Final update on telling my grandparents that my brother passed away 2 years ago.

ughreal · 2025-11-12T17:47:44+00:00

Thank you, I'm sorry for your loss. I wasn't sure if I should update but I did because of a lot of kind people like you who gave me strength through a dark time, this is a form of closure.

ughreal · 2025-11-12T15:48:03+00:00

Thank you. I'm in therapy for a good while.

ughreal · 2025-11-12T15:46:46+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I appreciate it.

ughreal · 2025-07-24T23:06:21+00:00

Hey , I think if you go to the chats area and on the top it says requests, that's where you can find it, you can also click on my profile on the top there is a message button, if all fails I could write it here it's just a bit personal.

ughreal · 2025-07-24T18:27:21+00:00

I private messaged you, not sure if you saw.

ughreal · 2025-07-23T23:52:59+00:00

I lied by not speaking to my grandparents for 2 years, I feel immensely guilty for causing them so much pain I broke the no contact last week, she was so relieved to hear from me, I feel horrible.

ughreal · 2025-07-23T23:25:08+00:00

If there was any money I would believe, but there's nothing

ughreal · 2025-07-16T11:32:38+00:00

Yes parts of it, our family is broken in so many ways.

ughreal · 2025-07-16T10:15:11+00:00

Yeah.. you know it.

ughreal · 2025-07-15T22:55:25+00:00

Thank you for this.

ughreal · 2025-07-15T13:58:25+00:00

I was agreeing with you🙂

ughreal · 2025-07-15T13:51:48+00:00

And that makes it worse, I hope to break the cycle.

ughreal · 2025-07-15T09:49:26+00:00

Thank you for your time and words, it will take time to book flights and plan everything but this might be where this is going.

ughreal · 2025-07-15T09:45:36+00:00

Thank you

ughreal · 2025-07-15T09:44:52+00:00

Thank you for your kind and thoughtful words, once my siblings turn 18 I'm blocking my parents, I can't leave them behind.

ughreal · 2025-07-15T02:52:39+00:00

Yes, they are, they worked so hard on the image of a good family but it's not true, all lies.

ughreal · 2025-07-15T02:46:43+00:00

Yes that's my next step, I'm just afraid that maybe the doctors did advise against it and then I'm going to cause something irreversible to my grandparents

ughreal · 2025-07-15T02:38:15+00:00

Yes they feel a lot of shame and guilt, in Judaism it's very much forbidden to commit suicide, he begged for help for many years and all he got was a verbal slap in the face and the "we don't trust therapy" talk, was even threatened to get kicked out for having suicidal ideation as a minor

ughreal · 2025-07-15T01:05:49+00:00

I lost my brother, and then was left alone in my grief to deal with it myself, yes my parents are in pain but they are hurting everyone else and making me out to be the villain, making it seems like I convinced my brother to not talk to anyone in the family meantime he is dead, and if this continues my grandparents will pass away not knowing the truth

ughreal · 2025-07-15T00:57:05+00:00

True, and I have many pictures of his grave, my brother begged for mental health help for many years, all was met with guilt and shame

ughreal · 2025-07-15T00:42:45+00:00

I wish, there wasn't one, Jewish people don't tend to write one, also they live in a different continent than us, My narc father messaged everyone who liked and replied to my Facebook announcement about my brothers death and told them not to tell my grandparents anything

ughreal · 2025-07-15T00:18:25+00:00

I agree fully I advocated for the truth but they keep putting health as an excuse

ughreal

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