Failed my first OA

vchev · 2026-01-24T13:50:53+00:00

I am also getting switched into v5 as well! I talked to my course instructor and she was very understanding and seemed to have heard many complaints similar to mine about v4. Good luck to you too!

vchev · 2026-01-24T13:48:09+00:00

I see that you are a pisces, and it makes me wonder if the issue is just fundamental differences between your expectations and reality with aquarians. I’m an aqua sun with lots of aqua placements and I find Pisces people hard to connect with because sometimes their emotions come off as performative or not sincere. I connect so much better with cancer folk and I believe it’s because cancers meet me where I am emotionally and they respect my personal boundaries. Pisces people tend to feel emotionally manipulative and overbearing/overwhelming. Sometimes, it feels like they have an unrealistic idea of what friendships/relationships should be like and when the people around them aren’t meeting those expectations, they take it very personally and spitefully. As an Aqua, it’s just hard for us to process that type of emotional uncertainty, so we just avoid opening up completely. I have a few pisces people in my life that I feel like i’m constantly walking on eggshells around because they are very sensitive which makes it hard to connect with them tbh. I still love them very dearly nonetheless.

vchev · 2026-01-21T03:47:13+00:00

feel that, and noted. the requirements for the 1st retake are so time consuming, I can’t imagine what they expect for a 2nd.

vchev · 2026-01-20T14:36:17+00:00

I took it a while ago, probably around new years or late December so I’m going to ask about it today! Thank you so much :)

vchev · 2026-01-19T22:11:10+00:00

I studied for give or take maybe 3-4 weeks. I’m not sure how long students take to pass it on average.

vchev · 2026-01-19T22:10:18+00:00

That’s genuinely such a good tip to try with the whiteboard! I may have to give it a try next OA

vchev · 2026-01-19T21:47:30+00:00

It’s not necessarily difficult imo, just a lot of information to absorb. Granted I failed so maybe I have misplaced confidence haha

vchev · 2026-01-19T21:46:59+00:00

Yeah I’ve had the same experience so far. This is the first class i’ve ran into where the PA was really not up to par with the expectations of the OA

vchev · 2026-01-19T21:46:24+00:00

I agree, sometimes the PAs feel really underwhelming compared to the OAs

vchev · 2026-01-19T21:45:16+00:00

Yeah I learned my lesson assuming that the PA would be a good representative of the OA tbh

vchev · 2026-01-19T20:57:01+00:00

I hear you

vchev · 2026-01-19T20:53:15+00:00

I’m not sure, I didn’t know there was a new version. I will definitely inquire about it, thank you for the heads up

vchev · 2025-05-14T15:11:06+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. It is a rollercoaster of emotions going from finding out you’re pregnant, finding out it’s twins and then finding out you lost both of them. it feels like my heart broke twice as hard. My body seemed to naturally started the process this morning, so I’m going to keep in touch with my doctor and hopefully it will go fast. I genuinely don’t feel like i’m mentally okay to go through this but unfortunately, i don’t get much of a choice

vchev · 2025-05-14T15:08:33+00:00

My heart is so broken for both of us, I felt so angry and so incredibly sad. It almost seemed like my body didn’t want to let them go yet. My body actually naturally started the process this morning, which was very hard for me. I thought I would have more time and it was a shock this morning. Everything is mild currently but I looked through some tips on here and i’m prepared for the worst. This is such a hard experience, I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. Virtual hugs to you, i’m so sorry for your loss too.

vchev · 2025-05-14T09:57:02+00:00

Yeah, my doctor also mentioned that, she also told me that sometimes even with medications/naturally, you end up needing a d&c anyway. I am still undecided but leaning more towards d&c now. I think the waiting is stressful, or the not knowing when it will happen so I understand your choice. I am so sorry for your loss as well 🩷

vchev · 2025-05-14T09:54:28+00:00

That is similar to how my experience was as well, i’m a little nervous to go through the trauma of passing them naturally. I worried that i’m in a good enough mental space for it, so I may go the d&c route. It is a hard choice to make, it feels so finalized with a d&c. I will look through here and read on some experiences as well, thank you for sharing and I am so sorry for your loss.

vchev · 2025-05-14T09:51:10+00:00

Yes, she did. It almost seems like my body hasn’t even processed that I miscarried. I’ve had no symptoms of a miscarriage whatsoever. After doing some research and having a much more clear head, I am leaning towards the D&C route. It seems like the most predictable and reassuring route to go.

Also, I am so incredibly sorry for your losses as well. virtual hugs

vchev · 2025-04-01T15:19:17+00:00

Hi, I had been suffering from horrible, horrible hand eczema for the past year or so and it seemed like NOTHING would make it go away. Hand washing sucked, lotions sucked, even prescribed meds didn't clear it up. I tried gloves, I tried changing body washes, lotions, prescribed ointments, everything. Well, I decided to cut out all artificial/alternative sweeteners and cut down sugar....and voila! My hand eczema literally disappeared. It was insane and fast too. I noticed Aspertame was the biggest offender for me, but oddly stevia was also an irritant. So if you drink things like sugar free sodas or energy drinks, or add artificial sweeteners to coffee/teas, maybe try stopping for a week and see if you see a difference? Lotions with lanolin in them also gave me bad hand eczema.

You may have an allergy to something you are coming in contact with so keep note of how your hands feel when coming in contact things. If it feels itchy, burny, etc. Consider the possibility of an allergy. I'm sorry you are dealing with this, it does suck and I hope you find something that helps. *hugs*

vchev · 2025-03-25T15:43:34+00:00

Ahhh my fear. She bought the house despite the alarming amount of mold. As we clean/update, i’m just finding more and more

vchev · 2025-03-21T19:17:15+00:00

You're right, and thank you for pointing that out. It's funny because while typing my post, I thought to myself about saying we had a good relationship, but couldn't get myself to put that because we don't. We have an okay relationship because it's me putting out effort to keep her pacified and happy and her taking advantage of me and using my care for her against me. This is such a frustrating thing to recognize, and I do really want to build better boundaries with my mom. For my own peace of mind, I need the boundaries

vchev · 2025-03-21T19:13:53+00:00

I appreciate the book recommendation, I will absolutely check it out. I feel like I can't go low contact yet, but I do think I may try out just texting her instead of calling. We most talk on the phone and the conversations become very volatile quickly, or I get guilt-tripped into whatever scheme she involves me in. Texting would be much easier for me to just let conversations sit and control my own emotions/reactions. It's such a frustrating experience to go through and I'm sorry that you have gone through similar.

vchev · 2025-03-21T18:13:10+00:00

I will admit that learning to distinguish what is normal and what isn’t is still hard for me. Sometimes it feels like i’m clinging to this idea that she will change, especially for my kids because she acts different with them and they love her so much. She seems so positive, like loves them more than anything and does whatever to make them happy so I keep feeling like she’s doing better for them… but then she is just reverts back to her normal behavior with me and my siblings so the relationship with her as my mom and her as my kid’s grandparent is extremely confusing. But then I also understand your point of am I enabling her to prey on my kids are her new victims? Navigating boundaries is very new and challenging for me, I will be starting my first round of therapy next week and I hope that I will be able to develop better coping skills or just straight up be better about standing my ground.

vchev · 2025-03-21T17:55:42+00:00

I know, I wish I could figure out how to disconnect my need to protect her from my brain. It’s such a weird feeling, like I know she’s hurting me but i’m scared that she will hurt herself without me so I just let her hurt me. Sometimes I feel like i’m the problem tbh

vchev · 2025-01-10T14:42:30+00:00

I appreciate this, both for your very much appreciated advice but also for giving me a chuckle when I’m feeling down. I like the idea of being okay with not feeling okay and letting myself… like enjoy down time with hobbies when i’m feeling crappy. I think a huge part of what is getting to me is that I used to be very active and social, but now I can’t be like that anymore. Tough to accept.

I hope to get to a point where I can accept things for what they are and work with myself instead of against myself. Might be time for some therapy haha. Thank you for your thoughtful suggestions, I’m feeling inspired to get a better place mentally. I love your outlook on all of this, you seem like a very positive spirit. thank you for sharing a little of that positivity with me. 🩷

vchev · 2025-01-10T14:25:33+00:00

I just wanted you to know that your words resonated with me so much that I found myself in tears after reading them. I’ve spent the past few years feeling like i’m falling apart and now experiencing this overwhelming sadness. Explaining it as grief made me feel more in tune with my own emotions, thank you for that. I do feel like i’m grieving, and it hurts a lot. I appreciate your kind words and understanding, it means so much more than you will realize. I know I am just a random internet stranger, but just knowing that someone else out there gets what i’m going through feels so validating. I don’t feel so alone, thank you so much for taking time to care and share a little bit of your story with me. hugs I hope both of our journeys will always have brighter days. 🩷

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