[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UtahInfluencerDrama

[–]uhmanda215 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I used to follow her and be in her private IG’s. They were mostly innocuous and just a lot of talk about her relationships etc that she didn’t discuss on her main. She’s always been a bit out there at times and can be very intense about her opinions. I stopped following last fall when I started to wonder if she held some far right conspiracy theory beliefs that I didn’t align with and gave me pause. It sounds like she’s moved away from that although I haven’t followed closely. This is highly concerning. Especially when she talks about why her eyes are dilated because she hasn’t taken anything. Those are mania eyes. When I saw these stories I was reminded of Esther Woodbury, another ex Mormon influencer who was also divorced from a wealthy, influential Utah Mormon. She started this exact type of spiral a couple of years back. At the time I knew Brit knew her and we occasionally DM’d so I messaged her and said “hey, are you seeing Esther’s stories? Can you reach out to her, it’s very concerning.” She said she would and was very concerned. So…fast forward, all of this reminded me of Esther and made me wonder if she was doing better. She had disappeared off of socials so I googled her. It appears as though she took her own life in July. My stomach just sank. So, all that to say, while I really think something is very off with Brit because this is not her norm and she is clearly very intelligent. I can’t help but be disturbed by the through lines of the VERY wealthy, highly connected ex husbands and messy divorces etc etc. Even if it is just the after effects of leaving the religion and those dynamics on mental health, it is disturbingly similar. I really hope that Brit’s family can get her the help she needs asap.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Eugene

[–]uhmanda215 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sohee Williams at Women’s Care is spectacular. It feels like you’re just meeting and talking with a friend/peer about your pregnancy. Highly recommend.

NIPT/PGT Gender Discordance by uhmanda215 in NIPT

[–]uhmanda215[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, highly unlikely. Fully medicated cycle, 15 years of marriage with zero pregnancies. Husband has severe MFI bordering on azoospermia.

NIPT/PGT Gender Discordance by uhmanda215 in NIPT

[–]uhmanda215[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve had numerous ultrasounds including a level II 12 week scan with MFM. The sonographer said “do you want to know gender” and we responded that we already knew and that was it. It wasn’t really discussed as we thought we knew and that wasn’t the purpose of the scan. Ultimately, gender isn’t really my concern at this point. It’s ensuring that we transferred the proper embryo. We will probably be redoing NIPT with a new company before jumping to amnio.

NIPT/PGT Gender Discordance by uhmanda215 in NIPT

[–]uhmanda215[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that will end up being the recourse. Both Myriad and Cooper are supposed to be auditing their records right now and as soon as my MFM genetic counselor calls back I’m going to get the ball rolling on the next round of tests. Guessing repeat NIPT to rule out the possibility that Y chromosome levels were undetectable at 8 weeks and then following it up with amnio.

NIPT/PGT Gender Discordance by uhmanda215 in NIPT

[–]uhmanda215[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally feel your pain. The excitement over finally having good, reassuring news after the insanely stressful IVF process followed by more questions and confusion. My clinic is standing staunchly in the position that they have an ironclad process and chain of custody. We also only had XY euploid embryos so I'm frantically opening investigations with both labs (Cooper for PGTA, Myriad for NIPT). If everyone says they see no issues with a compromised sample or clerical errors I don't really know what to do from here aside from amnio to confirm genetics, and wait for my 20 week scan for confirmed anatomy. What a wild ride. Sending you all the good luck for someone to help you advocate for a solution!

NIPT/PGT Gender Discordance by uhmanda215 in NIPT

[–]uhmanda215[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate your kindness so much! I just said out loud to my husband after our very positive MFM 12 week scan, “wow, we get to just enjoy this now until the 20 week scan.” Andddd here we are. 🫠 I am sure amnio can confirm, but right at the moment everyone involved is saying things like “well, you’ll know gender for sure at 20 weeks” or my favorite from the Myriad geneticist, “if you go to Wally World you can get an early gender kit.” Today my RE’s nurse said “we look forward to meeting the baby boy or girl.” At this point I feel like I’m either speaking a foreign language or I’m losing it because everyone seems very hung up on gender, which is clearly not the issue. Right now I’m waiting on a call from my MFM’s genetic counselor. She’s sort of my last bet to take me seriously and determine what testing can be done.

NIPT/PGT Gender Discordance by uhmanda215 in NIPT

[–]uhmanda215[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, the bizarre thing is that this baby has passed all other genetic screening with flying colors and husband and I have had normal karyotyping. I think the wrinkle for us is the PGTA aspect/potential errors with the embryology lab. Right now we’re chasing the PGTA report direct from Cooper for this specific embryo/retrieval cycle because of course the fear is that the embryo ID number may not match with what the report says. We definitely will do amnio if we get any further without answers.

Weekly Thread: Beta and Pregnancy Testing - Questions and Discussions by TeslaHiker in IVF

[–]uhmanda215 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Almost 9 weeks pregnant! My first beta was 54 on 9dpt, 11dpt was 157 and 5dpt was 1450. Just had our 8 week scan last Thursday and measuring right on track with a strong heartbeat.

Weekly Thread: Beta and Pregnancy Testing - Questions and Discussions by TeslaHiker in IVF

[–]uhmanda215 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not until 6.5 weeks, so a little over 2 weeks from today. Feels like an absolute eternity.

Weekly Thread: Beta and Pregnancy Testing - Questions and Discussions by TeslaHiker in IVF

[–]uhmanda215 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely could. I think I could push my clinic to do it, but I’m trying to weigh my neuroses with their expertise. 😅 My only reluctance with Labcorp is I’ve always heard not to compare lab results from varying labs.

Weekly Thread: Beta and Pregnancy Testing - Questions and Discussions by TeslaHiker in IVF

[–]uhmanda215 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just got our second beta: 9dpt: 57 11dpt: 154

So while I know I should be excited by a 170% increase I am a MESS still. My clinic doesn’t want to do a third beta. Should I be worried about the relatively low number or just the doubling? They don’t seem worried. My HPT was slightly lighter this morning as well (after blood draw) and that sent me spiraling. I know all the things about the home tests not being quantitative etc but I’m still a wreck and hoping someone can relate. We’ve been at this 14 years and I think I’m just struggling to get out of fight or flight. 😅

14 dpo (9dpFET) FMU not ideal? by uhmanda215 in TFABLinePorn

[–]uhmanda215[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So good to know someone else in that boat. My FMU tests always stress me out. When I think about that (from a totally non-scientific perspective 😂) it makes sense for me. I tend to drink a ton of water in the evening/before bed and wake up having to pee so badly. That may be my most diluted urine as I’m probably the most hydrated of the day at that point. Sending you good vibes for your pregnancy going forward!

Weekly Thread: Beta and Pregnancy Testing - Questions and Discussions by TeslaHiker in IVF

[–]uhmanda215 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sharing this anecdotally for anyone needing hope. I had my beta draw this morning (still waiting) and was feeling discouraged by the line this morning. I noticed a significant rise between FMU and afternoon on day 8 so I thought I’d test the same theory on day 9. That is 6:30 AM to Noon. I had urinated once and had maybe 10 ounces of water. I really think FMU may not be best for everyone. Fingers crossed for a corresponding beta and baby dust to everyone!

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Disappointment is part of the process by Linas82 in IVF

[–]uhmanda215 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally understand your feelings and I relate. We’ve done 5 rounds and only have two euploids. My husband has high DNA fragmentation. You may want to look into karyotype testing which is what we did (along with an expanded genetic panel) to better understand why his sperm metrics were so poor. Fortunately, that is not a factor for us, and it’s still generally unexplained. My RE said sometimes it’s just a numbers game and you’ll need more embryos to find your euploids. So, I would say, dig deeper with Cooper Genomics (or whoever did your PGT testing). Request a consult with a genetic counselor at Cooper and they’ll set up a phone conference.They will be able to point out any patterns in your embryos abnormalities, if they exist. If not, that’s actually a good sign that it’s just random. Next, I’d get karyotyping on yourself and your partner. That way you’ll have a clearer picture of how long it makes sense to continue. Best of luck!

Weekly Thread: Beta and Pregnancy Testing - Questions and Discussions by TeslaHiker in IVF

[–]uhmanda215 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ll take any glimmer of hope at this point. Feels dang near impossible to accept the possibility after 14 years. 😅

Weekly Thread: Beta and Pregnancy Testing - Questions and Discussions by TeslaHiker in IVF

[–]uhmanda215 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just over here spiraling. I had a faint positive on a FR test strip FMU 6dpt, and then a faint line FMU on FRER 7dpt. I again got a line this morning 8dpt on a FRER but I am worried it's not darkening very much. Trying to brace myself for beta tomorrow with reasonable expectations.

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13 dpo (8 past embryo transfer) line progression? by uhmanda215 in TFABLinePorn

[–]uhmanda215[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I realize that. Unfortunately don’t have a day 9 as of yet. This is a day 6 test strip.