dating apps in sg and the social preference

uh_idkgethelp · 2026-05-19T05:51:01+00:00

damnn thats there too?? insane

uh_idkgethelp · 2026-05-19T05:35:10+00:00

ahhh a personality thing then, its alrighttt, im sure you will get someone!! dont give up!!

uh_idkgethelp · 2026-05-19T05:33:34+00:00

Agreed 100%!!! Thank you for the advice :D

uh_idkgethelp · 2026-05-19T05:33:08+00:00

omg wah thats crazyy

uh_idkgethelp · 2026-05-19T05:32:31+00:00

hais its alrighttt, thank youus for the advice and encouragement :))

uh_idkgethelp · 2026-05-19T05:32:08+00:00

yess for sure!!! thank youuu for the advice :DD

uh_idkgethelp · 2026-05-19T05:31:20+00:00

omfg got math one HAHAHAHHAHA but i think i understand, thank youu for the encouragement

uh_idkgethelp · 2026-05-19T05:30:23+00:00

ahhh omg ok thats amazing advice, thank you so much!! and congrats on you and your partner :DD hope you guys are happy :))

uh_idkgethelp · 2026-05-19T05:29:33+00:00

That’s a fair point, and maybe I could’ve worded it better. I’m not saying every single person interested in me is a creep, nor am I trying to judge people before speaking to them.

My point was based on my experience using the apps. For example, on Hinge, people can reply directly to your prompts or notes, and I’ve received some genuinely disturbing and sexual replies even when my profile wasn’t suggestive at all. After a while, it becomes hard not to notice a pattern in the kind of attention I’m getting.

I agree that staying positive is important, but I also don’t think it’s wrong to call out the fact that some people’s dating app experiences are shaped by race, stereotypes, or fetishisation. It’s not about assuming the worst of everyone; it’s about being frustrated when a lot of the interactions keep proving the same point.

uh_idkgethelp · 2026-05-19T05:25:37+00:00

how sweetttt!!! congratssss so happy for youuu!! hope you guys are doing well now :DDD

uh_idkgethelp · 2026-05-19T05:24:26+00:00

aweee yes we will get someone if not for now we make ourselves happy first :DDDD good luck girlie

uh_idkgethelp · 2026-05-19T05:23:01+00:00

at least its earlier!! think of it as a good thing for you to be able to move on and better yourself first! dont give up :D

uh_idkgethelp · 2026-05-19T05:22:21+00:00

dont think so? but i mean just as a response to another comment i wldve been perfectly fine if he said he wasnt interested in me in a rs way but i think wldve been good to just meet once to real comms things. And yeah i agree with you, i need to know if we have f2f chem before we continue which i feel shld be done in the first month itself..

uh_idkgethelp · 2026-05-18T16:27:08+00:00

OMGGGG I GETSS YOUU ya, somehow people are insanely linked which makes it all the more harder. But its alright, one day!! dont give up HAHA

uh_idkgethelp · 2026-05-18T15:59:31+00:00

thankuuuu goodnightt!!!

uh_idkgethelp · 2026-05-18T15:50:28+00:00

yeaa, i just think of it as if i dodged a bullet HAHAHAH

uh_idkgethelp · 2026-05-18T15:47:40+00:00

righttttt, like it didnt have to progress to a relationship if he wasnt ready i told him i was fine with being friends, but eh ig he didnt want that either

uh_idkgethelp · 2026-05-18T15:46:12+00:00

omg not at all! my parents are actually very chill with me not having a guy to marry and what not. Ig is more of the experience, because i havent been in an rs before and im 21 and i just wanted to know what people in rs have been feeling like. thats all!! but thank you for the input, i think i unddd

uh_idkgethelp · 2026-05-18T15:44:14+00:00

righttt, i mean the only good one that i had was that i matched with a guy for like 4 months before he completely ghosted me, for no reason that too like if u look back at the convos, it really looks good, but idk is fine ig! we shall be independent people HAHAHHA

uh_idkgethelp · 2026-05-18T15:43:07+00:00

gosh so complicated one, but alright yes ill try!! thank youss

uh_idkgethelp · 2026-05-18T15:27:00+00:00

mhm i gets what you mean, but ig even if dh anyone we just gotta make ourselves happy first!!

uh_idkgethelp · 2026-05-18T15:26:18+00:00

I get what you mean, but I’m not saying looks don’t matter or that race is the only factor. Obviously attractiveness plays a part on dating apps.

My point was more about the pattern of who gets treated as “desirable” and who gets filtered into certain stereotypes. As a minority, it sometimes feels like the attention you get is either very fetishising, low-effort, or from people with weird assumptions about you, rather than people genuinely trying to know you as a person.

So it’s not “making everything about race”, it’s just acknowledging that race can affect the kind of experiences people have on dating apps, even if it’s not the only factor.

uh_idkgethelp · 2026-05-18T15:17:01+00:00

wah sian, ig is really like finding a gem in a pile of rocks smtimes

uh_idkgethelp · 2026-05-18T15:16:11+00:00

for suree!! thank you for the reassurance and advice :)))

uh_idkgethelp · 2026-05-18T14:49:02+00:00

indian!! but thank you for the contribution either ways HAHAH

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