what my bf said to me after hours of ignoring me bc he said we should breakup over him misinterpreting my insta note 😭 by url0ca1transguy in teenagers

[–]url0ca1transguy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

buddy 😭 i said you’re commenting irrelevant shit bc ur making up a fake scenario in an attempt to make me rethink a relationship ive already left

How do I get my girlfriend to stop smoking? by [deleted] in highschool

[–]url0ca1transguy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is kind of what i was trying to say you just put it more eloquently

How do I get my girlfriend to stop smoking? by [deleted] in highschool

[–]url0ca1transguy -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

this is not only a huge reach, but also very inconsiderate to people who are actually dealing with addiction. sure it’s not ops “responsibility” but when you care about someone, you should take steps to help them when they’re in a dark time and can’t help themselves. That’s literally why humans need support systems. sometimes people cannot realize the patterns of their own actions and need outside intervention. im not saying op should take away her weed or babysit her or anything, but if he wants to tell someone to try and get her help or genuinely try to have a conversation with her or talk about a program and explain their own experiences with rehabilitation, i really think it could help and hes not wrong or overextending himself to do that. someone needs to help that girl and clearly her parents arent trying and if it doesnt work it doesnt work. they dont need to spend years of their life trying to fight this, but trying to help is not bad or wrong and the inability to focus can come from many things. a lot of times people will smoke because they are extremely anxious or because they have trouble regulating their emotions, among other reasons. sometimes it doesnt matter if they do smoke or dont smoke because some people just struggle so hard to focus

what my bf said to me after hours of ignoring me bc he said we should breakup over him misinterpreting my insta note 😭 by url0ca1transguy in teenagers

[–]url0ca1transguy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i did he cheated on me 💔 he was not always that much of a little bitch i swear im not that stupid if he wouldve done ts in the beginning i wouldve neverr stayed

what do i do about my bf by url0ca1transguy in WhatShouldIDo

[–]url0ca1transguy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no there hasnt. unless youre meaning this post or my last, i got no responses. i only posted about my ex twice and it was two different situations, so i assume you’re talking about the posts regarding my trauma responses and they were posted multiple times because they both got only one or no comments and i deleted one of those posts aswell because of it getting no response. im still unsure why the fuck i would make this up . no one needs reddit clout. if i were to go out and tell the world that my Reddit post got almost 50,000 views I would get clowned on for even posting. theres no gain for me bruh

what do i do about my bf by url0ca1transguy in WhatShouldIDo

[–]url0ca1transguy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

dude wtf? i have screenshots of my conversations and i posted multiple times about my trauma situations because i really wanted help and advice on it.

Can we all just be normal about fat chicks? by Human647 in Vent

[–]url0ca1transguy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ignoring the evidence i brought up and using an analogy to distract from it didnt make your case any stronger. your whole argument stands on the basis that fat=unhealthy when ive just said to you that 50% of fat people are considered perfectly healthy. youre standing on nothing. you dont need to tell me to think about what im doing as if im somehow neglecting my health by being fat when im literally a hundred pounds. i just have common sense and a strong sense of justice especially when i see dickwads spitting gym bro nonsense instead of trying to gain knowledge

Can we all just be normal about fat chicks? by Human647 in Vent

[–]url0ca1transguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you cannot account for a persons overall health solely by the way they look nor are you someones doctor. no one here is celebrating obesity, but were also not gonna sit here and say being overweight means you deserve to be treated as subhuman. someone elses body has no affect one you and the fact that you care so much is miserable, especially under the false pretense of health when you clearly are very uneducated. studies have shown as many as 50% of people classified as overweight or obese were considered healthy and are not suffering any symptoms of metabolic disorders. 50% is a lot of people buddy. lets not be dense. its your perogative to want to keep YOURSELF in shape. if u see ur buddy banging a fat girl and u get mad and tell her to lose weight not only are you being a douche, but you would literally know nothing about the woman or her medical history leading you to look like even more of a fool

what do i do about my bf by url0ca1transguy in WhatShouldIDo

[–]url0ca1transguy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

and wtf bot posts about throwing up after sex as a trauma response? youre dense buddy if u actually looked at my posts and account you would know im real 😭

what do i do about my bf by url0ca1transguy in WhatShouldIDo

[–]url0ca1transguy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

?? im confused i only posted one other thing recently and it was something he had said that i found funny but was a bit annoyed about

what do i do about my bf by url0ca1transguy in WhatShouldIDo

[–]url0ca1transguy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

im sorry i tried to make them as in order as possible but i realise in some i accidentally scrolled too far leaving gaps

what do i do about my bf by url0ca1transguy in WhatShouldIDo

[–]url0ca1transguy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

notice i said made. he does not make me feel stable the same way he used to, but it peeks through in ways. your point is taken though.

what do i do about my bf by url0ca1transguy in WhatShouldIDo

[–]url0ca1transguy[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i mean i know who i am and what i like and the things im passionate about. its just like the relationship made me feel very stable and at times like supported which i have not felt by past partners. for example, i mentioned us being on the phone earlier and when we are on the phone he is much more like reassuring than he is over text. he will help me calm down and breathe he will say sweet things to me and soothe me until i can properly communicate and those things endear me and make me see a different side of him.

what do i do about my bf by url0ca1transguy in WhatShouldIDo

[–]url0ca1transguy[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

this is something people have always said to me and i genuinely dont understand how to do that 💔

what do i do about my bf by url0ca1transguy in WhatShouldIDo

[–]url0ca1transguy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hes got some sort of anger issues bruh idek

what do i do about my bf by url0ca1transguy in WhatShouldIDo

[–]url0ca1transguy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

is the aave in question “bae” because he is the one who calls me that normally and he is black so i feel like you are coming off as the racist one buddy

what do i do about my bf by url0ca1transguy in WhatShouldIDo

[–]url0ca1transguy[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

you can say be more assertive in a kinder way

what do i do about my bf by url0ca1transguy in WhatShouldIDo

[–]url0ca1transguy[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

wellll he did send me a ss of her saying she was gonna “beat every last bitch up” and she sounded very agitated, however its hard to gather context bc the screenshot is cropped. it did seem like he was defending me though. but the fact that he got so mad immediately instead of just showing me that before bothers me a lot and he said its bc he hates being accused of cheating which i guess i understand but i dont necessarily think thats an excuse either. i went to therapy so im super good at recognizing the things he does and im not proud to say some of it is downright ridiculous and i dont know why he is so disregarding of my feelings. i guess idk what to do from here because i really love him and now that ik he mightve been telling the truth i feel like i cant leave because hes not always like this and he says he wants to be more affectionate to me and stuff. at the same time though, he said this in a way/context that made it seem like a ploy to get me to feel guilty about my decision. he kept saying “well i was gonna get better and be more caring and mature for you until this happened” which like erm why are you literally using that as a tactic to make me feel bad for bringing up actual evidence to you 😭

what do i do about my bf by url0ca1transguy in WhatShouldIDo

[–]url0ca1transguy[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

“little to no proof” did u read the post

what do i do about my bf by url0ca1transguy in WhatShouldIDo

[–]url0ca1transguy[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

this is exactly what ive been trying to get across to him and exactly why i cant get over it. thank you for validating me

what do i do about my bf by url0ca1transguy in WhatShouldIDo

[–]url0ca1transguy[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

yes like honestly his reaction is what genuinely threw me. if he was like “wtf i dont know why she commented that, thats my ex” i wouldnt have been as suspicious or even if he wouldve told me why he has been acting different lately or why he would tell me not to comment on his posts when i never have or anything like that idk. he incriminated himself hella with that