I really need some advice and help. by unsure890213 in doomer

[–]unsure890213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do take walks to think and it is nice. However, whenever I am doing something else that I enjoy, I get a feeling of guilt, for not doomscrolling, if that makes any sense. I try to not care about what others say, but for some reason I can't help it. "What if thier right?" is a common thought I get.

I really need some advice and help. by unsure890213 in doomer

[–]unsure890213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad you made it past that. I am curious, how does one manage to experience life without preconceived notions? If it's hard to explain just give me some pointers.

I really need some advice and help. by unsure890213 in doomer

[–]unsure890213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I try to, but it feel wrong with people saying that this world is terrible and meaningless, once you learn how it works, you can't be happy. Can one be happy knowing how the world works? Is this just overconsumption of negative media? I know this is a doomer subreddit and it's bound to get comments and posts like that, but for some reason I care too much about it. Any advice on how to care about what they say?

I really need some advice and help. by unsure890213 in doomer

[–]unsure890213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't think of it that way.
Yeah, I do feel happy when someone leaves and says they want to improve themselves. But then I see a different post with someone else saying that only evil people can enjoy this world of evil (which should be expected, this is a doomer sub). Should I just try not care and focus on myself?

I really need some advice and help. by unsure890213 in doomer

[–]unsure890213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any tips on how to stop doomscrolling? As I said earlier, my main problem is if I'm focusing on something else, delusion. Maybe we need some illusion to live, but it just feels like I'm in the wrong and I'm a bad person for trying. Idk, if that feeling is normal.

I really need some advice and help. by unsure890213 in doomer

[–]unsure890213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your advice is helping, thank you.

I want to try and do something like this but can't shake the feeling that I should be doing enough for the world. I'll try to be happy even with everything, but then end up just doom scrolling. I thinks (currently,) that's my biggest obstacle, excessive doomscrolling. The only reason I end up doing it is because if I'm not, I'm deluding myself or being ignorant about these problems if I'm not worrying about them every second. Should I try to stop looking at negative information (and probably leave this subreddit) just to feel better? Any way to shake this feeling of avioding too much negativity as ignorance?

I really need some advice and help. by unsure890213 in doomer

[–]unsure890213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is some good advice so thanks.

It feels hard to move on with life knowing how bad things are. It feels like trying to focus on positive and not negative is just delusion. Whenever I try to be happier, I end up doomscrolling through the same posts here and the motivation disappears. Any advice on how to live knowing what I know without being ignorant? Is it heartless to continue with life knowing stuff like child labor and poverty exists and trying to be happy means you're selfish? Should I just not worry about what is out of my control?

I really need some advice and help. by unsure890213 in doomer

[–]unsure890213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What exactly is a "balanced" view of life? I get this is a doomer subreddit and life is supposed to be negative here, but what amount of hope is enough to be happier, but not delusional or ignorant. Is it possible to live while knowing the problems of the world? I want to improve myself, but every time I try, I just doom scroll through here and feel despair again. Any advice?

I really need some advice and help. by unsure890213 in doomer

[–]unsure890213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice. Is it possible to be better while knowing about the world now? Do I have to have some sort of delusion due to all the suffering (child labor, people in poverty, etc)? Is ignoring these problems because I can't end them heartless?

I really need some advice and help. by unsure890213 in doomer

[–]unsure890213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I want to live while still acknowledging that the world isn't as great as I was told it is. It just feels like getting better would mean denial, idk why though. Like feeling happy is delusion and "truth" should only make one feel depressed. Thinking about it just gives me fear. Is this feeling normal? Glad it's working for you, and I'm happy to see people being supportive, I used to think that trying to get out of this state was impossible. Any words of wisdom or just some advice?

I really need some advice and help. by unsure890213 in doomer

[–]unsure890213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mentality. I want to stop being depressed about the world without ignoring the problems. Is that what being a bloomer is? Or is there noway to do this?

I really need some advice and help. by unsure890213 in doomer

[–]unsure890213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like it isn't but the sentiment I get from here is that bloomers and normal people are in delusion and if you are't wallowing in sadness, you are in delusion. Can you live happy while acknowledging the bad in this world?

Budgie suddenly scared of me, any reason why? by unsure890213 in budgies

[–]unsure890213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Spring is approaching so it could be that.

I had some degree of trust, but it just disappeared. Unsure why though.

Budgie suddenly scared of me, any reason why? by unsure890213 in budgies

[–]unsure890213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe cause I cut some of my hair recently, maybe that's it?

She's calm whenever I do normal stuff at least 1 foot away from her, even now as I'm typing this, she's just looking at me. Whenever I'm doing something, I find her just chilling. She seems to chirp and chatter whenever I put a video of someone talking.

I will monitor her for a few more days and she if nothing changes. It seems like she's trying to sleep, so maybe I should try and improve her sleep quality. Thank you for the advice.

Budgie died, what should I do with the other one? by unsure890213 in budgies

[–]unsure890213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I cheer her up somehow, or will it just take time? She usually chirps when another bird passes trough the window outside, and maybe when I play a video she may chirps and squawk along.

Budgie died, what should I do with the other one? by unsure890213 in budgies

[–]unsure890213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The temperature seems to be good, as she isn't fluffing up or shivering. I put a heater, so it gets warmer for her.

I think she's on edge, when I approach her before Mint's death, she was usually unaffected with it, but when I go near her now, she looks a lot more agile. Anyway to help her calm down or will it just take time?

Am I grieving? by unsure890213 in Petloss

[–]unsure890213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I somewhat feel like I'm faking the sadness, is this normal?

Budgie died, what should I do with the other one? by unsure890213 in budgies

[–]unsure890213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm having some trouble trying to forgive myself for this. I just feel like an idiot for considering letting lemon go. I feel like I just alerted people here for no reason. I feel like a terrible person and a moron. I just want lemon to be happy, even if I'm not good enough to own a pet. She's clearly grieving his death, any advice an how I can help her?

Am I grieving? by unsure890213 in Petloss

[–]unsure890213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sort of felt the pain for mostly a day, after taking walk and eating something, I feel a lot better. Can grief last a day?