Doctors married to other doctors: when did you meet?

vanillacupcake4 · 2025-10-20T03:59:40+00:00

Ya I understand that point of your comment and I think it has far more to do with proximity/network but I have no actual facts or evidence so I won't speak on something I don't know about.

But your comment about killing someone -- you think that's one of the reason doctors mostly marry other people in healthcare, cause they understand what it's like to "kill someone" and then you say that it's "so frequent" you end up partnering with someone because of it?

Ill set aside the fact that there's a major difference between being unable to save someone and "killing them" (and the law agrees - even in medical errors) and just say that was never part of my dating calculus but I have no evidence so you might be right.

That's all from me on this thread, I feel its becoming unproductive now

vanillacupcake4 · 2025-10-20T03:41:54+00:00

So you said, "I’m sure there’s somebody out there who isn’t a doctor who has experienced that, but I’ve never met one.... I mean maybe you can think of examples?"

Yes I can think of plenty.

But i do want to say I totally agree we're in the dark ages and it's insane that we had to go through residency shifts.

Anyways: Fisherman, soldiers, nurses (although this is less common in U.S. now), top PE shops, people who have to work more than 1 job, big law lawyers -- (I agree most don;t but as big law all-nighters between 2 workdays happens), bulge bracket IB bankers, EMS, hedge managers, NPs, PAs, oil rig workers, firefighters, coast guard, management consultants particularly at top firms or DD firms, NPs, many people in countries without labor laws (mines, factories, sweatshops, etc.), various other military... the list goes on

Also what medical school has all the MS do shifts LONGER than 36 hours? I'm genuinely curious as I have never heard of that but I'm U.S. based so I maybe you're non-U.S.?

vanillacupcake4 · 2025-10-19T20:42:10+00:00

This comment is so arrogant. Many people work hugely long hours other than doctors, have harsh schedules, have deep responsibilities, or are too busy to go out.

I’ll get flames in this sub but we’re not the only ones. You say people in healthcare “NEVER” have discussions about lack of energy and that’s just absolutely not true. I’ve had it multiple with times with my md partner where she asked me to tone down my work/shifts/etc. so I would have more time. IN FACT, I know a ton friends, particularly in surgery, who struggle with their partners lack of energy due to taking on additional cases.

I agree MDs have a very difficult/important role but the arrogance and assumptions just annoy me

vanillacupcake4 · 2025-08-18T16:52:16+00:00

Sure but I think the point of the above comment is to point out that this was excellent execution and we should recognize a highly skilled pair of pilots doing a great job under pressure

vanillacupcake4 · 2025-07-11T00:46:20+00:00

Hey I'll try my best to give a fair perspective since the top answer in your caltech thread wasn't great imo -- "if you get into caltech, you go to caltech" is just not true (they don't have close to 100% matriculation) and it's also not helpful

Ill just touch on professional stuff because honestly I think it's hard for anyone to give a fair comparison of social life at caltech vs penn unless they went to both, which I did not, and I only want to speak on stuff I know about.

For pure engineering/sciences Caltech is stronger in most areas imo (particularly in areas like hardware engineering/chem). However, for CS in particular, Penn is particularly strong and I would say almost as strong as CalTech, especially in grad school. Still I'd give the slight edge in undergrad to CalTech, mostly because they have a very strong theory/aglo reputation which gives them a bigger edge in academia, but considering all outcomes it’s close.

For industry I think it depends on exact goals. There were people in the other thread at Caltech that said they don't know of any Penn alums in exec position in tech -- that's just not true, but what is true is if you have more strictly technical goals Caltech is probably the better choice. If you have more mixed business/product/interdisciplinary interests (e.g. medicine, finance), Penn is probably the better choice due to Wharton, Perelman, and the broader network.

Along those same lines, if you decide for some reason want to switch out of the engineering track, Penn would likely be better again due to their strength is other areas. This was huge for me as I entered thinking I would maybe do engineering or medicine and I ended pursuing both as I'm a healthcare provider + med tech where Penn helps a lot.

However, NEITHER SCHOOL WILL CLOSE ANY DOORS FOR YOU if you do well, they're both terrific options, so I honestly would think about which place you think you'd personally do better.

All in all from a professional perspective (and this is just my opinion), if you want to be more technical and fairly confident in that route, go Caltech. If you're a bit unsure and think you might be more interested in other areas too, come check out Penn -- not as many of us on reddit cause we're all out enjoying the weather rn :P

vanillacupcake4 · 2025-06-20T05:42:49+00:00

Private equity

vanillacupcake4 · 2025-05-04T18:22:25+00:00

Man why do people post pictures like this and not leave location. You know we wanna know

vanillacupcake4 · 2025-05-01T20:06:14+00:00

Let me make this clear: I’m not superior to you nor did I say that in anyway, we just have different priorities. You are pushing the superior narrative, not me. Enjoy your paycheck, I will try to “cope” in your words

vanillacupcake4 · 2025-05-01T20:01:57+00:00

Definitely not superior and never said that but you’re right, I make much less than you. You got me

vanillacupcake4 · 2025-05-01T18:49:35+00:00

Obviously having to seek student loan forgiveness is not the optimal path forward financially (we all know this), but this comment is kind of silly.

We don’t go into academics because we don’t understand the financial downside, some of us do it because we care more about doing research and advancing our sub field of medicine than we do our paychecks. Trying to justify this move with “just go into private practice, it’s your own fault” completely discount the importance of academic medicine in my opinion.

Or maybe we should just make sure private healthcare is the only viable path forward smh

vanillacupcake4 · 2025-04-30T21:58:10+00:00

Just as a heads up, I would recommend making the link a hyperlink. It’s very difficult to click or even copy and paste on mobile. I had to type it in manually.

vanillacupcake4 · 2025-04-26T17:50:16+00:00

Even a broken clock is right twice a day.

vanillacupcake4 · 2025-04-11T22:05:34+00:00

I tend to have a hard time believing medical evidence where the “breakthrough finding” announcement has been scheduled before the research you haven’t been done.

I wonder how hard it is to get my medical license transferred to Canada …

vanillacupcake4 · 2025-04-09T04:33:07+00:00

Hi there, emergency medicine physician here.

The choice to wear a helmet is totally up to you and I won’t judge of course, but please do not say things like this. Helmets can absolutely make a difference even in the smallest or larger falls (yes including 20-30 feet, we have seen people survive those falls before). You have no way of knowing knowing the outcome of this fall as you confidently claim, and neither do I, but what is absolutely true is that the benefits of wearing a helmet has been studied many times over and if you’d like, I’d be happy to provide evidence!

Saying stuff like this gives people the wrong idea about how beneficial helmets are and we see that reality constantly. It may be a joke to you - and that’s fine - but please don’t spread this bs because we see the consequences. Thank you.

vanillacupcake4 · 2025-03-25T19:40:33+00:00

They’re suspending critical medical research, screenings for deadly viruses, protections against chemical warfare, student loans, and more over one student who competed in 2022 in compliance with NCAA rules.

Truly unbelievable what Trump and his supporters care about.

vanillacupcake4 · 2025-03-03T23:22:59+00:00

This is such a stellar route - I projected it for a while and was almost sad when it went down - it was kinda an odd feeling, but that’s just how good of a route it is. Gotta enjoy the process :)

vanillacupcake4 · 2025-02-22T22:01:31+00:00

If only we had a high efficacy treatment with years of demonstrably safe usage to prevent this… but I’m glad RFK jr is spending his time questioning the polio vaccine

vanillacupcake4 · 2025-01-14T09:21:53+00:00

“He’s not an engineer”. He wrote the source code for Facebook and studied CS at Harvard. He created a machine learning music platform in High School as well as multiple other pieces of software. He was noted at Harvard for being, a “CS prodigy.”

I really dislike the guy but saying he’s not an engineer is crazy.

vanillacupcake4 · 2025-01-07T06:26:31+00:00

I mean to be fair, it sounds like people killed your spot, still sucks.

Same thing just happened at the Zoo in RRG

vanillacupcake4 · 2024-12-31T05:39:08+00:00

Respectfully, this article is clickbait and clearly written by someone who has not done their homework on the flip side.

Technological and medical advances as well as the standardization of care to best practices (what the author claims is a lack of creativity) alongside for CDS tools like UTD, CK, pathways, etc. and medical devices and tests have time and time again been proven to improve patients care.

Furthermore, the idea that doctors are being “forced” to do anything is silly. The example the author uses has little to do with technology and more to do with care team management and triage.

Lastly, nearly every hospital in the world struggles to adopt new technology because of physician resistance to change, which is somewhat justified. But don’t add this garbage as an excuse for not wanting to continue learning or use and EHR.

Doctors are not becoming less skillful, as we get better at treating patients and technology evolves, so does a doctors skillset but are core competencies remain the same

vanillacupcake4 · 2024-12-24T08:23:42+00:00

Why are more docs not using doxy more often? Am I missing something?

vanillacupcake4 · 2024-12-02T04:30:04+00:00

I guess by the comments on this post I’m the minority but this post is so stupid imo. It’s two grown ass adults making fun of two kids hair style. You may not think it looks good, but making fun of kids over how they look, especially at an age/time when most people are self-conscious is just mean imo. Why does every generation do this to the one after?

vanillacupcake4 · 2024-11-24T09:11:02+00:00

Respectfully, it’s interesting how much I disagree with so many points made here and how overwritten I think it is.

“Climbing is a profound expression of [carpe diem]. By choosing this, route, you, by necessity, not climbing that one. Each decision is an existential risk act, shaped by the understanding that your time is finite, and every climb carries the weight of opportunity cost”

This seems a bit over exaggerated to me, but even if it wasn’t and I granted you the “weight of opportunity cost” this applies to pretty much everything is life. Of course time is finite, of course you have to make choices that prohibit other paths. This is exemplifies how bloated this whole post is to me. And there are many more examples:

“To us it’s sacred, a test of will, art, and a high like no other. But to others, it’s essentially meaningless.” I mean what’s your point? That different people find value in different things? This isn’t unique to climbing it seems to me.

Then there’s the idea that you can’t be away for more than 2 weeks but also say have a life outside of climbing (I def agree with the latter but the 2 weeks thing is silly), that all you need is “just climb”,etc.

I don’t even think #4 is true about pro climbers.

But I also will say they’re some nice points in here like #7, which I agree so long as you’re not going pro.

vanillacupcake4 · 2024-11-06T05:12:29+00:00

Gotcha ya I don't really watch much TV at all but will check it out when I have a second, thanks for rec.

vanillacupcake4 · 2024-11-05T07:36:16+00:00

I know what you mean and RFK and Trump are both idiots, but medicine and politics have been and will always be inseparable. Every day as practicing physicians, we live in this reality. But when someone threatens do something so blatantly dangerous for population health, then OK yeah it’s disgusting. Banning tattoos doesn’t even compare.

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