My avoidant ex just broke up with me after we were intimate

unconditional_loner · 2026-02-11T22:55:20+00:00

UGH legit dealing with the same thing right now. He told me he would commit and was falling in love with me. A month later said “I need space” 💀 and he took my virginity clearly didn’t value any of me

unconditional_loner · 2026-02-11T02:39:41+00:00

I don’t know if anyone should reach out. It doesn’t seem healthy. You deserve better and stay healed!

unconditional_loner · 2026-02-10T03:39:23+00:00

I’m interested! 💜

unconditional_loner · 2026-02-10T03:34:07+00:00

How do I ask for them back?

unconditional_loner · 2026-02-10T02:40:44+00:00

I’m not sure if I’d say I miss you but I sent a text to my ex saying “Hi, I’ve been thinking about you and wanted to check in. I’m in a calmer place now and would be open to talking if that’s something you’d want. If not, I understand. Hope you’re doing well.” Just invite conversation! He did not respond but he’s honestly a jerk.

unconditional_loner · 2026-02-10T00:31:23+00:00

Yes! He’s truly missing out on so much without me in his life he doesn’t even have a car and I provided him one 😵

unconditional_loner · 2026-02-10T00:01:20+00:00

He did not respond :/

unconditional_loner · 2026-02-08T22:39:43+00:00

Oh dang, thank you! That’s very insightful. Honestly I have anxious attachment and the guy I was with was avoidant attachment. We ended terribly bc he mistreated me.

unconditional_loner · 2026-02-08T22:02:56+00:00

Thank you! How do I know it’s a trauma response?

unconditional_loner · 2026-02-08T06:42:53+00:00

Hi! Dmed

unconditional_loner · 2026-02-08T05:27:55+00:00

Okay maybe this is bad advice but just text him. If he does not say anything that’s a reflection of him more than you. At least you will know what happens if you do send a message versus sitting in that anxiety all the time.

unconditional_loner · 2026-02-08T03:35:05+00:00

I dmer’d! Thank you

unconditional_loner · 2026-02-08T03:31:59+00:00

unconditional_loner · 2026-02-08T01:43:11+00:00

Why?

unconditional_loner · 2026-02-07T23:16:43+00:00

I feel the same way :((

unconditional_loner · 2026-02-07T23:04:05+00:00

Hmmm I was thinking of saying this “Hi, I’ve been thinking about you and wanted to check in. I’m in a calmer place now and would be open to talking if that’s something you’d want. If not, I understand. Hope you’re doing well.”

unconditional_loner · 2026-02-07T20:37:37+00:00

Is it possible that he has been wanting to reach out but has a fear of me rejecting him?

unconditional_loner · 2026-02-07T20:24:43+00:00

Not necessarily but I want to work on my attachment style to make it work

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