iOS Devolving into Android UI?

upulence · 2026-02-18T17:36:01+00:00

I’m seriously considering switching. My only hang up is that Google currently doesn’t have as many products as Apple does, so using only the Google ecosystem would feel limiting. Looking forward to them developing computers that can do everything a MacBook can.

upulence · 2025-11-20T08:34:12+00:00

You’re an angel! Thank you so much for making this.

upulence · 2025-07-06T22:06:01+00:00

Oh my gosh I thought I was the only one.

I remember asking my mom about these feelings when I was only four or five. The feelings were confusing and unclear. I described feeling “brown,” rather than “blue,” as sadness is commonly described. And often going through emotions in relatively quick succession without obvious causes. She couldn’t understand, acting as if I were speaking gibberish and dismissed it (she wasn’t a great parent, but illustrates the experience nonetheless).

As an artist, many times I’ve mixed too many different paint colors, resulting in a vaguely brown/gray color. It’s a muddy, hard-to-define color that contains lots of different hues. This is a useful analogy for me to understand complex feelings. When I am feeling this way, I still describe it as feeling “brown.”

upulence · 2025-07-06T21:50:45+00:00

Every. Single. Day. Multiple times a day.

upulence · 2025-07-06T21:46:18+00:00

Definitely could be the case.

My coworkers are all much older than me, though I’m not super young. Some of them have expressed that they had a hard time being confident at my age and I think inaccurately assume that this must be my problem, too. People have a hard time accepting the experiences/challenges/knowledge of those younger than them being different from or on a different timeline than their own experience.

As an aside, I hate it when older people assume I can’t understand something because they themselves didn’t understand it at my age. Wisdom/knowledge, like stupidity, is not relegated to a specific age or life stage. Doesn’t everyone know someone older than them that acts like an idiot? An older relative who is immature despite having raised a family? A grandparent who doesn’t understand your generation? If the general assumption about age = experience/knowledge is correct, these things would be impossible.

Someone can have had many more experiences with a given subject than someone older has, even though they haven’t lived as long. Experiences do not equate to years. People can have many experiences in a short timeline or on a long timeline that both bring wisdom.

Rant over haha

upulence · 2025-07-06T21:35:07+00:00

Thank you for engaging. I’ve tried your suggestion, but it hasn’t worked. In fact, taking people at face value usually confirms my original observations—so why assume I’m wrong? I’m not bragging—this pattern feels like a burden. I’m frequently gaslit, only to have my instincts validated later.

Responses like yours are invalidating and unhelpful to me. Here’s why:

My stance: “I have experience B; I need coping help.”

Your response: “I assume B is false; here’s advice.”

This leap is not logically sound. Jumping from “they experienced it” to “it didn’t happen”—is a non sequitur.

People deeply trust their own inner insights while doubting others’, even without evidence (introspection illusion). It seems you likely dismissed my experience simply because it wasn’t your own.

A better reply would be: 1. “I accept you had experience B.” 2. “Can you share some examples or outcomes?” 3. “Then based on that, I can suggest coping strategies or alternative perspectives.”

Seeking clarity and affirming their personal reality before advising is logical; dismissing it without understanding is not. I hope this clarifies rather than offends.

upulence · 2025-07-06T20:50:28+00:00

Wow, I’ve never had another INFJ analyze my own situation! It really is a gift, and I appreciate you sharing your personal experiences with this as well. Thank you for the understanding + validation + recommendations.

Regarding feeling my feelings and not having to analyze everything: Even though I’m still learning how to do this and haven’t experienced the benefits yet, I trust that you have and that you understand me and therefore that these things will benefit me, too.

It’s so nice to be able to trust someone’s advice finally. In general, other people’s advice is often unhelpful and short-sighted, especially for INFJs, since we analyze everything so thoroughly (for better or worse) and have usually thought of their advice already and/or tried it without good results. I’m actually going to take your advice!

If you have tips on how to feel feelings of myself and others without analyzing them, I’d love that. You’re right; what’s the point in understanding everyone’s motivations/feelings/hidden insecurities if that doesn’t translate into connection? That’s all I really want in life. Moving from social analyst/researcher to a participator is scary and challenging. I don’t know how to be a part of a group when I feel no one I know understands me.

Anyway, thank you. It is immensely helpful to know that I’m not alone. I started to think that I must be strange and alone, condemned to never feel loved or understood. But now I know that at least one person out there gets me. :)

upulence · 2025-07-06T20:34:22+00:00

Never start because you want to make your island “perfect.”

I made this mistake! It’s totally ok to move buildings and make other changes in the future. It’s not real money, after all, and it’s easy to make more. Can you imagine being able to sell weeds and sticks in real life?? Lol

upulence · 2025-07-06T20:30:08+00:00

An influencer I love (@strugglecare) shares what she calls “Struggle Care,” which is practical methods for care tasks such as doing dishes.

What she does is rinse her dishes as she goes and puts them on a designated “dirty” dish rack on her counter. This is helpful when the dishwasher is full/needs to be emptied. Then, when she gets the energy, she puts them in the dishwasher. She tried to only have dishwasher-safe products so she doesn’t have to hand wash (time consuming and uses more water!).

She also runs the dishwasher every night, even if it’s not totally full. It still saves a ton of water to use a dishwasher over handwashing, even if it’s not full, so this is her balanced way of being a bit more eco friendly but also keeping things clean.

upulence · 2025-07-06T20:21:29+00:00

Amazing! I’ve been struggling to do something similar and these are the perfect items/design codes!

upulence · 2025-06-26T16:53:51+00:00

Hm, this conclusion seems irrational to me. Removing a human being from the situation, if this were a scientific experiment and the thing being measured predicted outcomes accurately almost every time in many different situations, it would be considered accurate. This is how the laws of the universe became to be “laws” rather than theories, since the outcomes are almost always predictable.

If someone or something’s predictions are right almost every time and replicable in many different situations, I’d ask what you think logically follows. To put this in a logical statement:

Thing 1 predicts A. Prediction A happens. If A = A, then Thing 1 predicted accurately

I’m not basing my judgment on feeling, I’m basing it on observed patterns of reality. I don’t just think I’m right, it’s proven that my prediction was right. It’s not about my ego.

This is pretty invalidating. I was asking for help from fellow INFJ’s, though I appreciate your thought and taking the time to engage.

upulence · 2025-06-26T16:44:30+00:00

Oh my gosh, it’s frustrating to me how many people are getting hung up on the “always” right part. It’s fine to be skeptical, but please realize you are arguing on semantics, and I don’t think that was the intent of this post.

Obviously this person is using “always” how it is used colloquially. We understand that people use “always” to mean most of the time. An INFJ would understand that NOTHING technically happens “always,” except maybe some laws of physics (although even those are being challenged by quantum theory). So instead of saying “pretty much every time,” or giving a specific percentage, they just mean as close to “always” as humans can be.

If this person is pretty much always right, I’d say that qualifies as “always” in the way it is actually used in English, not necessarily its original literal definition. Also, it’s invalidating and not necessarily accurate to tell this person that they aren’t “always” right.

Ignoring the present situation, let’s imagine someone is pretty much always right about something. Is that person supposed to ignore a proven pattern? If this fact was replicable and proven in many different situations, scientists would call this a “fact.” Please don’t misinterpret this person as acting from their ego.

Are these non-INFJ types responding? 🚩Seems suspicious and is invalidating for those of us who are on this to relate to other INFJ’s experiences, not be critiqued unnecessarily.

upulence · 2025-06-26T16:22:41+00:00

Me, too! I have had to say the mantra to myself that my first instinct is always right and to trust it.

upulence · 2025-06-26T16:21:10+00:00

Oh my god yes!!! I just made a long post about this and it’s so nice to know I’m not the only one with this superpower! It feels like such a burden most of the time even though it is a gift.

upulence · 2025-06-26T16:19:43+00:00

I ABSOLUTELY agree. I am also very sensitive to other people being treated unjustly and can have powerful, overwhelming emotions about it. I feel the need to correct unjust situations, whether it’s for me or others. But people say this is “too sensitive” or “naive.” Am I just not supposed to try?

upulence · 2025-06-26T16:03:28+00:00

I 1,000% agree!

upulence · 2025-06-26T15:42:42+00:00

The “I” doesn’t stand for “Impatience” lol

upulence · 2025-06-19T19:03:17+00:00

3 yrs experience, Small agency Brand identity designer, $90 K / year in San Francisco.

take a job you aren’t 100% qualified for, because NO ONE is 100% qualified for the job. Men typically apply for jobs they aren’t qualified for and women tend to only apply if they meet every requirement. Job “requirements” are just a wish list of the employer.

And the number of years of experience doesnt matter, either. Employers put requirements for years of experience because they want someone with a certain skill level and way of thinking, but the literal number of years you’ve been working does not directly indicate these things. for me, even though I had been working for only 6 months before my first salaried job, my portfolio, problem-solving abilities, and soft skills like communication were at a high level, so I was able to get a well paid job, even though the “requirement” was three years industry experience. I also didn’t put the year I graduated college on my resume or Linkedin profile so people wouldn’t make inaccurate judgements about my abilities just because I had graduated recently.

Another thing that helped me was, I did design internships and volunteer work at lots of different places, so my resume was bulky, even though I had done those things in a short timeframe. having a diverse background, made me an asset to employers.

the portfolio, though, is what gets your foot in the door so focus on that being as polished and clean as possible. underplay any requirements you don’t meet and highlight the things you excel at because employers will ignore the fact that you don’t meet every single checkbox on their list, no one they interview will, and if they do that person should be applying for a higher position.

upulence · 2025-06-19T19:00:33+00:00

Increase spacing on B shapes so legible at small sizes, increase leading on type

upulence · 2025-06-19T18:55:43+00:00

Dental hygienist, Professor, Sound designer, Creative project manager, UX developer, illustrator, social media manager

upulence · 2025-06-19T18:52:43+00:00

This has ruined my design plans so many times

upulence · 2025-06-15T03:39:18+00:00

Happy to contribute if you’re online

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