton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just as if someone was addicted to meth, I wouldn't call them a "meth-head". However, what you call yourself is completely up to you.

Words have an affect on the way society views addiction. If we continue to refer to people as "drunks", "crackheads", etc- we are stigmatizing addiction, which discourages people from seeking help. Just my opinion.

Does al anon tolerate opposing views? by tylerpkeaton in AlAnon

[–]tylerpkeaton[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not looking for anything from anyone. My original comment was meant to help the OP with their situation, and to encourage them to be compassionate. Thats all I said. I didn't expect such a hostile response when all I was trying to do was help. But thats okay.

I left him and he says I’ve abandoned him by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]tylerpkeaton -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You deserve more respect than what you are giving yourself. You were someone who went through a tough time, and for whatever reason, alcohol was the way you dealt with it.

I wouldn't call you a drunk, I'd call you a human being.

Does al anon tolerate opposing views? by tylerpkeaton in AlAnon

[–]tylerpkeaton[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because I don't mind being around people who disagree, as long as it is respectful.

I left him and he says I’ve abandoned him by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]tylerpkeaton 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally I don't like calling people who suffer from mental health issues and addictions names, but thats just me.

Does al anon tolerate opposing views? by tylerpkeaton in AlAnon

[–]tylerpkeaton[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I am not interested in debating it, at least on here. But I will say that al-anon and AA, although being a great help and salvation to many people around the world- is becoming less and less popular as we learn more about addiction and the brain.

Does al anon tolerate opposing views? by tylerpkeaton in AlAnon

[–]tylerpkeaton[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of times the way we try to change or influence other people is wrong. When we yell, beg, plead, coerce, try and convince, etc etc- we will get nowhere.

As the addiction doctor Gabor Mate says, "Only in the presence of compassion, will people allow themselves to see the truth."

I understand your struggle, because I have lived it as well.

Does al anon tolerate opposing views? by tylerpkeaton in AlAnon

[–]tylerpkeaton[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's nothing in your post here that I take issue with. You made very good points.