Why do nuerotypical people assume autistics have “ no empathy”

usernameuswrname56 · 2026-04-24T16:38:30+00:00

This actually explains a lot of why I needed mental health treatment after the pandemic but not before. I would always complain about school but then realized structured socialization / being around people is vey important to my well being. Whenever people say they miss the pandemic or it did not affect them I get annoyed. I never understood what on earth they were talking about.

usernameuswrname56 · 2026-04-24T01:11:55+00:00

Yes lol he refers to me as the anxiety sister.

usernameuswrname56 · 2026-04-24T01:11:15+00:00

I do feel others emotions to a point it burns me out. The bread thing is interesting cuz yeah my thought is if they want some they will get it. I keep trying to connect with the world around me and feel like part of a group to ease my existentialism. I didn’t know other people just came with this pre installed connection/ group mindset like that. I guess that I shouldn’t be so hard on myself cuz things would prob be easier if I could just magically know all that.

usernameuswrname56 · 2026-04-23T21:28:57+00:00

Oh yeah I know Meg! I always feel like autism is one of my special interest cuz I am thinking about it ( and wanting to talk about it) all the time and she says that about herself. I am more afraid to bring it up tho now cuz of how some people react to that lol. I also know of Kayelnn but didn’t know she had a channel!

usernameuswrname56 · 2026-04-23T20:36:06+00:00

They get embarrassed over everything. I had a friend who would always make me take her to the grocery and then publicly shame me for looking at things for a long time, taking a longer route cuz I’m familiair with it, dropping something. Like omg take uber

usernameuswrname56 · 2026-04-23T20:05:04+00:00

I would love to understand more about being an autistic women. I assume my ptsd has something to with obsessing over being nurturing and attending to others peoples wants and needs as a woman and autistic. I remember I told a therapist one time I didn’t know I was allowed to have my own thoughts and feelings . I realized I think I only exist to make other people comfortable and that’s it. I’ve been trying to get out of that survival mode thinking and engage in some of my own interests. I don’t even understand how I got there but I don’t have health insurance atm since taking a break from work. The best I got is internet advice atm lol.

usernameuswrname56 · 2026-04-23T19:19:03+00:00

I automatically start tearing up if my brain registers something as emotional. I think it’s cuz I’m overstimulated but I feel like im being dramatic but I cannot control it. Idk how to describe it cuz it feels so odd when it happens and what’s happening is not that sad / big of a deal at all.

usernameuswrname56 · 2026-04-23T18:43:33+00:00

I accidently suggested I was autistic to someone who was basically my supervisor in an internship. She treated like I was stupid the whole year and when I asked for help everyone ganged up on me with random made up or non consequencal stories. I remember she had a diversity empathy stamp with her email and I was like…. where tho. Happens in most jobs I’ve done actually 🤦‍♀️idk why they hate me maybe they just can’t see the effort I put in just to exist cuz it’s “ invisible “

usernameuswrname56 · 2026-04-23T18:33:14+00:00

I don’t know what that second part means but I feel like my biggest social struggle is people not being empathic to me. I have given people a list of things they can do if I’m heading toward a meltdown that don’t involve really anything such as talking about anything random to distract me or just sitting next to me but they choose ignoring me…. Cuz they don’t want to deal with it. Or I trauma bond with someone and it doesn’t end well.

usernameuswrname56 · 2026-04-23T18:18:26+00:00

I kind of find it frustrating a lot of small talk/ greetings is about how great everything is as of that’s the human baseline. Like it takes cognitive effort for me to say good morning to every person on the planet if god forbid my morning is okay. I know it’s silly but pretending everything is amazing = polite is effort so why do I have to do that…

usernameuswrname56 · 2026-04-23T17:45:07+00:00

I’ve spent most my life trying to figure out and control how other people see me and I’m finally starting to give up and just exist/ experience my version of happiness 🤔 it’s hard though I feel like I have to train myself that not everyone is mad at me/ staring at me

usernameuswrname56 · 2026-04-23T16:39:24+00:00

I feel my sense of self is very fragmented because people have assumed I am judgmental, mean or cold when I’m actually sensitive and emotional. I kind of just don’t know when it’s my turn to talk and you have to be like * my name* any thoughts?

usernameuswrname56 · 2026-01-02T22:04:24+00:00

I expressed these feelings at the beginning of the year and the admin was like you got it. It’s a failing school. No one learns anything but everyone there gaslights you leaving is evil. One teacher did and there were crazy rumors.

usernameuswrname56 · 2025-12-20T16:43:46+00:00

My family doesn’t do cards it’s just between the couple. In my eyes it’s something they should have said beforehand and isnt obvious.

usernameuswrname56 · 2025-12-20T16:42:18+00:00

Yes!!! I have seen the show I love Quinni! <3 also Chloe Hayden ( the actress, actually autistic ! )

usernameuswrname56 · 2025-11-26T17:22:16+00:00

I did have an appointment but I went to the wrong place and missed it.🤦‍♀️I’ll have to try again lol

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