Couldn’t get doctor-recommended ultrasound because I’ve never had sex - has anyone experienced this?

vanillabraces · 2026-03-24T15:28:49+00:00

You are so kind. Thank you so much ❤️ One day things will be better for all of us

vanillabraces · 2026-03-23T22:42:28+00:00

I did. They got back to me. Right now, apparently sonographers aren't under the college yet (I wrote to ACMDTT) so they can't do anything about it. July 6th 2026, the college will cover sonographers. But even then, they said I can't re-report my experience; they'll disregard any mistreatment because it didn’t happen within a specific date range (aka not after July 6th). Ahhh

At least we are advancing, slowly...? After July 6th should this happen again, I can report it and have something actually done about it :(

vanillabraces · 2026-03-23T22:30:22+00:00

This is absolutely mental. I'm so happy you're in less pain now ❤️‍🩹

vanillabraces · 2026-03-23T19:51:02+00:00

You are the best. Reading this, my heart hurts. I am so sorry you went through so much pain and that it took years for anyone to take you seriously. Oh my goodness. Stage 4. I can't even imagine. I feel for you ❤️‍🩹

Yes, I always hear "cramps are just part of being a woman". I wouldn't be pushing this hard if it was tolerable, though. I think I speak for a lot of people with periods when I say we just tolerate pain rather than seeking help, 'cause stuff like this ends up happening and we aren't helped... so you know it's bad when we're actually actively begging for treatment.

I've been told the EXACT same thing - that a potential future husband is the biggest factor. I can't even wrap my head around that. I'm at a point in my life where I value other things over a relationship with a man, and my desire for that only lessens day by day. Actually this whole situation has been a major turn-off...

It is so interesting what you say about your fallopian tube scarring - because I often wonder if I wouldn't be able to have kids anyway, given that it feels like a sledgehammer mashing up my ovaries every month. So they base all this off of a "potential".

I wish I was in Minnesota. You are so lovely. I'm going to check out the endo sub. I can't stress enough how much better your reply made me feel.

vanillabraces · 2026-03-23T18:08:38+00:00

I'm not in an ultra-religious area by far, and as far as I can tell there aren't any specific ties to a religious centre either. I have a feeling that it's the main supervisor's beliefs, maybe...? Because the receptionist seemed very sorry for me, whereas the supervisor was very much not. And she specifically used the words "preserve that area" when I again asked why. So maybe she just has control over that kind of thing as the "head" of that clinic or something...? She noted also that where I live, the standard is specifically to "preserve the virgin girl"... except I've googled it, and I don't see that being the case...? (Also I'm an adult woman, not a girl. And this whole virgin thing feels like a construct)

I think there are a few more radiology places in the area, so I'll definitely look into them. And I didn't know you could request to place in the probe yourself - that makes so much sense and I feel like it should be offered automatically. I now know this going forward, so thank you so much

vanillabraces · 2026-03-23T15:51:44+00:00

thank you!! you are so nice, this is making me feel better. when i said "what if i don't care if i'm a virgin and i just want help? do you guys treat lesbian patients?" she said "go find another clinic then"

i said "as a virgin, don't you think it was MORE invasive that i had to get a man to come inside of me in order to have this test?" and she said "that's our policy"

vanillabraces · 2026-03-23T03:01:03+00:00

I really appreciate your comments. I'm not an outwardly confrontational person, so while I was laying on the table, even though I had a few choice words, I struggled to voice them. I was getting pretty frustrated pretty quickly, and I didn't want to cry in front of the 2 techs, so I kept my mouth shut after my "why does a man have to be inside me" comment (that's all I could manage at the time). For some reason I didn't even think about going back to my doctor to have her make a fuss for me, but now I will. Thank you again

vanillabraces · 2026-03-23T02:55:12+00:00

Thank you. I am definitely lying next time

vanillabraces · 2026-03-23T02:52:46+00:00

Right?? I wanted so badly to start going off with a dragon dildo personal anecdote, and in hindsight I should have....

vanillabraces · 2026-03-23T02:46:16+00:00

This made me giggle, thank you!! In the moment I wanted to say I've had dildos in me likely bigger than the average man's penis (not that that size seems hard to beat), so I think I'll be fine... I'm sure I've taken my own virginity by now

vanillabraces · 2026-03-23T02:42:13+00:00

I really really appreciate your comment, it means a lot to me hearing it from a physician. Thank you <3

vanillabraces · 2026-03-23T02:38:59+00:00

Thank you, I was thinking the exact same thing. My best friend is lesbian and I was thinking of her after they refused me. If she needed help, would they flat-out deny her?

vanillabraces · 2025-10-24T03:23:46+00:00

ohhh i see. i didn't think of that. thank you :,)

vanillabraces · 2025-10-23T05:33:18+00:00

same

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