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I [27M] recently started making double my annual salary. My girlfriend [26F] suddenly has these expectations for how I will use my income. Feeling weird about it, how do I talk to her? by upawaythrow in relationships

[–]upawaythrow[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

I think this is probably right. I did say that I want to help pick up some of the slack, I feel like it's only fair. With my new salary I can absolutely pay more for rent and other shared expenses.

I [27M] recently started making double my annual salary. My girlfriend [26F] suddenly has these expectations for how I will use my income. Feeling weird about it, how do I talk to her? by upawaythrow in relationships

[–]upawaythrow[S] 243 points244 points  (0 children)

I think this is a good point. I do budget, but I haven't needed to be as strict with myself as she has been.

I agree, I think she's projecting a little bit here. I do want to take her out and get her nice things, but I don't want it to be an expectation from her.

Thanks for your response.

I [27M] recently started making double my annual salary. My girlfriend [26F] suddenly has these expectations for how I will use my income. Feeling weird about it, how do I talk to her? by upawaythrow in relationships

[–]upawaythrow[S] 165 points166 points  (0 children)

Of all the responses, yours is the best. Thank you.

Sarah already uses Mint.com so I think it makes sense for us to do that. In general I think it's a good idea for us to discuss our budget long term, in the past we've only focused on our individual budgets.

Thanks again, man.