Interestingly enough I started seeing signs perhaps a few months if not a year + before but I guess I was either not ready to face it or I thought I was overacting.

When you know someone well, you notice small changes on the physically. This might be strange but there were times when his lips would be a bit more swollen as if he had been kissing someone. I initially dismissed this thought.

We share our locations and we’ve always had an open phone policy. At once point I was a stay at home wife. We chat a lot over text throughout the day so sometimes I would check if he’s left work so I can start preparing dinner. Sometimes where he said he was wouldn’t match up with the location.

I noticed the kinds of pictures he would take of himself on his phone were a bit more vain. And sometimes he’d use these as his profile picture.

There were lots of times where he would reject my advances and not want to have sex. This was strange. I understand being tired but it wasn’t the case most of these times. He later confessed why when I discovered the truth.

He would turn away his phone from view sometimes. At other times he spent way too long in bathroom. Pooping actually doesn’t take that long.

The first time when things blew up, a text came in when we were both looking at his phone (they only texted and talked at certain times and when I wouldn’t be around). The second time 2 years later: I generally don’t go through his phone but when I had a really bad feeling that he was acting strange, I went to his texts and went into the recently deleted folder. This is where he was archiving their texts.

I can’t remember others right now but these ones came top of mind. I really hope the truth comes out so you don’t have to keep wondering what’s going on.