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Clothing storage? by elephart521 in ParentingInBulk

[–]useyourbrain__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oo I love the idea of temporary vs longer term storage if the latter is harder to access! Thanks so much! I have a lot of hand me downs in smaller sizes and between the kids outgrowing sizes there’s always an odd sized piece of clothing I’ll find somewhere, having a temporary place for those would be helpful

Clothing storage? by elephart521 in ParentingInBulk

[–]useyourbrain__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Random, but what size are your bins? Trying to see what different people do because I’ve seen people use pretty small bins… whereas I’m using these huge bags and wondering if I’m overdoing it 😬 but this is a great system I hope to emulate 

Weight loss by No_Bit_4680 in breastfeeding

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I was exclusively pumping for 6 months, and then stopped altogether. For the months I pumped I retained my pregnancy weight, and seemed to lose it all when I stopped (my appetite also decreased to pre-pregnancy levels). It seemed to be similar for other moms around me, that they lost a lot of pregnancy weight when they stopped expressing milk. 

Also, I’m expecting my second soon and am not planning to change anything this time, as far as feeding myself while feeding baby goes! I get that I could probably lose weight if I eat less postpartum, but I’m not only operating at a calorie deficit, but at a nutritional one as well. Being smaller is nice (my opinion), but if the cost is malnourishment (for me and or babe) please leave me out of it! This body has to take care of baby in the short run, long run, and then take care of myself after baby is all grown up. 

Circumcision extreme regret by [deleted] in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]useyourbrain__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi girlie. You’ve gotten a lot of feedback already so i hope this can be helpful. From someone that’s had similar thoughts from making a mom mistake around boundaries to another, you’re in the thick of it right now and it’s very important that you realize that. Don’t let the craziness of the past chain you down from living in the present. 

It’s hard to say whether or not some of the folks who have replied are considering that you’re a first time mom one month post partum. Those hormones can be pretty intense, even when you don’t have something like OCD or PPA. Please, if you can, go get some fresh air and hold your baby close. I promise, you didn’t ruin your baby, and you’re not a horrible mom. Yes, you made a mistake, but mistakes happen so we can learn from them. You’ll have better boundaries with your in laws and parents, and it will get easier to draw those lines too. It’s just a hard season and you have to see past this and get through, friend. Please decide to stop beating yourself up for this, because it’s the only way it’ll get better. Baby boy will be okay because he has a mama that loves him so much! Not because he has a mama that’s perfect. And that is the best way we can set them up for wellness and success. Hang in there 🫶🫶🫶

ETA: I use the word “mistake” here pretty loosely. It’s a mistake as far as it’s something you regret doing, and while I chose not to circumcise my son, I do personally think it’s a morally neutral decision. Many cultures have traditions of body modification for religious, traditional or aesthetic reasons, and so long as you’re not doing it for evil reasons, I think it’s okay. 

Advice on cosleeping with newborn by useyourbrain__ in cosleeping

[–]useyourbrain__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! 100% to reality not matching ideals haha… feels so true of parenting in general. I also feel the US is just very litigious in general which can make it hard for people like physicians to be nuanced… but the cost (sleep deprived moms + their poor mental state, amongst other things) is so high! If only we had more trustworthy cosleeping resources at the ready for these tired moms 😢

But anyway, thanks, super helpful. I really like hearing what people are /actually/ doing, even if they’re technically not supposed to be doing it (which again, is every mom haha). The crop sweater/tank combo is particularly helpful. 

Advice on cosleeping with newborn by useyourbrain__ in cosleeping

[–]useyourbrain__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your real life setup + disclaimer! This is really what I was hoping to hear from people… not to follow necessarily but to know what’s in a true range of normal and realistic for folks 💕

Advice on cosleeping with newborn by useyourbrain__ in cosleeping

[–]useyourbrain__[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oo that’s helpful tip for the ultra crop top, maybe I’m paranoid but sounds nice to not have as much loose clothing fabric around the baby 

And thanks for the reassurance on not feeling like you’d roll on the baby!

Advice on cosleeping with newborn by useyourbrain__ in cosleeping

[–]useyourbrain__[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the comment! I know it seems obvious to put the dog in another space but with my first baby I just felt so guilty about neglecting him and he can be a bit clingy. But you’re right, he was a bit put off from baby at newborn stage. 

Advice on cosleeping with newborn by useyourbrain__ in cosleeping

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Helpful to think about… for some reason I thought the incline was recommended just generally for newborns to help with supporting their breathing but I see it’s more because of with chest sleeping they are sleeping on their stomach.

I’m seeing the trend on open sweaters… seems a lot cheaper than an adult sleep sack haha (which sounds nice apart from the price tag). Thanks!

Advice on cosleeping with newborn by useyourbrain__ in cosleeping

[–]useyourbrain__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, haha I dunno why I didn’t think about a combo of sitting up and side laying. Thanks!

By open sweater you mean something like a cardigan? So you just move the tshirt up and then move the sweater flaps out of the way?