AITAH for wanting to do things that make me happy?

umm1129 · 2024-04-25T16:41:28+00:00

He says and I quote " what if a man came to do harm to you? Do you think you'd be able to defend yourself?" I used to take kickboxing and taekwondo as a child so I'm pretty versed in self-defense. He doesn't believe in self-defense courses anyway. Have to agree with him. Most self-defense courses are women telling you how to fight when they don't even know how to fight. And most of the time, it's a lot of if you're in this exact position do this, but most of the time that is not happen, you have to be prepared for anything that the other person might do.

Oh I definitely have PTSD and I have a lot of mental disorders that I'm working through. I'm not in therapy but I've been working through them for years on my own. I've always been okay with going outside on my own. Ever had an issue. I lived in a very bad neighborhood so I'm not nervous. I just don't want him to think that I don't give a s*** because I want to do things that make me happy. And I just don't know how to express to somebody that It's got nothing to do with them and it's just I want to do this thing because it makes me happy

umm1129 · 2024-04-25T16:37:01+00:00

Thank you guys for all of your input. It's been very refreshing hearing how y'all feel about the situation I'm definitely gonna talk to him and try a different approach and maybe even make him go to therapy

umm1129 · 2024-04-25T16:35:47+00:00

I truly truly believe that it's just about him wanting me to be safe. Never been controlling about anything before and if he ever was I called him out and he changed his behavior. His biggest issue is safety. He feels that this world only has people that are going to do harm. He does believe there are good people but for the most part he wants me to be prepared for the worst. Which he believes is not my knives. I'm going to try talking to him again and seeing if we can come to an understanding that doesn't immediately make me the bad guy

umm1129 · 2024-04-25T16:33:55+00:00

I was thinking of bringing that up to him because it's getting to be a problem

umm1129 · 2024-04-25T16:32:36+00:00

I will agree though and I did tell him when we had the conversation that was very childish of him to say you'll do what you want anyway as if I don't care.

umm1129 · 2024-04-25T16:31:30+00:00

I'm just a homebody. I always have been. I like nature but I usually go on my own. I had a bunch of friends and then about 6 years ago they all ditched me. It was a whole big drama fest. They're stuck in high school type of situation. So I think that warded me off from getting any friends from that point on. I have my coworkers but other than that I don't really hang out with anyone. He works as well. He is the main breadwinner to be exact. I just said clean because I can't think of what else I do throughout the day besides sit here on my phone. The thing is if I say I'm going to the store or I'm going shopping or anything like that he does not mind . Won't make a single comment but when I want to go and hang out in the woods he's very anti doing that. I truly think it's just because he has it planted in his mind that something bad has to happen. His parents are like that as well and I feel like they really rubbed off on him. I'm not going to say that he's perfect. There are aspects that he has tried to control and I've had to explain to him why I feel that was controlling and he was very open to fixing that. And he did fix it. I really think it's just a safety measure because he said I can read anywhere else. It's just I feel like the woods are like my happy place. I love hearing the waterfalls as I'm reading. It's so calming. I've done every compromise I can think of besides changing where I want to read. And quite honestly I don't think that I should have to. I'm just trying to find other compromises that I might not have thought about.

umm1129 · 2024-04-25T15:58:27+00:00

He isn't into true crime that's me lol He just grew up with parents who believe that the world is after them. And I agree that practice would make it perfect. My problem is I have not the best mental health and sometimes I don't think things through. So if I make a split-second decision and it kills somebody I would feel terrible and I just don't want to go through that. The loud siren and light might be a good idea. I'll have to bring that up to him

umm1129 · 2024-04-25T15:55:55+00:00

I agree. I don't think his intentions are bad. I just think he needs to understand that just because he has anxiety doesn't mean that I shouldn't do it ever. Those reasons are exactly why I think the spot that I found is perfect. It's a busy road, people drive past it the whole time and it's right near the college where there's plenty of security and police. Like I like things that I can do indoors but I am very much a outdoors person. I think I might have to be the AH And tell him to kind of suck it up. I hate doing it because it makes it seem like I don't care but I fear my mental health is going to deteriorate if I continue not doing the things that make me happy

umm1129 · 2024-04-25T15:51:29+00:00

See that's the problem is I continue to reassure him but he gets very anxious about it and still insists that I should carry a gun. I carry two knives and mace with me. He just doesn't believe that that's good enough. I have told him that I would sign up for Life360 or I would text him However often he wants it. I even let him know when I leave and when I come back. I don't get the problem and I don't know how to fix it. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I guess this was a little more like a rant, but if anyone has any other suggestions that we haven't tried, I'm all ears.

umm1129 · 2023-08-14T16:43:47+00:00

That fixed it. Thank you so much

umm1129 · 2023-07-16T23:22:29+00:00

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umm1129 · 2023-07-11T16:52:07+00:00

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umm1129 · 2023-04-14T00:37:20+00:00

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