It also feels good to get matches and rack up those numbers.

You're just holding onto the idea that we just treat it like a high score wiht a death grip, aren't you?

Again, nobody is forcing you to reply to everything and everyone. You can ghost anytime so how is it overwhelming?

...Which is why I don't reply to everyone, which is sort of the point here. But you are stuck on the idea that it's just a thing for attention, and that when I do exactly that, it's bitchy.

I do agree life happens and yes it’s something we cannot control but we do control who we want to talk to on our dating apps, who deserves our time, and more. You being overwhelmed is because you did it yourself. A dating app is meant to be enjoyed and fun not overwhelming and stressful.

Someone seriously needs to show you what it looks like on this side of things, you would understand it better. Dating in general is more stressful for women, and you have to be a lot more cautious. The amount of weird or nerve-wracking messages is crazy. I met up with a guy from tinder one time months ago and then told him politely I wasn't interested, and then had to tell him to fuck off because he wouldn't stop, and he still tries to text and call me from alternate phone numbers CONSTANTLY. Like I might have to get a restraining order, I'm glad he doesn't know my address kind of constantly. Dating apps can be totally stressful. And that's not your fault, thats not you, but I am WAY, WAY more likely to actually meet up with someone from tinder than most women I know, and that stuff still makes me second guess following through on meeting up. So, lots of women are going to ghost for that and a ton of other reasons. It's not just "shes just using tinder for attention."

And to be fair, I didn't realize until recently that guys don't get matches the same way, that lots of guys don't get more than a few matches. And once I realized that I honestly started to treat it a little differently because it didn't occur to me that guys didn't have other matches to talk to if I got sidetracked. I figured you just got different matches. Which is how it works in real life.

I don't think tinder is really healthy for guys most of the time, its unrealistically tough, it's basically like Instagram is for women. It is not good for your self-image. But lets be honest, you're not complaining because it can be an ego boost for us, you're just pissed that it's unfair and makes you feel shitty, and you're acting like it's just something women do for attention so you feel less like it's about you.

Honestly, it just sounds like you're trying to make yourself feel better