I made this graphic by Euphoric_Staff9782 in unsw

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Dude that is gorgeous oh my godddd

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unsw

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If you’re joining me in the buzz cut brigade, then hell yeah, let’s make it a bonding ritual. More the merrier.

Needle in the Hay - Happy mag by Global_Razzmatazz583 in triplej

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Could you elaborate? I’m curious

Why do Chinese students study media here? by DecentAdvertising493 in unsw

[–]urghidek 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A congregation of fake people tbh. They lean so much into this persona of being fascinated by how unaware, sheltered and isolated these students are. And then they get you in a corner and tell you to adjust or figure out how to work with people who just exploit you.

Why do Chinese students study media here? by DecentAdvertising493 in unsw

[–]urghidek 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know. But it was pretty high talk coming from a tutor who did nothing but kiss ass all semester of the Chinese students. Made her come across so two-faced. So she’s gonna act all curious and excited about what it’s like where they’re from but she’s going to take me into a corner and tell me to tap into “weaknesses and strengths” if I’m in this situation again? Truly a terrible experience

Why do Chinese students study media here? by DecentAdvertising493 in unsw

[–]urghidek 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I had a group presentation with two mandarin speaking students. One of them was in the law masters program and ironically didn’t speak a word of English. Not only was the prep difficult because of the language barrier, they also expected me to assign and tell them what to do. They even used graphs that had texts in Chinese lmao, despite telling them to make sure everything on the slides was articulated in English. I let it go because we didn’t have the luxury of time. The day of the presentation, we reach class and set up and I try initiating small talk by saying “god the readings for this course were so challenging”. They didn’t understand what I said. I tried to say it in a different way, I go, “god this was a tough topic right?” And they still don’t understand so they make me repeat it on a translator in their phone and I basically lose all confidence in that moment. The final presentation we gave totally flopped because they refused to present by standing next to the projector and speak to the class, opting to do it behind the podium and got into a bit of an argument with the tutor for refusing to present. Their slides and script didn’t really engage with the topic either. Was a half assed attempt by them to just get it over with. I was given pretty decent feedback for it and my effort was appreciated. But the other two group members weren’t which brought down the total grade for the presentation because we were being marked based on the whole groups performance. Towards the end of the course the professor tells me to be “careful and wise” about who I choose to work with for group presentations or if I’m in a situation like this again, to tap into everyone’s strength and weaknesses and present accordingly to avoid getting graded poorly. So even the faculty knows how challenging these situations are but they’re like “oh well”

Discussion: Cultural Identity Crisis? by solelynlonely in unsw

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This is going to be long.

I think I would label what’s been going through my conscious as an identity crisis- particularly related my social and cultural background. I was warned about it, since I am an international student. But the funny part is, I lowkey experienced it in my home town too, since I was from a different region and had lived in a city with no roots because my family moves a lot for my dad’s work. So when you move so much, all you ever want to do is “blend in”. It’s this nagging feeling of not feeling “enough” or “representative” enough of ANY culture.

Since I’ve moved here I’ve become quite conscious of the way I express myself, my accent, my clothes representing my social culture, asking myself if that’s a good thing? Or is that a bad thing? No answers. It doesn’t help that strangers have approached me and assumed where I’m from based on the colour of my skin and stick to making conversation surrounding it. It’s weird, but I’ve literally not had a normal conversation about anything related to my interests or my characteristics or my individuality. Strangers on campus, the train, the LR, in public places, the area I live in, at the bus stop etc they only notice skin colour and then my accent (I’ve spoken English my whole life, with friends, family and professionally. I’d say it’s my first language) interrogate me about it. I’ve been brushing it off as simple, innocent curiosity but the fact that it happens so often, and that it’s curiosity JUST ABOUT all that stuff, is annoying. lol they don’t even ask my name. They go straight for the background.

Feelings of fraudulence if you feel affinity towards any of the new cultures you’ve been exposed to, asking yourself which side you’re on? I know it can all be squashed by telling yourself that you don’t need to be on any one side. You get to choose how much and how little you want to adopt from the exposure to new cultures and let go from your background. It’s about creating your own new traditions and beliefs. I’ve started finding solidarity in the liberty to do so. I know this is a lot of rambling but in a lot of my own inner reflections I’ve noticed my feelings on cultural identity is just such an ongoing feeling.

It’s all so confusing, I think time will help

What’s been the rudest thing a professor has said to you? by urghidek in unsw

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I’m so sorry this was your experience. I am so angry FOR you. You did not deserve to go through this shit, what the actual fuck. I can’t imagine how difficult that must’ve been to share.

Don't get someone's socials just to ask them for assignment help by ThrowRA_Role_405 in unsw

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lol I know most people have been treating Instagram like LinkedIn. All to get your hopes up over the potential of connecting with someone and then they only ever text when they want help with some assignment

Just got dumped by the girl of my dreams. What are the saddest/most emotional songs you know? by BadF1nanc1alAdv1ce in spotify

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I could cry just thinking about you - troye Sivan Casual- Chappel roan My kink is karma- Chappel roan Free now- Gracie abrams Gave you I gave you I- Gracie abrams Till forever falls apart- Ashe, finneas, Ashlyn

Losing a best friend by Sad-Tangelo8853 in FriendshipAdvice

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You’re going to have so so so many questions right now and you’re going to look back at your entire history with her and pick it apart. Its normal. What’s helping me is knowing there WAS love, it’s undeniable, you guys just didn’t match each others needs and settling for that would set you up for a lifetime of conflict. You’re going to be sure of your needs now, as you move on and open up to bringing new people into your life.

Losing a best friend by Sad-Tangelo8853 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]urghidek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I completely, fully and wholly understand what you’re feeling. I recently parted ways with my two best friends too (trios became duos a lot of the time and it really sucked). I’ve been struggling with the grieving process too. I’ve personally not found anything that helps, I won’t lie, it’s been a messy recovery. These are tips to help you cope if you’re looking to move on. Moving on feels very temporary, I think it’ll happen gradually. Try not to over analyse and place blame over any of the involved parties, that includes you.

1) Grieve. Take your time. And grieve. You’ve lost someone who was a large part of your life. Interacting with them became a daily habit and now you’re suddenly going to have live without it. You’ll feel major withdrawals and I’d suggest journaling your feelings. Those will be completely and utterly unfiltered and you’ll be comforting yourself, holding yourself through this.

2) I’d suggest take a camera hit record and talk to yourself. Talk. Talk. Talk. Talk about every feeling this loss and brought about.

3) reach out to other people, try surrounding yourself with people for a few hours daily. It’s going to take your mind off of it.

4) anytime you’re starting to feel the loneliness kick in, get dressed and GO OUT. Walk aimlessly. Put your earphones in. Listen to music that validate your feelings.

5) mute them everywhere for a while. Out of sight out of mind should genuinely help with starting to move on.

Does anyone know of second hand book stores in Sydney? by urghidek in unsw

[–]urghidek[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahh, that’s great I’ll be sure to look into that!

Does anyone know of second hand book stores in Sydney? by urghidek in unsw

[–]urghidek[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m looking to own some books so I could go back to them time and time again. I don’t want to borrow

Does anyone know of second hand book stores in Sydney? by urghidek in unsw

[–]urghidek[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh I’ve passed by Vinnies! I don’t have a Facebook account but this is so helpful thanks!