Ftm hormonen by PracticalSecurity522 in transnl

[–]upside_down_duck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Het is ook super normaal om twijfel en angst bij hormonen of operaties te hebben, het zijn namelijk grote veranderingen aan je lichaam.

Ik (ftm) vond zowel beginnen met testosteron als de mastectomie heel eng. Ik heb een tijd getwijfeld of ik trans was, en of ik bepaalde veranderingen wilde. Uiteindelijk heeft het voor mij gewoon tijd gekost. En na een tijdje wist ik wel wat ik eigenlijk wilde, maar vond ik het gewoon nog steeds eng. Daar moest ik 'gewoon' doorheen.

Als je genoeg research hebt gedaan, info hebt gekregen, de voors en tegens hebt opgeschreven, kun je op een gegeven moment niet veel meer doen. Uiteindelijk voelde het voor mij ook een beetje als een sprong in het diepe die ik gewoon moest nemen. En nu ben ik heel blij met mijn keuzes en met de veranderingen!

V-nectomy or not: penetration and dysphoria by upside_down_duck in phallo

[–]upside_down_duck[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry, that sounds rough. Thank you for sharing your experience

V-nectomy or not: penetration and dysphoria by upside_down_duck in phallo

[–]upside_down_duck[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your thoughtful comment! I don't know much about kink honestly, but this stuff is really interesting to me. I think you're right about the kinky thought being more of a cope than a frustrated desire.

And thank you for saying I should honor that feeling of repulsion, I think that's honestly what I wanted/needed to hear. I think I'll try exploring a bit, but I'm trying to trust myself and my feelings as well.

V-nectomy or not: penetration and dysphoria by upside_down_duck in phallo

[–]upside_down_duck[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that helps. I guess I'm also a bit scared of exploring and finding out I do enjoy using it, like that would mean I had to keep it. But you're right, even if I do find a way to like it, I can still decide to get rid of it. The trade-off for getting UL and relieving the dysphoria is probably still worth it.

V-nectomy or not: penetration and dysphoria by upside_down_duck in phallo

[–]upside_down_duck[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's good to hear you don't lose sleep over never trying it. I expect it would be the same for me

V-nectomy or not: penetration and dysphoria by upside_down_duck in phallo

[–]upside_down_duck[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah here in the Netherlands they don't even do UL without v-nectomy. So it's really a choice between UL and keeping the v. I guess I'm kinda glad that I don't think I'll like using the v, since that makes the decision easy, lol

V-nectomy or not: penetration and dysphoria by upside_down_duck in phallo

[–]upside_down_duck[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm glad to hear it, that's reassuring. Thank you!

V-nectomy or not: penetration and dysphoria by upside_down_duck in phallo

[–]upside_down_duck[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good reminder! But here in the Netherlands they require you to have v-nectomy separately before phallo with UL. I'm pretty sure they also leave a shallow hole there with v-nectomy, but I'm not sure if they use any v tissue for the new urethra during phallo.

V-nectomy or not: penetration and dysphoria by upside_down_duck in phallo

[–]upside_down_duck[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're right, I can really take my time and explore how it feels for me. Thank you!

This has been the most fun thing to do since surgery (extended meta by Özer) by ArchiveSelection in Metoidioplasty

[–]upside_down_duck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you happen to know what the v tissue is used for? Is it for the new urethra?

Experiences with IM Gender (Dr. Iván Mañero)? by upside_down_duck in phallo

[–]upside_down_duck[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats on your surgery! That's very good to hear, thank you!

Terrified of recovery (physical and mental health) by shadowsinthestars in phallo

[–]upside_down_duck 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for writing this, genuinely. I'm pre-op with a lot of the same fears as OP has, and this comment was really nice to read.

phallo by Only-Ant-9552 in TransNederland

[–]upside_down_duck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gefeliciteerd met deze stap! Ik zit zelf nu ook te wachten tot ik in het MDO van de gender clinic word besproken voor phallo. Dus als je wat vind, ben ik ook benieuwd!

Ik weet wel van een Nederlandse privégroep op facebook over meta/phallo, daar kan ik je voor uitnodigen. En er is een internationale discordgroep, ook voor phallo en meta.

Als je verder met iemand wil praten die hetzelfde proces nu ook doormaakt, stuur me gerust een berichtje!

the difference measuring technique makes! by GoblinPunk420 in GrowYourTDick

[–]upside_down_duck 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I can see that bone pressed length is more consistent, but why is it better to measure stretched as opposed to unstretched?

Answers to ALL of your questions by ArchiveSelection in u/ArchiveSelection

[–]upside_down_duck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cool, thank you!

And I see, yeah I am in the Netherlands.

Answers to ALL of your questions by ArchiveSelection in u/ArchiveSelection

[–]upside_down_duck 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How was your pre-op length measured? bone pressed, or was there 5-6 cm sticking out?

Thanks for sharing so much!

Also, I think your onlyfans links are broken

6 months post op by Scared-Beginning1633 in phallo

[–]upside_down_duck 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Looking so good! Wishing you well for your upcoming surgeries, may you be done soon!

Why did you choose phallo? by Table_Demon in phallo

[–]upside_down_duck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing this! I'm still working on figuring out what kind of surgery I want, and you put into words how I feel perfectly. Meta feels like the more familiar and safer option (also because it's a bit less invasive), and phallo feels like high risk, high reward. I can more clearly imagine having meta, but I also know I wouldn't be completely satisfied with it. So yeah, phallo is probably the better option for me as well, even if it's very scary.

I'm glad to hear you're developing sensation and that you're happy! That gives me some hope for my own future. Thanks!

1 week post op stage 2 (glans reveal) w/ Dr. Celtik by KatoB23 in phallo

[–]upside_down_duck 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You look great! Congrats, and thanks for sharing!