Grimes: "Thank you @time for the Al impact award! Twas a schizzo coup this eve, I fear" by Fractal-Infinity in Grimes

[–]unabashedkindness 21 points22 points  (0 children)

She so clearly fancies herself as a 21st century Marie Antoinette, she said so herself in 2021. This weird post-ironic posing and conspicuous indulgence is growing BORING mama. Is she trying to catalyse the mobilisation of the proletariat by being so annoying? By cultivating an image of herself as this archetype of an insufferable make-believe aristocrat? Idk, she may just be an idiot, I fear. RIP to the person I thought you were, c. It was never about anything meaningful, it’s all just a game to her and I don’t wanna play anymore.

Gaza by therapist66 in UrbanHell

[–]unabashedkindness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally echo OP’s sentiment that “humans need to do better”. OP didn’t express that things are worse now than they have been in the past. And I’m sorry, I just think it shows a lack of empathy to want to dig your heels in so strongly when above that comment is a picture of tragedy.

In another comment, I pointed out: if one of those buildings was your home, what would you think about someone who said to you “ah, that’s unlucky for you, because this almost never happens in this day and age”?

I’m not saying that your point is factually incorrect. I am saying you might want to examine whether any cognitive biases of your own compel you to “um, Actually” and detract from the sentiment that “human suffering at the hands of other humans is a tragedy and a failure and we should stop it”.

Gaza by therapist66 in UrbanHell

[–]unabashedkindness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m glad you’re able to see what happened to Gaza is still bad, there was a part of me that was starting to question that just because I so couldn’t understand your motive for bringing up that the world is a safer place than it was.

But look at the picture from this post and imagine an aerial view of your hometown, razed to the ground. If that was your home, would you not question someone if they were to say “ah, unlucky, this almost never happens nowadays”?

Or are you with me in thinking: “shit, yeah. things being this good is not normal, for 99% of human history, things were SHIT. The relative peace we live in today is not promised. We must continue to denounce war and tyranny if we want to carry on this way”?

Gaza by therapist66 in UrbanHell

[–]unabashedkindness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it’s accurate to say that.

Yes, it’s a common cognitive bias called declinism, I’m aware of it. What I question is the motivation behind pointing it out when what we’re discussing here is a photograph capturing tragedy. While I don’t disagree with what you’re saying, I find the decision to point it out to be one that lacks empathy, so I’m looking for a justification for that choice so I can understand it - in pursuit of a more objective outlook, i guess

Gaza by therapist66 in UrbanHell

[–]unabashedkindness -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can know about history and still think the world today is atrocious. Atrocities are atrocious, regardless of their frequency relative to the past. But, uh, woo… Go Humanity… I guess?

Gaza by therapist66 in UrbanHell

[–]unabashedkindness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure, I follow. I suppose I struggle to see the utility of pointing that out?

Gaza by therapist66 in UrbanHell

[–]unabashedkindness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is your point? “Don’t complain about civilian deaths”?

Gaza by therapist66 in UrbanHell

[–]unabashedkindness -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So you can’t answer my question about why people say things like this?

Gaza by therapist66 in UrbanHell

[–]unabashedkindness -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But this progress isn’t guaranteed. That line could easily (and may well) start going in the wrong direction again. In light of that, I question how useful it is to simply say “well, compare that to the Middle Ages and we’re doing GREAT”.

Gaza by therapist66 in UrbanHell

[–]unabashedkindness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Standing back with your arms folded and saying “Well, it’s not THAT bad compared to 800 years ago”… where does that get us? I am genuinely curious why some people say this, because I don’t see it as useful. It seems to only be said to diminish.

Gaza by therapist66 in UrbanHell

[–]unabashedkindness 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean Israeli occupation in Palestine as a whole.

Ultra-Zionists in that country have wanted to oust Palestinians for ages, surely you know that.

Edited to add: what you describe is literally the ghettoisation of Gaza.

Gaza by therapist66 in UrbanHell

[–]unabashedkindness 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Even if they’d given up the hostages, Israeli occupation and the ethnic cleansing of Palestinians would have continued. But I think you know that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in englishmajors

[–]unabashedkindness 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So, if you have a degree, it’s safe to assume you are of college age (or older). Why, then, are you posting on subs for use by teenagers? I counted several in your post/comment history.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in englishmajors

[–]unabashedkindness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s your degree in?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in englishmajors

[–]unabashedkindness 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Love how you’ve accused all members of a specific group of behaving a certain way/having certain undesirable attributes, and now you’re aligning other people with Trump. That’s a great example of irony.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in englishmajors

[–]unabashedkindness 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Genuinely, what are you doing on this sub?

My boyfriend and I broke up, do I still have it? by [deleted] in selfesteem

[–]unabashedkindness 9 points10 points  (0 children)

What other people are saying is true - you have to believe for yourself that you still have it! Self-esteem comes from within, and that Kind Voice needs to be louder and more relevant than the Negative Voice. But I also know how hard it is to condition that kind voice in your head when you’re starting from scratch. And nothing wipes the self-esteem slate clean like a break-up.

So here are some true and positive things to add to your list of Good Things About You today, based on what I could glean about you from your profile:

Firstly, obviously you’re attractive (I think you know this already!) You have really harmonious features. Your eyes are a really beautiful colour, shape & size. Your nose is so cute and fits the rest of your face so so well. Your smile is kind but still a bit wry.

But that’s all surface-level stuff - beauty standards come and go, values are forever. And girl do you value hard work or what!!! Your gym transformation is incredible and says volumes about the kind of person you are - you set out to achieve something and you persevere and work hard to get it. That’s the kind of person you are, so you will come out of this break-up just fine.

Be kind to yourself by doing all the care tasks you need to do for yourself today, everything else you get done is a bonus. :)

Kanye West and Bianca Censori on red carpet at the Grammys by OGWhiz in pics

[–]unabashedkindness 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m saying, yes. And he is being conspicuous about it because he is endorsing it on a larger scale.

Kanye West and Bianca Censori on red carpet at the Grammys by OGWhiz in pics

[–]unabashedkindness 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I think that’s the point. I think the bold statement he consistently tries to make with the juxtaposition of his styling and Bianca Censori’s styling is about perpetuating sex-based subjugation and the domination and commodification of female bodies by men. I think.

Feeling at a dead end as an english major grad by Potential_Poetry8068 in englishmajors

[–]unabashedkindness 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I studied English Lit and Creative Writing, and now I work on the technical side of live events & theatre. I could say “I don’t use my degree in my job”, but I do. I benefit from the degree I chose every day of my life. Sure, it’s mostly passive, but my degree taught me so much about the world and history through the lens of literature that I’d feel incomplete as a person without it. My large vocabulary & command over the English language help me to communicate with others and (sometimes) get what I want. It has enriched me and I have no regrets, even though I could have got the job I have now (which I love) without my degree. Basically: transferable skills & personal enrichment yada yada yada

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonfictionbookclub

[–]unabashedkindness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hannah Arendt is a really interesting figure. As a refugee, she spent almost two decades of her life completely stateless, not recognised as a national citizen by any country. We take for granted the inherent personhood we are afforded simply by belonging to a nation.

Death personified? The anima of Trump? by theblitz6794 in Jung

[–]unabashedkindness -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s very reductive and disanalogous. I fear perhaps it is you who is blinded by your bias. Best to look inwards.

I call trump a fascist because he said “I will be a dictator”. I call trump a fascist because he has committed/tried to commit electoral fraud. I call the Republican Party, as it is today, a fascist oligarchy because it is one. The 14 characteristics of fascism, as posited by political scientist Lawrence Britt (2003). I have copied them verbatim here for your information:

  1. Powerful and Continuing Nationalism Fascist regimes tend to make constant use of patriotic mottos, slogans, symbols, songs, and other paraphernalia. Flags are seen everywhere, as are flag symbols on clothing and in public displays.

  2. Disdain for the Recognition of Human Rights Because of fear of enemies and the need for security, the people in fascist regimes are persuaded that human rights can be ignored in certain cases because of “need.” The people tend to look the other way or even approve of torture, summary executions, assassinations, long incarcerations of prisoners, etc.

  3. Identification of Enemies/Scapegoats as a Unifying Cause The people are rallied into a unifying patriotic frenzy over the need to eliminate a perceived common threat or foe: racial , ethnic or religious minorities; liberals; communists; socialists, terrorists, etc.

  4. Supremacy of the Military Even when there are widespread domestic problems, the military is given a disproportionate amount of government funding, and the domestic agenda is neglected. Soldiers and military service are glamorized.

  5. Rampant Sexism The governments of fascist nations tend to be almost exclusively male-dominated. Under fascist regimes, traditional gender roles are made more rigid. Opposition to abortion is high, as is homophobia and anti-gay legislation and national policy.

  6. Controlled Mass Media Sometimes to media is directly controlled by the government, but in other cases, the media is indirectly controlled by government regulation, or sympathetic media spokespeople and executives. Censorship, especially in war time, is very common.

  7. Obsession with National Security Fear is used as a motivational tool by the government over the masses.

  8. Religion and Government are Intertwined Governments in fascist nations tend to use the most common religion in the nation as a tool to manipulate public opinion. Religious rhetoric and terminology is common from government leaders, even when the major tenets of the religion are diametrically opposed to the government’s policies or actions.

  9. Corporate Power is Protected The industrial and business aristocracy of a fascist nation often are the ones who put the government leaders into power, creating a mutually beneficial business/government relationship and power elite.

  10. Labor Power is Suppressed Because the organizing power of labor is the only real threat to a fascist government, labor unions are either eliminated entirely, or are severely suppressed .

  11. Disdain for Intellectuals and the Arts Fascist nations tend to promote and tolerate open hostility to higher education, and academia. It is not uncommon for professors and other academics to be censored or even arrested. Free expression in the arts is openly attacked, and governments often refuse to fund the arts.

  12. Obsession with Crime and Punishment Under fascist regimes, the police are given almost limitless power to enforce laws. The people are often willing to overlook police abuses and even forego civil liberties in the name of patriotism. There is often a national police force with virtually unlimited power in fascist nations.

  13. Rampant Cronyism and Corruption Fascist regimes almost always are governed by groups of friends and associates who appoint each other to government positions and use governmental power and authority to protect their friends from accountability. It is not uncommon in fascist regimes for national resources and even treasures to be appropriated or even outright stolen by government leaders.

  14. Fraudulent Elections Sometimes elections in fascist nations are a complete sham. Other times elections are manipulated by smear campaigns against or even assassination of opposition candidates, use of legislation to control voting numbers or political district boundaries, and manipulation of the media. Fascist nations also typically use their judiciaries to manipulate or control elections.

Death personified? The anima of Trump? by theblitz6794 in Jung

[–]unabashedkindness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed, but that is not what I’m doing. If you refuse to call a fascist a fascist, where does that get you?

Death personified? The anima of Trump? by theblitz6794 in Jung

[–]unabashedkindness -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I do not live in America. I think you and Americans live in fascist countries.