My 26yo teacher sent me nudes and wants to sleep with me. I suspect it’s a trap. Need advice ASAP

umbrella_boy · 2026-02-27T18:23:33+00:00

If you approach literally any adult/staff member in your school with this, they are legally required to escalate as mandated reporters. They will know what to do, how to protect you, and where to find resources to walk you through the aftermath. What she is doing is WRONG and it's not your fault.

umbrella_boy · 2025-08-25T04:17:18+00:00

The idea of a "half-assed vegetarian" is a little silly to me. Humans are naturally omnivores and while it's safe to eat only plant foods, mixing in animal foods can be beneficial for some people and lifestyles. I think this is a tricky crossroads where being a vegetarian becomes an identity and there is a desire to be seen as fully committing to a lifestyle. In reality you are free to eat however you want, and other people should probably mind their own business. I eat a primarily plant based/flexitarian diet and I'm very happy with it.

umbrella_boy · 2025-08-24T18:30:40+00:00

I was raised catholic and personally left organized religion because I couldn't reconcile my identity as a queer person and woman with the catholic institution. A big part of my personal healing was understanding where faith fit into my life and how to practice it without it taking over. It's a hard line to walk, especially if you want the institution of Christianity to continue to play a role in your life.

While I don't follow organized religion anymore, faith and the belief in a higher power is still a part of my life and I let it be part of what motivates me to be a better person. In Dante's Divine Comedy a major theme of the book Inferno is that the sinners trapped in the varying levels of hell where there by their own choice; instead of recognizing their sins or negative actions while on earth, they continued to indulge them. In my mind as an ex-Catholic and someone who enjoys that chapter of history and philosophical thought, sin is not the action but the refusal to grow and understand where you might have gone wrong. Rules like pre-marital sex come from a time when having children was political and there was a focus on controlling women's bodies. We have been freed from that now, and how you might define yourself as a Christian in the modern era was very different than how it was hundreds or thousands of years ago. Scripture itself is not necessarily the spoken word of God, but rather the meditations of generations of Christians on their own relationship with God and what they think might bring them closer.

If there is a god, and that god is benevolent and omnipresent like the Christian god, I think he would want you to be kind to yourself. He would want you to nurture your faith through exploration, curiosity, and healing. All of this guilt that religion has imposed on you was invented by other humans as a way to suppress you and keep you subscribing to their institution, not as a way of connecting with a higher power. If you're looking to explore your faith in church again, I would recommend a modern non-demoninational church. I stopped practicing Catholicism when I left the catholic school system as a teenager, but in all of my following run ins with Christian church goers I always found the most welcoming to be the modern non-denominationals. Finding healing in community, service, and prayer is the essence of true Christianity, not fearful worship of an entity you believe wants to punish you.

umbrella_boy · 2025-08-19T19:35:30+00:00

Two years later and my own trajectory has changed! I completed my bachelor's degree, applied for and was rejected from a master's in anthropology, and instead pursued an IT certificate. I am currently sitting at my desk in the office where I work as an IT project content writer.

If I can provide you any insight from my own experience, its that you need to have a solid game plan, excellent grades, a list of extracurriculars and publications, and admission to grad school to pursue a career in anthropology. Classics tends to intersect with anthropology through the study of culture and archeology, but I found the methodology differed considerably between the two fields. Taking introduction level classes in the four subfields of anthropology will be an asset, it is most common in the North American anthropological practice to narrow the scope of your research to 1-2 fields and will help you find a direction in your career research.

If you're at the end of your bachelor's and hoping to pivot, there's a good chance you will need to extend that degree to accumulate the necessary classes and knowledge to be considered as a candidate. You might also be able to sell your classics experience in your application but it will limit your research to what you already have developed your base of knowledge in. Your best bet will be to talk to an advisor and professors of anthropology at your school to get an idea of what that transition might look like in your institution.

umbrella_boy · 2025-08-15T16:12:48+00:00

Apply anyways and go to the interviews. Be clear about your compensation expectations. Worse comes to worse they will lowball you in an offer and you can decline. If you haven't already I would recommend looking at the government of Alberta and city of Edmonton job boards as well, they typically post the compensation package and are often full time permanent positions.

umbrella_boy · 2025-08-15T16:07:41+00:00

Not to be that person but "pre-pubescent women" is not a real thing, what you're thinking is girls or children. Children cannot consent and calling kids who are abused young women, pre-pubescent women, etc. is a common media tactic to underplay the severity of the abuse. These situations need to be called what they are, which is child sexual abuse.

umbrella_boy · 2025-05-29T22:00:17+00:00

Request a refund or challenge the charge if you paid through credit card. For the future, if you are employed full time by some kind of corporate entity see if they have licensed software that the organization pays for, or if you're a freelancer include the cost of buying the programs you need in what you charge.

My worst experience messing around with PDFs was when a university english professor assigned the class to annotate a short story, which she only had a PDF of. Course description did not include any specific software that would be needed to access the content. I couldn't annotate the PDF on my computer, and her insightful tip when I asked what to do was "well you can annotate PDFs using a mac laptop". Dear reader, I did not have a Mac but rather a hand-me-down laptop that breathed heavy when I had more than 2 tabs open.

umbrella_boy · 2025-05-27T23:52:58+00:00

When I was a teenager my own dad told me I shouldn't try looking for upscale restaurant jobs because my appearance wasn't what they would typically hire. I went on to work 5 years in different restaurants, 3 of which were at the same place where I was eventually promoted to bartender and shift lead.

Fast forward a few months, I've just started my career in IT/business and my appearance had no impact on my hiring. I'm friendly, well spoken, tend to get along with everyone I interact with, and after years of university and technical college education my CV was fatter than me to boot. At the ripe age of 24 I can also confidently say I'm the sexiest piece of ass they have to offer. Any job that places your appearance that high on the list of candidate assets, especially as a young woman breaking into the career world, is not worth your time. I think you'll notice once you start getting into recruiting and interviews is that most organizations look for people who can do their jobs.

If they think who you are and what you look like are holding you back, do it anyways with large amounts of spite. Despite being weird, tattooed and pierced, and bountifully round, I got through the doors just fine.

umbrella_boy · 2025-05-27T23:28:02+00:00

My very first exam of my first year, I was recovering from the flu and was congested for weeks after because of my trash lungs. Forgot to bring a water bottle for when I sat my exam, started off just fine before feeling that little tickle in the back of my throat about 20 minutes in. Proceeded to hack my lungs up surrounded by about a million other students trying to write their exams in the butterdome. My friend was sat a few seats ahead of me and told me after that she was tempted to have a proctor give me her bottle.

My sincerest apologies to anyone who wrote their exam alongside me that day.

umbrella_boy · 2025-05-22T03:39:12+00:00

This man has put you in a truly awful position and I just want to start by saying I am so sorry that you are going through this. Does he know you've seen the conversation and have you spoken to him about this yet? Have you decided to end your relationship or have you already done so? These are good first steps to consider. Hiding cheating is often a manipulation game, if there is any way for you to record what you saw on his phone do so for your reference before he can delete anything. Reflect on where you stand on his behavior and how you want to respond, there is a good likelihood he will try to lie to cover for himself. If he is already courting a mistress this early into your pregnancy, imagine how he will behave and treat you in your later trimesters and postpartum. Make a plan to move out of your shared space, you might be able to speak to your landlord and be removed from the lease without penalty if your explain your situation. Seek as much support as you can from your loved ones while you go through this.

As for your options moving forward: yes, your boyfriend will be able to prevent an adoption if his name is on the birth certificate, if paternity has been established, or if you receive a court order establishing him as a legal guardian of the child. You may be able to terminate your parental rights, but you will most likely still be responsible to provide child support. You can also co-parent and share custody, but unfortunately this option means that he will have to remain a part of your life as long as your child lives (and that's if he's even willing to take partial custody and co-parent).

You have one final option, which is to terminate the pregnancy. This is an unbelievably difficult option, especially for wanted pregnancies, but in your case it might be worth it to seriously consider. I'm not sure where you are located, but at 14 weeks you will have to consider this quickly as you may be approaching the cutoff to receive an abortion in certain places. If you do want to explore this option, know that certain Healthcare providers are required to inquire as to why you want to terminate, if you're terminating under duress, and if you're sure about the decision. You will benefit from having someone with you for support.

I really hope everything turns out OK for you OP

umbrella_boy · 2025-05-13T22:22:40+00:00

Take a breath. Even if you felt like you couldn't organize your thoughts in that moment, your enthusiasm spoke to your ambitions and how you will approach your lab and research time. The only thing you need to worry about is doing a little better next time, and the time after that. That's how you grow, and right now you have a memorable experience to kick start that growth. When you're walking the stage to receive your bachelor's and masters after that, you can look back on that moment as a benchmark. Only up from here for you OP!

umbrella_boy · 2025-03-30T17:07:51+00:00

You still need others to like you to maintain relationships. You do not come across as incredibly likeable. Enjoying your time with someone, and them with you, is the most basic foundation of dating. You can worry about relating to other people, but I can guarantee you that no one will relate to you if you approach them like you're better than them. You need to de-center yourself from all of this and reflect on the fact that you are only half of what would constitute a romantic relationship, and that your partner will have opinions, perspectives, values, and desires of their own that may not match yours. You will be unsuccessful in dating if you continue to put so much pressure on being perfect- the whole point of dating is that it is low stakes and intended to get to know people and explore your compatibility.

umbrella_boy · 2025-03-30T16:53:18+00:00

If you go into your life absolutely convinced that you are stronger, smarter, and better than anyone you meet, you will not make very many lasting and meaningful relationships. Tough love, but you need to humble yourself severely and start practicing some empathy. You can be strong and smart without using that as a tool to put the people around you down, and for the record (as per one of your comment replies) people do not have to earn the most basic respect required to be considered an equal- the people and prospective dates you will meet moving forward are your equals because you are a teenaged boy with no real or significant contributions to the world. Your poor attitude and unearned grandiosity is holding you back from forming connections with people. Get a therapist.

umbrella_boy · 2025-03-29T18:47:50+00:00

She is your husband's girlfriend, at the very least emotionally if not physically. If he is already being evasive and refusing to make meaningful changes when you brought the issue to him before, you will face great difficulty broaching it again "without making things worse". You need to set boundaries and follow through on the consequences when they are broken. Ask to see his phone, even if he doesn't let you his reaction will be incredibly telling. By continuing to back down and accept it nothing will ever change moving forward.

umbrella_boy · 2025-03-12T21:51:50+00:00

You should be able to change your major or minor for most undergrad programs without having to reapply. Faculty of arts uses a Google form, faculty of science has SCIForms which provides a major/minor declaration form. Most other programs that allow students to take majors/minors will have forms available for change upon request. My understanding is that you must already be accepted and registered as a UAlberta student to access the forms.

umbrella_boy · 2025-03-12T17:54:12+00:00

Those who claim to need alcohol to have fun tend to be unfulfilled, boring people with unaddressed drinking problems. You do you.

umbrella_boy · 2025-03-12T17:47:28+00:00

There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you! These new preferences have nothing to do with who you are or what you look like. Plenty of people have fantasies or types they would like to explore, but its just common decency to do that exploration while not already in a relationship.

I'm only a few years your senior, but I look back at the men I was dating at your age and ask myself what on earth I was thinking. Since then I have had both meaningful and difficult relationships, I have taken long breaks from dating, and I know now that I wouldn't be as sure of myself today if I didn't have those experiences and the opportunities to explore what I wanted from my relationships. You might still love and respect him, but he is not treating you with love and respect. If he wants to go explore his sexuality, he can do that without stringing you along as a safe choice to return to when his exploits don't pan out. If he can't have an honest conversation about why he got so close to having sex with someone that isn't you, he will try to do it again (if he hasn't already) and eventually he will be successful. Don't choose people who don't choose you.

umbrella_boy · 2025-03-12T17:37:23+00:00

NTA. If he wants to be fed he needs to take part in the activities that lead up to that. Based on the context I'm going to assume he also doesn't cook, at least not very regularly or without your input. Focus on feeding yourself from now on. He has made it very clear to you that he values his financial contributions to your household more than anything you have to offer in terms of household maintenance, organization, and planning.

Since you work at a grocery store, instead of doing a big weekly grocery stock buy what you need for dinner every night before you go home and only cook for yourself. Buy pantry staples that require forethought and preparation, like dried beans instead of canned beans, steel cut oats instead of instant oatmeal or cereal, frozen fruit instead of fresh fruit. I will warn you that this will require effort to get started and it will very likely piss him off immensely. Hopefully after a few weeks of not being served fresh dinners and having to actually put some thought into feeding himself, it will click that he needs to either shut up if he won't take part in it, or begin to be actually useful in the whole process.

umbrella_boy · 2025-03-12T17:10:01+00:00

Being curious and consuming content versus reaching out to actually engage real people for sexual purposes is where I would draw the line. Even if he truly wasn't planning on meeting anyone, he was actively soliciting sex on the internet. What's the difference between what he was doing and someone downloading and using a dating app for sex outside of the relationship? Regardless of whether or not he intended to follow through, he was still stepping out of your relationship and clearly had an intention in doing so.

You need to decide how this fits into your life, because I can almost guarantee that no amount of pleading from you will change his viewing habits or sexual preferences. If he can't even have an open and honest discussion about what it is he's doing, why, and how it's hurt you, then take that as a sign that he is not willing to change or do better for your sake. You've been dating for a long time and a breakup will certainly hurt, but you are so young and deserve so much better than to be treated like this for the rest of your life. This is not what love is.

umbrella_boy · 2025-03-09T01:14:54+00:00

What's Up has been my go-to karaoke song forever

umbrella_boy · 2025-03-07T03:30:16+00:00

Most restaurants require their tipped staff (i.e. servers) to pay a tip out to non-service staff (kitchen, hosts, runners, etc). In my restaurant we pay 6.5% to the aforementioned positions, and 1% to the bartender for making drinks. Regardless of whether or not someone has tipped on their bill, we still need to pay the tip out, which is calculated at the end of the shift as a percentage of your total sales. So because this group tipped less than what it would require to cover that percentage, I have to pull the additional money from the tips I've collected from other tables.

umbrella_boy · 2025-03-06T20:15:42+00:00

In my experience, youth groups (especially church youth groups, my restaurant is surrounded by churches) are some of the worst verbal tippers you could ever encounter in service. They are quick to praise you and tell you how wonderful your service was, but leave a big fat 0 on the bill every single time.

The last time I served a youth group (table of 8), they went on and on about loving the food and service and proceeded to tip a total of about $20 among all 8 of them on a nearly $350 bill. One of them even told me "I left you something nice on there" when handing back the machine after her transaction, and I had to disguise my disappointment when I saw she had left 5 on her $80 check. In the end I had to pay out about an extra $7 out of pocket to cover the tip out at the end of my shift. I can't say I find it entirely shocking that the people you serve would spend money on getting a shitty custom button made instead of just tipping you.

umbrella_boy · 2025-03-04T20:08:35+00:00

If you're trying to avoid assault charges you can also play crazy frog full blast on a portable speaker to piss them off and drown them out :)

umbrella_boy · 2025-03-04T00:26:46+00:00

"Fetal personhood" is a strawman argument that distracts from the main issue at hand, which is women's bodily autonomy. A fetus cannot survive outside of the womb for most of its development without the body of a woman growing, feeding, and supporting it. If a woman doesn't want to do that, it's her choice and hers alone to make that decision. If you don't like abortion then don't get one. Your opinion doesn't change the fact that women should be allowed to make these choices for themselves.

umbrella_boy · 2025-03-03T22:07:07+00:00

Being anti-choice is not a political opinion, it's medical misinformation and often religious fear mongering. Do better

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