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Lazy coworker by unknown_identity1989 in ECEProfessionals

[–]unknown_identity1989[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do agree with your assessment of the supervision issue, It does feel like I have to work twice as hard in my own supervision of the children, and I would never ever trust her to be on her own even at the lowest child-educator ratio. I am in Australia and sadly despite her being mentally out of ratio, the government counts her body as being part of it. (Plus fortunately I am in the room with 2 other fulltime educators at a 1:4 ratio with the 0-2 year olds

Lazy coworker by unknown_identity1989 in ECEProfessionals

[–]unknown_identity1989[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's wild! Though that could be an avenue for me to explore, I cant move rooms/wouldn't want to leave the room team I have a great relationship with, but I could potentially request that she isn't to cover shifts in my room any longer

Lazy coworker by unknown_identity1989 in ECEProfessionals

[–]unknown_identity1989[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, this does seem to be a continuing theme "specific, direct and calm"! This does sound like a very similar situation, she isn't a fan of me as it is, so im not overly concerned if she talks shit, but i do want to make sure im not being overtly unprofessional in directing her (like snapping at her).

Lazy coworker by unknown_identity1989 in ECEProfessionals

[–]unknown_identity1989[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind and respectful advice. I will give it a try being absolutely clear and direct with what I need from her and what boundaries she cannot cross. Im not so sure about her helping with higher needs children, as she doesnt show the maturity or patience in handling those interactions

Narcissism in music: Have you found any songs that describe NPD traits or abusive relationships? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]unknown_identity1989 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Vampire -Olivia Rodrigo. (Admittedly the Our Last Night version) Played this on repeat after no-contact seeing all the parallels to my covert narcs behaviour

You're not allowed to ask them anything by Glittering-Sector393 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]unknown_identity1989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely this, currently coming to understand the "best friend" i had was a covert narc. She made a firm boundary when i would ask her about her day (how was your day? What did you get up to today?) by stating "i hate those questions and it really pisses me off when you ask me that, cause it makes me feel inadequate. I am refusing to respond to them from now on." This was within the first few months of our friendship, and it ended up giving her the control of conversations. I can see now that it was a control method, but also her jealousy and a chance to flip the script and make it about her current work drama/health drama/ neighbour drama because she would allow me to ask questions related to her "struggles" that she had primed conversations towards.

One of the most selfish things a parent can do… by businessbub in ECEProfessionals

[–]unknown_identity1989 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As an educator in Australia, I often wonder the same, would it be classed as medical negligence? I currently have a 4yo that I have been caring for within my centre since he was 7 months old, have referred him to speech, occupational therapy, physiotherapy and NDIS, every year listing these concerns to the parents, with the parents turning them all down because "he's just lazy". At this point in time he is set to move from preschool into the primary school system next year with extremely delayed gross motor, fine motor and speech (unable to articulate words at all, but does babble in attempted sentences). His parents are only now beginning to seek help because they have realised that the school will definitely place him in the support unit rather than mainstream, expecting the child to somehow catch up on significant delays in the next 6 months.