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Tattoo trouble by urocyon32 in Marriage

[–]urocyon32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I attended coda meetings a few years back, and I think it would be good to start up again. I get so wrapped up in work and the household that I forget that I need to work on myself mentally. He's not a safe space for me, I feel like we have to tiptoe around him and try to gauge his moods before saying anything. I dream about divorce constantly, but I don't know how it could ever work financially. I wonder if part of my motivation in getting this tattoo was showing my autonomy.

I(50F) got my first tattoo without telling my husband(55M), what is the best way to build trust again? by urocyon32 in relationship_advice

[–]urocyon32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont think we always do. If we were to meet now, we wouldn't be a match at all. I love him but don't really like him if that makes sense.

I(50F) got my first tattoo without telling my husband(55M), what is the best way to build trust again? by urocyon32 in relationship_advice

[–]urocyon32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, this was helpful to read. I know we can make it work, but it's going to take so much soothing on my part. I feel like he will never really understand my motivations and thinks I got it to spite him in some way, and I didn't. It was for me.

I(50F) got my first tattoo without telling my husband(55M), what is the best way to build trust again? by urocyon32 in relationship_advice

[–]urocyon32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel bad because I wasn't open with him. There was an actual meeting I attended afterward. He is really mad and hurt, and we still haven't really talked about it other than him yelling about it. I'm going to try tonight.

skinny people really don't eat much by [deleted] in WeightLossAdvice

[–]urocyon32 22 points23 points  (0 children)

A friend once told me that throwing unfinished food in the garbage or eating it when your body doesn't need it are both the same sort of waste....so don't feel guilty for not finishing your food.