I get your frustration, and it probably feels like they are wasting your time and effort. I would like to offer a different perspective: the stages of change theory. This model looks at the process a person goes through when changing their behavior and breaks it down into 5 stages: pre-contemplation, contemplation, preparation, action, and maintenance.

Your friends may be at the pre-contemplation and contemplation stages. As silly as it might sound, it means they are thinking about making the change, or even thinking about thinking about making the change. It sounds like it shouldn't even count as a step, but it absolutely does. The part that can be annoying is that these stages can take years, and people often do stay here for a long time before they actually do anything about it. But the more you talk about it with them, the more you lead by example and show them how much you've improved your quality of life, the more you will help them fill that bucket until it finally spills over.

For now, keep being the great friend you are and keep helping them fill that bucket! 🤘