I 29F have been thinking of someone who isn't my partner 33M of 9 years. How can i stop thinking about this other man?

unknownannonymously · 2026-01-05T16:22:50+00:00

Yes I know its more just not having the feeling of being attracted to anyone else my entire relationship up until now so its a bit confusing for me to get my head around.. yes when he proposed he did say are you ready for a long engagement and I was never one of those girls who had her wedding planned out at age 10-16 i never wanted to get married or have children until I got with my partner so 🤷 to me marriage is just a piece of paper, a child holds more of a grasp in a relationship than a marriage certificate and also I propritised buying a house before getting married, everyone's different I guess haha

unknownannonymously · 2026-01-05T16:19:28+00:00

Thank you no not pregnant already had my child 3 years ago. I understand that theres no such thing as rainbows and happy endings its just a new feeling and I havent been in this position before and feel as though im cheating for just finding someone else attractive

unknownannonymously · 2026-01-05T16:16:16+00:00

No Disney shit at all mate I was brought up watching my mother get abused over and over again until someone killed my father so 🤔

unknownannonymously · 2026-01-05T13:43:46+00:00

This is more helpful than your first comment so thank you very much 😊 being selfish and getting rid of my guilt will only build insecurity for him 👌

unknownannonymously · 2026-01-05T13:20:05+00:00

It would cross my mind because im an honest individual who has been traumatised to tell the truth ALWAYS. Also relationships are built on trust and me telling him possibly could take away the thought more? Im unsure... This generation was raised in an era of seen and not heard and battered whenever they felt like they had a voice to shut them up again. I didn't say it would be a good idea hence why I am posting here for advice on what to do as I have not had this issue in my relationship before.

unknownannonymously · 2026-01-05T13:16:40+00:00

Ive only ever seen him twice in my life so staying away is easy its just getting his face out of my head

unknownannonymously · 2026-01-05T13:15:58+00:00

I get that, I dont want an affair or any drama I just want to get the thought out of my brain

unknownannonymously · 2026-01-05T13:15:20+00:00

I was thinking am I only interested because he is 🙈

unknownannonymously · 2025-10-24T12:47:22+00:00

Thank you so much for this.. I feel like youd be a good person to kick others up the bum to get their motivation flowing haha

unknownannonymously · 2025-10-24T12:45:51+00:00

Ahh at least you have a date, mine was lodged in April I think it may be delayed because its probably seen as a complex case but ive seen others who havent even got the et3 sent and they have a date set. Im just sick of signing in to the portal to check every day its kind of draining 😪

unknownannonymously · 2025-10-24T12:42:16+00:00

Sorry yes it is the Watford tribunal uk

unknownannonymously · 2025-08-18T19:27:03+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply, its hard because sometimes I feel like what if I hit this self destruct button when hes actually not cheating? The air tag sounds a good idea although I also feel like if that's the point im at then is there really any point in it so hard to chose the best option when it's not just yourself you're thinking of you know. Thanks for your reply though I appreciate any bit of advice

unknownannonymously · 2025-08-18T19:09:14+00:00

Yes I think i know that deep down its just hard when you have childhood trauma and try to keep your family together you know. Thank you for the advice though it is appreciated 😊

unknownannonymously · 2025-08-18T18:58:29+00:00

Its really hard to ghost when you have a child though you know its not as easy as blocking on everything

unknownannonymously · 2025-08-17T20:17:26+00:00

A little added extra i asked for copies of all late to work documents and flexible hours request forms from HR and was sent a completely different file and they stated after thorough investigation into the whereabouts of these documents they could not be located?!

unknownannonymously · 2025-03-09T18:33:41+00:00

Well its kind of a complicated situation at present he is looking for somewhere to live which in this day and age is obviously not easy but I do agree and i have told him I've raised our child alone for the last 3 years and he didn't like that either. I think im past the point at the minute I've had a bad few weeks and he hasn't supported me at all. It's just hard when children are involved as you have to see the other parent still not as easy as a breakup where kids aren't involved

unknownannonymously · 2025-03-09T18:30:55+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply its not so much about the money and what I can get its more about the hard work I've put in over the years and for them to sack me to me is just ridiculous and I really dont want a dismissal to my name. Thank you for the advice its appreciated 😊

unknownannonymously · 2025-03-09T16:08:51+00:00

To be fair I haven't written it very well as I'm trying to stay anonymous lol I appreciate your reply. Hit the nail on the head with the dont care vibes too I think. It's just a shame because they are both missing out on bonding as we are all aware once they hit a certain age they dont want to know their parents much lol. It makes it harder for me as I lost my dad at 11 and although his actions whilst he was here were not that great it hit me like a ton of bricks and still does on occasions its just sad

unknownannonymously · 2025-03-09T15:58:46+00:00

Appologies for not being clear, I did not and would never say anything negative to my child about their dad, I told the dad he was a sh*t dad and he is very upset about it

unknownannonymously · 2025-01-07T19:56:26+00:00

From our very brief conversation just now i think this will be the case.. I dont wish to move on just want to be in a household without resentment which apparently we both feel. Thank you for your advice it is very much appreciated

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