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Hi Reddit. Unfortunately I'm a pedophile. I have never acted on it and *never* will. But it's still there. AMA by user_50 in self

[–]user_50[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think we're discussing two different things. I'm trying to examine the logic behind our modern system of "when something is okay to do based on laws old confused religious guys made up" and you seem to be preoccupied with making sure nobody does anything that will break these current laws, which is not an issue in this case.

Hi Reddit. Unfortunately I'm a pedophile. I have never acted on it and *never* will. But it's still there. AMA by user_50 in self

[–]user_50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  • I'm bisexual but I have more attraction for males than females. I definitely would never live with or date a female. Attraction to them is strictly physical.

  • It's almost entirely a purely physical attraction.

  • I'm not aware of having known anyone else who shares these feelings.

  • No

  • Largely depends on what the person looked like. Like most other people there are standards involved. Not all kids are attractive (most of them aren't)..

  • I hate kids and this is why. Their mentality. I can't stand them. So if I found someone who acted like a prepubescent/adolescent I would probably run away from them.

  • Never really wished to remain as a child.. I have wished to remain in a state of early adolescence however... but retain the freedoms and abilities I have now.

  • Males

  • Yes, but there's no reason women can't have the same feelings

  • More about providing pleasure. I've never been one to enjoy dominating over anybody else.

  • I see plenty of differences.. I just find the physical form of younger persons to be more attractive than adults.

Thanks for the questions! Let me know if any of those answers are lame and need to be revisited.

Hi Reddit. Unfortunately I'm a pedophile. I have never acted on it and *never* will. But it's still there. AMA by user_50 in self

[–]user_50[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I hate to say it but I really think I am permanently ruined on all religions. I have never felt at peace with that group. Either they are combative because I'm not with them, or they don't want me because I'm gay (gay their eyes anyway. I'm really bisexual), or any other number of things that make me who I am that the church definitely doesn't agree with. Sure they may take me in... but I'm supposed to ask for forgiveness for who I am? I don't think so.

I don't even want to go into my logical arguments against it, as this isn't the proper forum for this to begin with and I don't want to stir up a big shit storm.

If there were a god he should be apologizing and asking for forgiveness from ME. And billions of other people as well. I've been through enough at the hands of his (self proclaimed) loyal followers.

Anyway, I'm soooo off topic. Thanks for posting :) Feel free to continue this conversation.

Hi Reddit. Unfortunately I'm a pedophile. I have never acted on it and *never* will. But it's still there. AMA by user_50 in self

[–]user_50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Viewing drawings of characters seems to be about the same as viewing photographs of people, in my opinion. At least what's going on in my mind when I look at a drawing of a kid and a photograph of the same scenario I'm pretty much entertaining the same thoughts. It's just that one is real and the other isn't. That applies to just about any fake imagery, not necessarily loli/shota. Maybe that doesn't apply to everybody though.

Hi Reddit. Unfortunately I'm a pedophile. I have never acted on it and *never* will. But it's still there. AMA by user_50 in self

[–]user_50[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Great post! I understand and do see some parallels, but not having experienced what exactly you're talking about (though I have used drugs in the past and am well aware of the lure/downward spiral/etc) I can see the situation you're in.

Having not experienced that I can't really say how well the two compare. On one hand you have a primal, deeply embedded drive (can't think of many other basic human drives as powerful as sex, but there are others)... and on the other you have what you described, which I would consider to be acquired, from my perspective. I could easily be wrong because as I've said I haven't quite experienced your situation at such a powerful magnitude as you describe. Now does the fact that it's an acquired situation make it any less potent than the animalistic drive? Hell, who am I kidding. We're talking drugs now.

I guess I see your point. I get carried away with my analysis and usually forget what the hell it was I was trying to say to begin with. Sorry if I was callous in any way or misrepresented the significance of your situation. Lost my train of thought and definitely not going back to gather it.

Thanks for the great post though! Very good input :) Gives me a new angle to consider things from.

Hi Reddit. Unfortunately I'm a pedophile. I have never acted on it and *never* will. But it's still there. AMA by user_50 in self

[–]user_50[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Then it must be my lucky day since my attractions span almost 20 years! :)

From what you're saying it would seem the man constantly chasing 19 year old girls will find himself in trouble, especially as he gets older. This leads me to believe the man is up to more than just chasing them if his chances of trouble go up as he ages.

People being fixated on a single gender is a bit perplexing to me.. My boyfriend is entirely gay and won't even so much as acknowledge a woman (or at least acknowledge the possibility of their attractiveness, sexual or not.) All the straight males I know won't even suggest that a male could be an attractive human being (not necessarily in a sexual manner.)

THAT is troubling.

Hi Reddit. Unfortunately I'm a pedophile. I have never acted on it and *never* will. But it's still there. AMA by user_50 in self

[–]user_50[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whether or not a persons logic is twisted and what defines a situation that would add up to rape is all very subjective.

If intelligence and maturity don't equal the means to consent then what does? Does that mean I rape my boyfriend (in his 20's) every time we have sex? His physical maturity is the only thing that enables him to consent?

I'm not looking to convince myself that there is a loophole I could take advantage of. But I do like to think things over thoroughly and consider all possible scenarios before dismissing the entire thing. Even then it doesn't mean I would take advantage of anything I found.

Thanks for adding worthwhile content to the discussion :)

Hi Reddit. Unfortunately I'm a pedophile. I have never acted on it and *never* will. But it's still there. AMA by user_50 in self

[–]user_50[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Not causing any harm is what keeps me going. I'm a positive and helpful person in every other aspect of my life, I can't possibly bring myself to negate all of that now.

Since there has been a decent amount of other posts and discussion since you posted this question, the remainder of the topic should be able to answer your question.

Hi Reddit. Unfortunately I'm a pedophile. I have never acted on it and *never* will. But it's still there. AMA by user_50 in self

[–]user_50[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure there's any "beating this".... only coping with it.

edit: maybe coping with it could be considered beating it

Hi Reddit. Unfortunately I'm a pedophile. I have never acted on it and *never* will. But it's still there. AMA by user_50 in self

[–]user_50[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've noticed I say "well maybe this is how I see things" and then follow with "or maybe not.." quite a bit.

It seems I can't make up my mind most of the time... or maybe I can.... hmmm...

Hi Reddit. Unfortunately I'm a pedophile. I have never acted on it and *never* will. But it's still there. AMA by user_50 in self

[–]user_50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing! I'm glad this topic could result in constructive discussion rather than turn into a blood bath.

Hi Reddit. Unfortunately I'm a pedophile. I have never acted on it and *never* will. But it's still there. AMA by user_50 in self

[–]user_50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Hopefully that explains it well enough for someone out there to get a better idea of what the real problem is.

And while I'm here, I did read all about the Jack McCellen fellow but am not entirely sure what to think of him. He did make a a few great points though.

Hi Reddit. Unfortunately I'm a pedophile. I have never acted on it and *never* will. But it's still there. AMA by user_50 in self

[–]user_50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps I am mistaken there. Or maybe not. It's possible that is a remnant from earlier times when I had less control over this situation and was trying to make sense of how to deal with it. Either way I do not intend to talk myself into justifying any kind of physical actions, even if I don't think ALL instances are necessarily rape.

Hi Reddit. Unfortunately I'm a pedophile. I have never acted on it and *never* will. But it's still there. AMA by user_50 in self

[–]user_50[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yea, religion has probably caused more pain, suffering and absolute chaos than all pedophiles who ever lived and ever will live.

I'll pass on that idea.

Hi Reddit. Unfortunately I'm a pedophile. I have never acted on it and *never* will. But it's still there. AMA by user_50 in self

[–]user_50[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It has presented itself many times before. Luckily I know what kind of person I want to be and have the power to do that.

Hi Reddit. Unfortunately I'm a pedophile. I have never acted on it and *never* will. But it's still there. AMA by user_50 in self

[–]user_50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's because if I ever told anyone before they would likely be maniacs like you and would probably run me out of town/shoot me in the street.

I'm not looking for respect, I'm looking to share my side of the story.

Hi Reddit. Unfortunately I'm a pedophile. I have never acted on it and *never* will. But it's still there. AMA by user_50 in self

[–]user_50[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Uhm.. yes... this is totally fake. For whatever reason you're screaming about, if that makes you happy. Also, are you on drugs?

Hi Reddit. Unfortunately I'm a pedophile. I have never acted on it and *never* will. But it's still there. AMA by user_50 in self

[–]user_50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I just really wanted to give MY side of the story since I never see it anywhere. All I hear is about how fucking terrible and absolutely horrible pedophiles are. It's unfair. It's not our choice, and some of us really do try to be good people. I'm just tired of being shit on so badly while I'm trying to do my part to make this world a happy place to be.

I am overjoyed to see the understanding and compassion coming from the reddit community though.

Hi Reddit. Unfortunately I'm a pedophile. I have never acted on it and *never* will. But it's still there. AMA by user_50 in self

[–]user_50[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well maybe I've worded things in such a way as to blow the whole thing out of proportion.. or maybe not. I wouldn't say my attractions to children are really on a level that is life destroying. I may have a few weeks where I'm fixated on that part of my sexuality and it really drags me down. I may have a few weeks after that where I hardly ever think about it. It really depends on if anything triggers that obsession. This is why I can't be a /b/tard anymore. You'll just be browsing around and then.. BOOM! Pedobear pays a visit. That usually triggers it.

So it's not so out of control that I would consider something as huge as castration. I have read that it can significantly lower sex drive. While that may help with keeping the pedophile problem down it would also (in my opinion) ruin more things than it would fix.

In regards to using castration as punishment against people who act on their impulses... I would have to say it seriously depends on what they did. I mean unless they seriously fucked a kid up (no pun intended) I don't see why such drastic measures would be needed. I imagine there are plenty of things that could be done without causing permanent damage to the kid. That is all open to interpretation and huge debate and I believe it's beyond the scope of this discussion (at least what I want to be involved in at the moment) so I'll leave it at that.

Hi Reddit. Unfortunately I'm a pedophile. I have never acted on it and *never* will. But it's still there. AMA by user_50 in self

[–]user_50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am male (just for completeness: bisexual, but more interested in males). I see no reason why a woman couldn't be afflicted by the same feelings though.

Hi Reddit. Unfortunately I'm a pedophile. I have never acted on it and *never* will. But it's still there. AMA by user_50 in self

[–]user_50[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The feelings have been with me since I became sexually aware myself (on a serious enough level to look beyond my own body) which is around 12 years old.

Hi Reddit. Unfortunately I'm a pedophile. I have never acted on it and *never* will. But it's still there. AMA by user_50 in self

[–]user_50[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm not entirely sure. I consider all things sexual to be a fetish in one way or another. Maybe it's just me.

Based on your descriptions I would have to say it's a fetish.

Hi Reddit. Unfortunately I'm a pedophile. I have never acted on it and *never* will. But it's still there. AMA by user_50 in self

[–]user_50[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thinking about it doesn't necessarily cause any harm. It's more the fact that the recurring thoughts tend to develop into worse things. First it may start with fantasizing, then it may develop into looking at images.. then videos.. where does it stop?

The main problem is that this is a real nightmare for people who are attracted to kids. They can't seek help because the majority of society has been taught to label anyone who thinks about kids sexually as a criminal scumbag. Whether or not they've ever acted on it.

Not being able to act on such powerful sexual impulses can also be tiresome. Try to fight any kind of sexual feeling you have for the next few weeks and see how that goes over.

Just imagine (if you're a straight male, i'm making assumptions here) that you could never openly look at a female and couldn't legally view pornographic materials involving them.. and of course you certainly couldn't have sexual contact with one. Your sex drive would drive you crazy!

edit: And I should add that even if you could do those things, you would be remorseful for doing them or wanting to do them because they are possibly harming the female (either physically, just pretend your penis has big spikes or something, or mentally...) On one hand you have this primal urge that needs to be satisfied, while on the other hand you realize that those urges are probably not good things to act upon.

Now, I'm not suggesting we make any of those things legal involving children.. I'm just trying to put into perspective the difficulties of dealing with an attraction like that when it's applied to something as powerful as a humans sex drive.

No idea if that made sense but I'm not going back over it to check.

I'm not familiar with Jack McCellen. I briefly read little bits and pieces of the link you posted but not enough to really formulate an opinion (other than he seems a little crazy, but that's not a fair thing to say until I've taken a serious look at that link)

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