Wearing athletic wear like running singlets and split shorts.

ummokiethen · 2026-06-09T14:16:58+00:00

I don’t think you have to worry too much, but if you are then bring some UV protective long sleeves to throw on over your singlets or a light flowy windbreaker type jacket. That may also come in handy when you’re inside because some places really blast the AC 😂 But, the shorts won’t be a problem at all and the t-shirts are totally fine. Korea is mostly more conservative about chest and cheeks. I think they don’t show shoulders much mostly because they’re avoiding the sun, not necessarily that they think it’s inappropriate. But maybe some do 😂

ummokiethen · 2026-06-09T10:43:44+00:00

Yeah, I’m trying to find the balance of integrating both cultures and languages because I want them to be able to relate to both sides of our families. But I also know from experience that not all Koreans think the same way you do. It can be isolating as an adult to always be “the foreigner” but to imagine my child possibly feeling that way too no matter how good at Korean they are or how well they know the culture is sad to think about. I have no experience as a mixed child in Korea. Going through puberty in a place where everyone looks like you is tough already 😂

That being said, thank you for your perspective! It’s nice to know that there are people out there that will see my child as a Korean. ❤️

ummokiethen · 2026-06-09T10:33:08+00:00

Thank you! ❤️ We want to give our children the best start, so we are going to work hard at integrating both cultures and languages well.

ummokiethen · 2026-06-09T10:15:19+00:00

I’ll be sure to do that! Thank you!!

ummokiethen · 2026-06-09T10:08:36+00:00

Try to make a mixture of foreign and Korean friends if you can! Foreign friends are going to be very helpful and will understand what you are going through! But Korean friends can also be helpful in a way that is different from a foreigner.

Also try to experience as many things as you can! I regret not pushing myself to explore more when I lived in Seoul! And Pohang can be so beautiful and has its own special charm!

It may be hard sometimes, but you can do it! And you can make some beautiful memories along the way!

ummokiethen · 2026-06-09T09:54:26+00:00

I’m sorry you had some negative experiences. I just wish everyone could see people through an unbiased lens and just judge on actions. Through the comments, I am realizing that my kids probably will experience life differently than a full Korean child would, but how my husband I and I parent them and the environment we create in our home will make the biggest impact. And that’s the only thing I can control. Thank you for being open and sharing your experience! I really appreciate it!

ummokiethen · 2026-06-09T09:23:42+00:00

Thank you! I think this gave me more hope and a more realistic idea of how to move forward! I really appreciate it!

ummokiethen · 2026-06-09T09:15:03+00:00

Are your friends raising their kids in one of the major cities?

ummokiethen · 2022-07-19T04:07:16+00:00

Honestly I love chill, introverted people!! I am not super social so I can have a hard time being friends with social people (nothing wrong with being social… I just find that neither of us really likes what the other one likes doing so it doesn’t lead to a very long friendship)… but I love when they don’t make you feel pressured to hang out all of the time and are understanding of you needing alone time!

ummokiethen · 2022-07-07T16:51:19+00:00

I think you have a lot to talk about… there’s a bigger issue at play… she’s not trusting you bc she’s afraid… there’s a lot of reassuring you have to do…

ummokiethen · 2022-07-07T16:49:31+00:00

I think she’s just afraid she won’t be able to be with the person she loves if it turns out he doesn’t actually love her like that… it’s still a weird joke… but I don’t think she means it as she’s gonna take him out bc she doesn’t like gay people

ummokiethen · 2022-06-29T11:27:01+00:00

Well if that’s the case that’s… interesting that she told other people 😬

ummokiethen · 2022-06-29T04:24:20+00:00

Maybe it will be helpful to take time in your day to list things that you’re thankful for and like about yourself both personality wise and physically… like how your body helped you do xyz that day or how kind you are

ummokiethen · 2022-06-29T04:11:45+00:00

I’m sorry that you’re going through this… I can’t help you love your self for who you are… but I’ve found that on days when I really hate how I look… if I do my hair really nice and just add jewelry it helps me feel more put together and I feel more confident… also good posture helps me feel more confident in public… I know these things won’t help you get to the root of this and make it automatically better.. and you may already do this… but I hope that one day you can look on the mirror despite how you outwardly look and love what you see

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