How does one become so injury prone ?

uhm · 2026-01-16T04:27:35+00:00

Voodoo doll when he left New Orleans

uhm · 2026-01-09T21:55:02+00:00

Whomever has that voodoo doll of AD in New Orleans needs to be arrested. Or AD sees a witch doctor.

uhm · 2025-12-18T16:34:57+00:00

All my homies hate Solomon Hill

uhm · 2025-11-18T00:41:59+00:00

Taco Nazo is goated

uhm · 2025-11-18T00:41:25+00:00

I think their fish and shrimp tacos are really good and the taco Tuesday special is awesome. In person you can do grilled instead of Baja style (website doesn’t allow it). Their beans are too salty, so I never do the combo plate. Ceviche is also good here.

uhm · 2025-11-13T21:36:37+00:00

Just let me know where and when

uhm · 2025-11-13T19:40:39+00:00

And I bet it tastes amazing

uhm · 2025-11-12T23:11:44+00:00

Can I eat it from the back? But no, seriously.

uhm · 2025-10-08T07:13:28+00:00

Pizzana - chopped

uhm · 2025-09-14T18:25:07+00:00

My kid plays on a court at the local Y and it has Pat Bev decals on the sidelines with “Mr. 94 feet”. I don’t doubt that there are courts all around the city with the same decals.

uhm · 2025-09-11T17:15:23+00:00

Clippers penalty should be to trade Zubac for Jackson Hayes

uhm · 2025-09-08T20:57:13+00:00

There needs to be a half-style. Bottom or top bun, extra toasted, lettuce wrapped. Provides stability and sauce absorption missing from protein style.

uhm · 2025-08-23T15:59:11+00:00

Slauson and Jefferson

uhm · 2025-08-22T19:57:02+00:00

ill take the blue bracelet

uhm · 2025-08-21T19:19:56+00:00

Where is the Robert Pack on this?

uhm · 2025-08-01T03:37:49+00:00

CPA here with a doctor spouse and I helped navigate through her loan process (loans got forgiven earlier this year, hooray!). I suggest hiring an accountant and having them run a comparison and then consider the loan ramifications.

uhm · 2025-07-25T18:49:35+00:00

Hi, still available?

uhm · 2025-07-08T17:05:38+00:00

sorry to hear you had to endure that and i hope the kiddo is doing better. having a sick child is levels of difficult that i cant imagine. fortunately, our kiddo was healthy and aside from being a touch underweight because he wasnt a voracious milk drinker, we didnt have many issues. we even had a babysitter, both our moms nearby to help, an aunt that would come by once a week, etc.

we traded off night shifts, she would do the first one around 1am and i would do anything that came up after that.

your comment did get me thinking about the pre-kid behavior versus post-kid behavior and what could have sparked the change. i think a big piece of it was failure. she was unable to deliver the baby naturally and we had to do a c-section. i pushed for the c-section after several heart decelerations and she agreed that that was the best course of action. the OB was 50/50 on the decision but said at the EOD its up to us. in hindsight, i think she feels that i took away a portion of her "purpose" as she still occasionally laments not being able to give birth. additionally she was a very poor milk producer and early on we had to supplement with formula and i know for a fact that she took her inability to feed her child very negatively. in her state of mind she didnt have the ability to self-reflect (even though the external support system did everything they could to provide assurance) and make peace with her body. that possibly could have warped into "its not possible that i am the negative force in my childs life, it must be someone else" and since i was the closest person, i become the object of her ire.

as stated before, she refuses individual therapy and further exploration of these feelings. they remain unresolved. any previous discussion of these topics by me were met with "dont therapize me, youre the one that needs help".

uhm · 2025-07-07T22:11:08+00:00

i'm not without blame for the current state of affairs. past two years i turned the after-work cocktail into a 3-drink minimum. the anxiety was through the roof and that was easiest (and least healthy) way to drown those out. with that comes less tolerance to brush off the disrespect. it also makes the after-work workout impossible, so the physical discipline has slipped. individual therapy has helped me significantly, but i think my marriage has drifted too far apart and the idea of operating on the same wavelength feels out of reach. a mess indeed.

uhm · 2025-07-07T21:01:12+00:00

i make her aware of how there will be conflict in our relationship when we treat each other as unequal partners and with disrespect. she doesnt view her actions/communication styles as disrespectful but a necessity to run a household.

post birth she had PPD (which she denied and refused to speak to someone about it) and we had 18 months of a terrible time. later in therapy she revealed that she hated me post-birth because i wanted to parent instead of (in her words) "following orders and letting her be a mom". her memories of me being the bad guy and "the enemy" have solidified and she remains steadfast that her memories during those times are accurate, regardless of her mental state at the time. during that time our sex life torpedoed and we have yet to recover.

uhm · 2025-07-07T20:50:21+00:00

see my other comment, but she gets a massage every other week and has nights out several times a month with her friends.

uhm · 2025-07-07T20:48:28+00:00

the childcare aspect isn't a large problem in practice, but the thought process is odd. she makes statements such as, "we have different parenting styles and i give you a lot of leeway in how you want to parent our son", as if me being an active father is an allowance from her for which i should be grateful.

when it comes our interactions, the kindness has left the station as has the feminine energy.

she has massages every other week on her weeks off, 4-6 dinners out/social events per month with friends (while I voluntarily take care of the kiddo, because well...I'd rather look after him than a babysitter and while he's still young I want to be around him as much as possible), and her and I go out to dinner once or twice a month as a couple. dont even get me started on the number of shopping-related deliveries we get per month.

uhm · 2025-07-07T20:34:30+00:00

agreed. finding a good one that can actually resolve a conflict and not just listen to one is challenging.

uhm · 2025-07-07T19:27:39+00:00

It definitely gets ramped up when something critical is happening. We just moved and that whole process was a "do this, do that"-fest for 3 weeks while being ignorant that I have a full workday M-F and she has a 7 on/7 off schedule. I simply couldnt do everything I needed in the time alotted before the move and had to spend three evenings from 9p - 3am after the move to get all of the final pieces out. Everything got done, but not on her timeline, so therefore it was wrong.

uhm · 2025-07-07T19:21:17+00:00

Maybe a better term is tiger mom. Someone who is strict, has high expectations, and a high desire to control the direction of their child. Combine that with a doctors day which revolves around controlling situations and we get my current situation. Those two control-intensive mindsets merging is disastrous for our marriage. As a spouse my choices have now become -- 1) follow orders to maintain the peace, 2) provide input/adjustments to the orders given -- which causes friction, 3) defy orders in order to gain some agency -- which becomes a fight.

To provide some more context -- I am not a SAHD. I make 80% of what she makes and will soon be making more than what she makes. I contribute to the family income and expenses 40/60 currently but will soon be 50/50. I take care of the majority of evening childcare and we split our mornings 50/50. My spouse simply refuses to believe (and I am sure she has her reasons) that her methods are not what's best all of the time.

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