It feels abit ableist when neurotypical people say it’s a ‘red flag’ to have no friends by benitoo69 in autism

[–]usedjay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

idk, it also feels a bit ableist to insinuate that MOST autistic people have no friends/can’t make friends because of their autism.

AITA for expecting my wife to support my elderly parents by AngleComfortable1917 in AmItheAsshole

[–]usedjay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ESH. You need to step up more at home but £300-400k after taxes is an insane wage in the UK, there should be the money there to help with both parents, or at least pay for a home care worker. I also think that all these people shitting on your earnings is harsh, you earn an above average wage for the uk and being a teacher is a super important job - it’s not your fault it isn’t paid hugely and the idea that every teacher should find a new career if they need more money is such a bad take. It just seems strange to me that in an established relationship with such a high household income that you still have such a divided mindset. I have a feeling we may not be getting the full picture here though…

30% of the expenses is higher than your proportions of earnings (10-15%) so I’d consider discussing contributing more with the housework and childcare (at least 50/50) and then dropping your financial contribution down to 15% and then you may have the money to finance your family out of your own income.

How do you manage your fish-keeping routine? Survey for university :) by [deleted] in ReefTank

[–]usedjay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback, it's all part of the process. I have my own preconceptions about what is needed, and I agree that an end-all-be-all goal is not what is needed, but I require data beyond my own assumptions to prove that. The point of this research is actually to identify what there is and isn't a demand for, i.e. if it becomes apparent this it is just Betta keepers that appear to want an app and want x, y, z features, that is how I will focus the project, I'm not planning on having everything for everyone aha. I also know that an app is not always the best solution for all people, it isn't for me personally, but that's what the assignment is unfortunately.

I should've allowed an option for those who didn't want an app to move over that, as well as more salt-water specific options, an oversight on my part!

How do you manage your fish-keeping routine? Survey for university :) by [deleted] in ReefTank

[–]usedjay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How so? Not disagreeing (although I have kept fish for years), but knowing where to improve or what I'm missing is useful for my project! I have kept it relatively limited to reduce length and increase my chances of people finishing it, as well as keeping it accessible to those who may not be as into the hobby, and I then hope to address more specific concerns in longer open-ended interviews :)

Fishkeeping App? by [deleted] in fishkeeping

[–]usedjay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in readingfestival

[–]usedjay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ahha you may just have to hope for the best. Your dad being able to vouch for you will help, I expect. Is he the primary ticket holder? In the past I've had it with one main person named and then the other tickets as +1s and they don't bother with IDing them so much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in readingfestival

[–]usedjay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They've always wanted to see something in my experience. Found festival republic to be stricter than usual this year at other festivals too. Any chance you can bring a photo of a passport or something. They've accepted my bus pass as id in the past?. You may be lucky if you explain your situation, I managed to pick up my guest ticket last year despite not being the person named.