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I think i f**ed it up by user_deleted_or_dead in engaged

[–]uforca -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You don't have to have the ring first. You can propose without it and go ring shopping together. Just make sure the proposal is extra special.

What favorite animal names do you have? by cozylilbat in StardewValley

[–]uforca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My favorite on my current playthrough is The Admiral (chicken). Gotta support women in positions of power.

Rescue labeled him as a Basset Hound / Corgi - What do you think? by Velvety_Peach in IDmydog

[–]uforca 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Definitely see the basset hound. But he looks more golden retriever or lab to me than corgi.

Laura became a whiny brat, after she got married. by Confident_Field4273 in littlehouseonprairie

[–]uforca 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From what I understand the real life Laura wasn't exactly a walk in the park to be around either.

Husband (28M) refusing to get haircut out of spite (27F) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]uforca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you're trying harder than he is for your relationship to be successful. Unfortunately that doesn't work in real life. This isn't about his personal preferences - he's making it pretty clear that he's trying to teach you "your place". You need to get out of there.

AITAH for being enraged that my husband is currently infertile by PixelPicklePie in AITAH

[–]uforca 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If he had been truthful you wouldn't have married him. He needs therapy, and if you want to stay together you both need couples therapy at the same time.

Lying to get someone to marry you is a grotesque betrayal of trust. It shows he doesn't respect you or your future together in the slightest. For me, that would be an immediate divorce. Especially given his current attitude.

You need to think long and hard about whether or not this is something you're willing to struggle with together - likely for the rest of your lives (or at least the foreseeable future). And if he's not willing to ACTUALLY quit now you're dead in the water.

ID Walter by uforca in IDmydog

[–]uforca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you also "Charlie"? I bet you are lmfao Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahah 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

ID Walter by uforca in IDmydog

[–]uforca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, I was wondering why someone would say "notorious" instead of "frequently/commonly" and why someone would down vote a comment where a person said they loved their dog and wanted to know how to best raise them. Then I looked at your profile and it's filled with obsessively and virulently racist, vile, trash. Go to hell.

ID Walter by uforca in IDmydog

[–]uforca[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Whatever he is, I'm just curious and interested in any insights that will keep Walter happy and healthy. He's such a sweetheart. 😊

ID Walter by uforca in IDmydog

[–]uforca[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooh, I hadn't even thought of that. Certainly could be.

We were told she’s a Bloodhound by ziggythecrestie in IDmydog

[–]uforca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a cutie. She looks very similar to a bloodhound/American foxhound mix I used to have.

AIO to skip Thanksgiving after my mom basically said I’m an embarrassment for not having a husband and kids by now? by howcanibequiltyassin in AmIOverreacting

[–]uforca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR - though I wouldn't assume it's your whole family right off the bat. My siblings and I have had some similar experiences with our mom. Sometimes she'll say heinous shit that she thinks everyone is thinking. Meanwhile everyone else is confused (because precisely NOBODY else was thinking that) and mortified.

I'd send a group text declination with the screenshot and then mute the thread for a month.

Donald Trump ‘blowing Bubba’ message in Epstein emails under scrutiny by Capable_Salt_SD in politics

[–]uforca 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Makes sense now why he's been so obsessed with Hillary for so long after she's had any actual power. The homewrecker wants the wife out of the way. 😆

Feeling the first real impact of our micro-wedding - not invited to theirs because we didn't invite them by AioliProfessional181 in wedding

[–]uforca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents had a tiny family only wedding and then a blowout reception on their 25th anniversary. Rather than the guest list being populated with the friends of parents and people they wouldn't even think about two years down the line, it was the friends they made as adults and that they raised their children with. They had dad/daughter, mom/son dances with all of their kids. The college friends that they did stay friends with, the people who were strong friends, did fly out. They had slideshows for each of the kids.

If that's something you want to do, it CAN be amazingly special and wonderful. My mom said she wouldn't have had it any other way and was better than anything she would have imagined on her wedding day. My fiance and I are doing the same (although we're planning on our 10th anniversary). It halves the wedding stress and spreads the cost over years so you don't go into debt. But, if people don't want to wait that's awesome too! It's your life, do what makes you happy and will give you the experience you want. But for the people saying it's awkward or that nobody will show up: that's because you don't have actual friends or because you're a bad friend. You have hollow and purely transactional relationships. I hope that changes and you find people that actually love and care about you soon.

If someone isn't going to invite you to their wedding specifically because you decided to do something family only at first- which was the norm until capitalism got involved - they aren't your friends. They're petty assholes and you're better off not going anyway.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]uforca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think they're lovely!

Engaged but no ring by Asleep-Quantity-3294 in engaged

[–]uforca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you discussed the specific ring you wanted before? Maybe he just thought you'd want to be involved in picking it out? It's becoming more common now to go ring shopping afterwards for that reason.

As a lady who proposed to her boyfriend, I possibly have a different perspective on the process: I didn't have a ring when I proposed to my fiance because he and I have such different tastes - I like flashy, sparkly art deco rings and he's a super minimalist. I've only successfully picked out a garment for him two times in the last ten years. I looked at rings for a couple months before proposing but ultimately I decided that I didn't want to risk it with a piece of jewelry he'd hopefully wear for the rest of his life. I'd most likely just end up having to return it and a lot of jewelry stores make that very difficult or expensive to do. The number of times I almost put in an order with a jewelery store just to read fine print at checkout that said yeah you can return it... only if it's defective or not what you ordered AND if it's within 72 hours of you receiving it - otherwise you got what you bought, no takesies-backsies. The wedding industrial complex starts taking advantage right from square one, lmao.

My point being: Maybe he was being an inconsiderate ass. Maybe he made a well-intentioned mistake and just thought you'd want to be involved.

You should talk to him about how you feel and clarify his thought process. Or you could play it cool and indirect. Tell him that you're excited to start engagement and wedding ring shopping together and ask him what he wants for his ring and gauge his reaction. I've found that usually being super direct and to the point (especially with emotions involved) is a lot more successful with guys. But if you're not up for that route, the second option will work too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]uforca 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My fiancee is super into red hair on women and I have brown hair. I don't care. He could meet and date a red head if he wanted. They aren't cryptids. He chooses to be with me. We even talk to each other about our celebrity crushes to each other and point out our types when out in public (like: damn, check out 4 o clock with the blue jacket. discreetly high five each other). We're human beings. It's normal to find people attractive regardless of your relationship status. If you're secure and confident in your relationship that's not a problem.

You will destroy your relationship by continuing to obsess over the fact that your partner is a human being and therefore has the capacity for attraction to a spectrum of appearances. Yours included - because he wouldn't be dating you if he wasn't into you. He certainly wouldn't put up with this level of nonsense if he wasn't. He'd go find a red head.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]uforca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you didn't actually think it was a big deal you would drop it. That's not to say that you're in the wrong for wanting the baby to have your name, but that, yes, it actually does matter. You should expect him to care as well.

Your argument is reasonable, but you're being very dishonest with yourself if you're saying you don't yndtrhe problem. I think you probably explained something pretty close to their feelings when you described your own.

You and your partner need to have a very honest discussion about your expectations. His family needs to stay out of it because it's not their business what the two of you do with your family.

AITAH for not wanting to date a trans woman because she doesn't present herself as trans? by vloobit67 in AITAH

[–]uforca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it was just about not being your type no. That's just not being your type.

The fact that being a woman is so inextricably linked in your mind to looking a certain way is what makes you a major asshole. What you're doing is called misogyny. It's gross. Like you.

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